my wife talking about her ex again, about hooking

[cdlola]

i posted several other posts describing my situation with my wife , she talks about her ex like he was a god, and to her he probally was he was about 7 feet tall and had an 11 or 12 inch cock that was as thick as a soda can from how she described him
she had not mentioned him until today ,we were watching jerry springer i think or maury povich and it came up that the guy asked his girl to ********** for him, i asked her jokingly "did any guy ever ask u to ****** for him?" figuring she would laugh and say no ,she answered "no............well thats not completely true (her ex bf's name) had said to me once or twice that id make alot of money as a ********** if i ever wanted to, that im perfect for it that guys would go crazy for me the way i am" she said this with a big grin on her face
i then asked her what did he mean by that and she grinned and said i dont know then looked away
she had told me that she had only fooled around with her ex and gave him handjobs and gotten fingered and made out and got felt up by him but nothing more, but why does she get that wild look every time she talks about him?

 

[Custer Laststand]

Cdlola,

My wife talks about her "ex" like he was a god, and to her he probably was. He's about 7 feet tall and has an 11 or 12 inch cock that's as thick as a soda can, from her descriptions of him.

Whew! I've read many descriptions of wives vis-a-vis their "ex's" on this forum, but I'm pretty sure this is the first "ex" described as 7 ft. tall AND with an 11 inch-plus cock as thick as a soda can. Is it possible his height, cock size and god-like stature have been continuously growing in your wife's mind ever since they split?

My wife had not mentioned him until today.

Hey, c'mon. I'm quite sure you told us early-on in your first thread about your wife telling you in bed about her "ex." This, as I recall, was the origin of your concern about her being attracted to black men (which, it now seems obvious, she is).

We were watching jerry springer i think or maury povich and it came up that the guy asked his girl to ********** for him.

Jeez... TV has changed a lot since the days when I watched it with any regularity. That would have been when I was a kid. So, I'll have to take your word for that.

I asked her jokingly, "Did any guy ever ask you to hook for him?" figuring she would laugh and say "no."

When you ask people questions, it's good to be prepared for the possibility they may actually tell you the truth.

She said, "No... well, that's not completely true. "Ex" said to me once or twice I'd make a lot of money as a ********** if I ever wanted to; I'm perfect for it; guys would go crazy for me the way I am." She said this with a big grin on her face.

So, your wife was complimented... heavily complimented... by being told men would pay money to have sex with her, because of her physical appearance and personality (it sounds like).

I then asked my wife, "What did your 'ex' mean by that?" She grinned and said, "I dont know," then looked away.

Obviously, she knows what he meant.

She told me previously she only fooled around with her "ex," and gave him hand jobs, and he fingered her and made out with her, and she was felt up by him, but nothing more.

No, no... of course not. (Joke. Laugh here.)

You can assume if your wife and her "ex" did all those things, they also fucked — almost certainly many times, over a more-or-less extended time period. I mean, suppose they didn't. Then, how would your wife know the dimensions of her "ex's" erect cock? Do you think he took down his pants, showed her his huge stiff cock, then — after she said "Oh, my... why, that's 11 or 12 inches long and as thick as a soda can" — pulled his pants back up, somehow tucked it back in (not an easy feat, one imagines), and took her home so her virginity would be preserved?

But, why does she get that wild look every time she talks about him?

Because she remembers well what her ex felt like inside her and the intense orgasms she experienced, perhaps many orgasms, every time they fucked.

Have you asked your wife why she and her "ex" separated? If not, you might consider posing this question... then, if she tries to deflect it, probe gently in an attempt to get the answer.

—Custer

 

[cdlola]

thanks custer

when i said she had not mentioned him until today , i meant that she didnt mention him again since she told me the story of how they used to fool around sorry about the confusion on that

about her having sex with him, she always told me that she only had sex with 1 guy before she met me and that it wasent him ,she told me it was with her other ex who is white and she said he had an average sized cock, i dont know why she would have lied to me all these years, then again she never told me about all the black guys she fooled around with(if thats all she did) im just so confused ,i dont mind if she did sleep with all of them , i think im more annoyed that she lied about it(if she did) i havent let her know its on my mind though ,ive still been doing anything she asks me to do even though shes been hot and cold still ,the next time we have sex im gonna try to get her to watch the interracial porn again and see if any thing comes up and maybe ill see if i can slip in a question or 2

 

[Cucktail]

Have you asked your wife why she and her "ex" separated? If not, you might consider posing this question... then, if she tries to deflect it, probe gently in an attempt to get the answer.

