My Journey

[realgirl]

Ok I have a thread called Halloween because that is when it all started but the thread started turning into an argument so I stopped posting...

On Halloween I dressed like a complete slut as us girls ought to. I knew I would get a lot of attention and I was excited. I made it a point to not be around Chris (my BF). I ended up talking to a guy and becoming his beer pong partner and got in a game against my BF. We were winning but in order to win by more I let the my partner feel me up. Which not only showed almost every one my tits but also made Chris miss his shot. I asked Chris if he liked it he said I don't know.

Then I started implementing hand job training to Chris. I would ask him questions like if he enjoyed seeing guys check me out he ended up saying yes to just about everything. I got Chris to buy me sexy clothes and we would walk around letting guys check me out.

I had never swallowed for Chris so I offered a trade where if I swallowed then I wanted him to start swallowing his own cum too. Which he now does fairly often while I have only done it once. I also started queening him..

One night at a party I made out with my friend Jessica in front of a bunch of guys. She ended up lifting my shirt multiple times.. something I asked her to do before and ;-). Chris tried to join in and I slapped him. This whole time I was talking to both the guy that felt me up and one of Chris' friends about fucking them. I had set up 2 three ways one with Jessica and Chris and one of Chris' friend and Chris. But ended up canceling them because I got confused with what I wanted.
Chris has now admitted to me that he wants me to be dominate over him in the bedroom but haven't really acted on it yet.

This Is my journey and I'm sure I left a ton out but this is the summery of it all. Feel free to comment if you like. Please no judging or drama this is a porn site not a sowing circle.
Sorry for spelling errors
The pictures are one of me in my Halloween costume and some fun ones.

 

[Susan's Slave]

It sounds as if you are happy and that Chris is also happy, if somewhat reluctant to admit it. As the dominant one you call the shots but to be successful you need to have good communication with Chris regarding his tolerance at any given point. Best of luck to you both and love the pics!

 

[mystTiger]

i love reading your posts realgirl... it is great to see people like you on the site... and i love to follow these early stages of a cuckold relationship as it all unfolds... your boyfriend is a very lucky guy... i wish you all the best with you endeavours!

 

[Give-her-to-me]

Sure, sure. Every cuck relationship just goes directly from the fem being felt up and checked out to having the bf swallow his own cum. Sure, it's just a logical progression - a mandatory next step, if you will. And it's always the woman's idea for him to swallow it. We all know it is every woman's fantasy to have her s.o. swallow his own cum - gets every girl hot. It's not simply a turn-on for masochistic men, no, not at all.

In other words, puh-leeeeeeze!

 

[Warpt]

We started off with me wanting to watch her with another guy and she wanted 2 dicks at a time.
So we put an ad for a man for a threesome. Turned into cuckold relationship. Now I watch her sucking and fucking.
We did discuss a lot before hand. Makes for a better fantasy turned reality.
Not much surprise in our dates, but it is fun...

 

[lgb]

Ms Realgirl,
Lovely pictures, many Thanks. I threw some ideas into the other thread, I hope You saw them. The best advice that I can think of would be to go as fast or slow as is comfortable for YOU. Enjoy YOURSELF. Mostly I ask that You continue posting Your adventures here so that I and others like myself can get the vicarious thrill from them. I know that I've enjoyed reading about what You've done so far. Ignore the haters. In life, anything you do, anywhere you go, somebody is going to stand up and start telling you that you're doing it wrong. Screw them, it's Your life, live it like You want to.
Lgb

 

[skiermodx]

I am liked your Halloween thread. It's funny how us freaks can be so sure that OUR brand of freaky is the RIGHT flavor of freaky. Oh, well. Good on you for being present and getting what you want. Cucking is a bell you can't un-ring, so you have to make it hot and workable for everyone.

Look forward to hearing more about your journey.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Sounds like you're on your way...

Hi Ms. Realgirl,

Good to see you're continuing with a new thread, and thanks for including your pics plus a new one. No. 3 is especially good... very hot.

... my thread ("Halloween") started turning into an argument, so I stopped posting.

Boys will be boys...

On Halloween I dressed like a complete slut as us girls ought to.

Yes, certainly... you're right, of course. That was a sizzling-hot outfit.

