A strategy for getting you there....
Hi woman half of Funcouple76801—
Your photos don't show anything above the shoulders but you appear to be a very attractive woman.... you look fit and healthy. Successfully cuckolding your husband, in any case, will be less a matter of the details of your physical appearance, and more a matter of conveying the message to the men you want that you are sexual and you want them. That is, you don't have to look like a supermodel to become a successful cuckoldress (although if you do, that probably won't work against you).
Looking for lovers among couples who are your friends and/or the people you work with has some undesirable downsides I imagine you are aware of. This may be accounting, at least in part, for your fearfulness about approaching men for sex. Not being very outgoing by nature (being somewhat shy) and fearing rejection may be another problem. If so, there's nothing unusual about that — lots of people are like that. On the plus side, if you live in a relatively large city or town in Texas, the number of potential lovers available to you is quite large.... especially if they realize you are a married woman so no commitment on their part is implied.
Your problem is to coax your potential lovers to step out of the woods, as it were, so you can see them and select one or more that you like.
To accomplish this I suggest advertising, in a way that will protect your anonymity.
1. Set up an anonymous e-mail address on (for instance) hotmail or yahoo. (When you do this, they will ask you for your alternative address but don't give them your "real" address. Rather, give them a fake e-mail address that looks plausible.)
2. Write a suitable self-description indicating you're a married woman looking for lovers, including (of course) the general area you live in and anything else you consider relevant, and put it on Adult Friend Finder (which probably has a larger clientele than this forem), and/or on this forum (which you have already done, in effect). Ask that responses be sent to your anonymous e-mail address. Indicate that if they don't receive a reply from you within (2 days? 3 days? 1 week?), that most likely means you decided — for reasons related to the nature of their e-mail, probably — you are not interested.
3. Evaluate the responses you get over some suitable time period (not too long) and decide which ones you may seriously be interested in. If you can make it at least (say) 3 or 4, maybe 5, you won't be putting all your eggs in one basket. Contact them and ask each of them to send you a photo. Fully clothed should be fine at this point. Presumably they will expect the same from you, so send them your photo (with nothing that permits identifying you).
4. Decide which ones you are still interested in and make arrangements (by e-mail) for *you* to call *them* (not the reverse). Set your phone for "block caller-id" so they can't identify your phone number easily, and tell them they'll have to set their phones to accept your call on that basis.
5. Call each potential lover and spend some time talking with him. Make judgements as to whether you are still interested based on how they come across verbally. The phone conversations are important, so I recommend not skipping this step.
6. After you've talked to all of them and whittled them down (probably) to a "shorter short list," make arrangements to meet them, one at a time, at a neutral location — say, in a restaurant for lunch. Since your husband is "on board" with all this, I would suggest he accompany you. If you or your potential lover don't want that, I suggest your husband be "somewhere" nearby where he can see the two of you as you talk during lunch (he could have lunch by himself, for instance, at a different table). For your own safety, I strongly recommend making sure your husband is nearby, if not with you, when you meet potential lovers you've found via the Internet.
7. This procedure (e-mail -> e-mailed photos -> phone conversations -> lunch dates) should enable you to decide (I would hope) on one or more candidates you like well enough to take to bed. You could then call the one you're most interested in back, and make arrangements to meet him at a motel or hotel (or ask him if he would like to make a "hotel trip" during your lunch date). If your husband makes the room reservation, he can obtain two keys so he has one himself and you have the other. He can then be somewhere nearby — within easy cell-phone reach, so to speak — when you meet your lover in the room. This means, obviously, you or your husband would have to pay for the room for your first tryst, but I suggest that would be a good thing to do for reasons of safety.
8. If it does not go too well and you decide you don't want to see your "first candidate" again, you and he can separate and he will not know where you live — which is desirable, because you don't want to risk unwanted visits from him in the future. You can then move on to your next candidate.
9. If it does go well and you decide you want to continue your relationship with him, you can exchange more information about each other — and you and your husband can, perhaps, invite him to your home to become better acquainted.
Sorry about the length of this post, but I suggest this strategy would have potential for finding lovers in a way that is likely to maintain a reasonable level of safety for you, while avoiding letting your and your husband's friends and co-workers know you are "stepping up and moving out" as a cuckoldress.
Best wishes to both of you—
Custer