I knew I would get a lot of attention and I was excited. I made it a point to not be around Chris (my BF). I ended up talking to a guy and becoming his beer pong partner and got in a game against my BF. We were winning, but in order to win by more I let my partner feel me up.

A brilliant strategy...

Which not only showed almost every one my tits but also made Chris miss his shot. ....

Two for the price of one...

Then I started implementing hand job training of Chris. I would ask him questions like if he enjoyed seeing guys check me out. He ended up saying "yes" to just about everything. I got Chris to buy me sexy clothes, and we would walk around letting guys check me out.

It sounds like your hand-job training of Chris has been unambiguously successful so far...

I had never swallowed for Chris so I offered a trade where, if I swallowed, then I wanted him to start swallowing his own cum too. He now does that fairly often, while I have only done it once.

So far, so good... using your "female superior" hand-job position combined with suggestive conversation to extract a commitment from Chris to swallow his own cum (instead of you doing that) was a good advance.

I also started queening him.

Queening Chris was an important step in causing him to feel and acknowledge, in a real physical sense, that you had "taken the reins" in the bedroom. To reinforce your lead role it will be important, IMO, to continue queening him regularly.

Another important step was ordering Chris to take off his clothes and submit to a fairly severe over-your-knees (OTK) spanking, in the nude (you clothed), with his own belt, to punish him for failing to follow your instructions during sex. That is, he boorishly came first then stopped and left and took a shower, thus leaving you high and dry with no orgasm. Chris getting an erection in spite of himself during your spanking was an important discovery for both of you. Now that you know being his disciplinarian turns him on and motivates him, I suggest spanking him regularly... although not TOO often... say, once a week for a couple of months or so until his behavior improves then, perhaps, once every two weeks, with severity proportional to his misbehavior (or more often if warranted, with time and place to be determined by you).

One night at a party I made out with my friend Jessica in front of a bunch of guys. She ended up lifting my shirt multiple times, which I asked her to do before the party ;-).

Nice...

When Chris tried to join in, I slapped him.

Thereby demonstrating your dominance in your relationship with him in front of others. VERY good. And, good for Chris as well for accepting that it was right and proper for you to have done that.

This whole time, I was talking to both the guy who felt me up (at the Halloween party) and one of Chris' friends about fucking them.

Outstanding, Ms. Realgirl... openly talking with not one but two other men about fucking them, all in front of your regular boyfriend Chris. Also, thinking and talking in terms of you fucking them (as opposed to them fucking you) was proper and appropriate.

I had set up 2 three-ways, one with Jessica and Chris and one with Chris' friend and Chris. But, I ended up canceling them because I got confused with what I wanted.

Having moved Chris forward, so to speak, to his present acceptance of you being the lead partner in your relationship, I suggest informing him you've given "3-ways" some thought and have decided these will consist of 2 men — him and one other — not 2 women and one man, because "you want to see how that works out." You need offer no other explanation. If he protests, "Then we can have a 3-way with me, you and another woman...?" I suggest saying something like, "You heard me, sweetheart." (In other words, "No"... but, of course, sometime in the future you can always change your mind if you wish.)

Chris has now admitted to me that he wants me to be dominate over him in the bedroom, but haven't really acted on it yet.

Having "******" Chris to eat his own cum, accept being queened by you, accept a disciplinary spanking and being slapped by you in front of your and his friends, and confess he wants you to "domme" him in the bedroom, I would say it's important to not stop at this point. If you now start acting hesitant and like you want Chris to take the lead in the bedroom, most likely he will be confused and disappointed and wonder whether his admission that he wants to be sexually submissive to you was "one step too far," such that its real effect was to turn you off.

This Is my journey and I'm sure I left a ton out, but this is my summery of it all. Feel free to comment if you like.

At or near the end of your "Halloween" thread, you said you had cancelled your planned 3-ways because you thought you should slow down... you weren't sure how to proceed. Today I noticed an apparently-new site has appeared:

Female Led Relationships, Wife Led Relationships, Girlfriend Led Relationships - AboutFLR.com

that's "about" female-led relationships (FLRs)... how to determine whether you and your man are good candidates for one, the different levels of FLRs, how to go about establishing one in a structured way that makes sense, etc. You might take a look at it... perhaps you and Chris will find it helpful...

Please, no judging or drama... this is a porn site, not a sowing circle.

Very good instructions to the choir. The male traditionalists and sexual moralists are hard to discourage, though. "In their hearts they know they're right."

Sorry for the spelling errors.

What spelling errors? I didn't find any.

—Custer

 

[Susan's Slave]

Well, it didn't take long for the haters to find your new post. No worries! What you have done does not take years of experience, it takes an intuitive woman who knows what she wants and a man who knows he wants to be led. In your case the man is a little worried about his need to appear masculine, but still putty in your hands.

Give-Her-To-Me just needs some time on the forum, and in life, to observe all the wonderful flavors of the sexual dance. He has admitted in his own posts that he is new to the game and a bit unsure of where he fits, so I would not let his doubt bother you in the least.

 

[lsd_23]

hi, just wanted to say i'd been reading with great interest your other thread and am glad you are still keeping us updated, love the pics you really are stunning,

all the best

xx

 

[realgirl]

Ive been crazy busy lately..
I asked chris if he was sure he wanted me to be dominant in the bedroom and that once I am its a done deal no going back.. He replied with a quick ok.
The only problem is Im new at this whole thing so far the only rule I have is the he has to swallow his cum every time. He asked If I would ever do it for him again I said that depends on his behavior ;-).

 

[Susan's Slave]

Don't worry, as I said earlier you seem to have good instincts. There are plenty of posts on this forum to give you ideas and Custer is an encyclopedia of links that can help. Take it slow and keep reporting on your progress please.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Hi Ms. Realgirl,

I've been crazy busy lately...

It happens...

I asked chris if he was sure he wanted me to be dominant in the bedroom, because once I am it will be a done deal... no going back. He replied with a quick "ok."

You gave Chris the right condition and he said, "Yes." You have a green light and you're on your way, Ms. Realgirl...

The only problem is, I'm new at this whole thing. So far, the only rule I have is that he has to swallow his cum every time. When he asked if I will ever do that for him again, I said that will depend on his behavior. ;-)

You seem reasonably assertive and imaginative, so I think this will work out OK for you. (It occurs to me your reply, "It depends...", may have been too generous. But, hey... you're a woman. In the future, it will be your prerogative to change your mind if you wish...)

BTW, I posted a suggestion in your "I'm new" thread in the General Cuckoldry section.

—Custer

 

[realgirl]

So I got a fun idea this morning, I decided to make a punishment box for when he needs it. In the box I put various punishments that he has to draw from. Bare Bottom spanking, Ice Cube fun, no cumming for a week and women underwear are the only options I have so far hehe. I also told him that since the dildo was too small he had to draw one he got bare bottom spanking. Oh did I have fun ;-)

 

[Custer Laststand]

So, I had a fun idea this morning. I decided to make a punishment box for when Chris needs it. In the box I put various punishments that he has to draw from: a bare-bottom spanking; ice cube fun; no cumming for a week; and women's underwear are his options so far. Hehe...

That's very creative. I'll await a later description of Chris's "ice cube fun" option...

I also told him that since [his Christmas-present-for-me] dildo was too small, he had to draw a punishment. He drew a bare bottom spanking. Oh, did I have fun... ;-)

Excellent! That was a very good way to express your displeasure with Chris's interpretation of what you meant when you said you wanted "a BIG dildo."

Did you inform him you now expect him to rectify this problem...?

 

[greymaster]

So I got a fun idea this morning, I decided to make a punishment box for when he needs it. In the box I put various punishments that he has to draw from.

Only 4 options? They'll get predictable very quickly, but you could have added more since you typed your message.

Pegs on nipples (progress to clamps at some point) / bound balls (under clothing while dressed, or as a leash to take him for a walk round the house.... or garden?) / butt-plug. These are all 'body-part' based punishments, so when he draws an option he doesn't know what part of his body is going to pay the price.

As you add more, I'd love to hear about them

 

[realgirl]

Yeah I know its only four so far trying to come up with more I like the woman's clothing idea...

 

[realgirl]

I asked me If I had any rule for him so he could know what to follow. I told him I will let him know when he steps out of line. I told him to go get a better toy and if he doesn't pick the right size there will be hell to pay, I might even use it on him if Im unhappy. He asked what I wanted I told him to figure it out. I added one more to the box "public embarrassment".

 

[cuckdagn]

Hes Loving it

HA HA HE can't enough huh?

 

[realgirl]

Im not sure what you were meaning to say cuckdagn