—Custer

I think he should be asking "IF they seperated" ....

 

[Son of John]

Many women are obsessed with the guy who was their primary sex partner during their young years, and in many cases, that guy was a husband, now EX-husband.

Any guy who married a divorced woman and doesn't realize that she will be thinking about fucking with him, even when she is fucking with you, is being unrealistic. The trick is to make it work for YOU.

When you are fucking her, talk about him, and let her know that you are not threatened by whatever kind of sex they enjoyed together. Let her know that you are glad that she had such sexual pleasure and that she has such great memories now.

If there is a possibility that she could meet with him, and fuck with him, encourage it. The ultimate, of course, would be to be there and watch him fuck her, but that may be stretching it a bit.

I have talked with my wife about fucking with her ex, and I have talked with him about fucking her. They HAVE fucked since she and I got married, but never when I was there to watch. It is now my greatest wish; to watch my wife's ex-husband fuck her!!

 

[cdlola]

Many women are obsessed with the guy who was their primary sex partner during their young years, and in many cases, that guy was a husband, now EX-husband.

Any guy who married a divorced woman and doesn't realize that she will be thinking about fucking with him, even when she is fucking with you, is being unrealistic. The trick is to make it work for YOU.

When you are fucking her, talk about him, and let her know that you are not threatened by whatever kind of sex they enjoyed together. Let her know that you are glad that she had such sexual pleasure and that she has such great memories now.

If there is a possibility that she could meet with him, and fuck with him, encourage it. The ultimate, of course, would be to be there and watch him fuck her, but that may be stretching it a bit.

I have talked with my wife about fucking with her ex, and I have talked with him about fucking her. They HAVE fucked since she and I got married, but never when I was there to watch. It is now my greatest wish; to watch my wife's ex-husband fuck her!!

when this all happened she wasent married i am her first husband and she was 16 at the time and the guy was about her age i think a year or 2 older than her, there isnt much chance of them meeting up as we dont live that close anymore to where he lives except when she goes back once or twice a year to visit her family

 

[Saraha]

The trick is to get your wife to talk freely about her sex life past experiences; and she recalls those experiences, mind pictures will be replayed and she will become wet between her thighs automatically.

The more you encourage her, the more often those mind pictures play, and this will make her a hotter wife (and more likely to be very horny) when "you get your share".

She will want to have sex with you more often because she knows you enjoy her stories and your cock twitches harder. She will also note that you don't get jealous of what those guys did to her (actually you should be grateful they trained her mind to get horny....and you are reaping the benefits).

 

[cdlola]

The trick is to get your wife to talk freely about her sex life past experiences; and she recalls those experiences, mind pictures will be replayed and she will become wet between her thighs automatically.

The more you encourage her, the more often those mind pictures play, and this will make her a hotter wife (and more likely to be very horny) when "you get your share".

She will want to have sex with you more often because she knows you enjoy her stories and your cock twitches harder. She will also note that you don't get jealous of what those guys did to her (actually you should be grateful they trained her mind to get horny....and you are reaping the benefits).

she keeps telling me that she never slept with him when i ask,i wish she would tell me if she did , how could i ask her tht she will tell me the truth?

 

[Saraha]

Be patient, and eventually she will tell you everything (but just not yet). She must feel confident that she can date other men and you won't mind (one little bit), then she can tell you the truth knowing you will feel pleased for her, and will not be jealous or spark up with anger and rush off to legal help to end the marriage.

If a marriage is rock solid and a hubby takes his "for better or for worse" vows seriously -I mean he intends to never seek a divorce no matter how rough things get, then a wife can open up and share her secrets and sexual fantasies. She can talk about what other wives get up to behind their husbands' backs; and can admit she would like to dabble also to satisfy her curiosity.

 

[mimi27406]

Be patient, and eventually she will tell you everything (but just not yet). She must feel confident that she can date other men and you won't mind (one little bit), then she can tell you the truth knowing you will feel pleased for her, and will not be jealous or spark up with anger and rush off to legal help to end the marriage.

If a marriage is rock solid and a hubby takes his "for better or for worse" vows seriously -I mean he intends to never seek a divorce no matter how rough things get, then a wife can open up and share her secrets and sexual fantasies. She can talk about what other wives get up to behind their husbands' backs; and can admit she would like to dabble also to satisfy her curiosity.

You have said it all

 

[Son of John]

One of the most exciting parts of my wife fucking with her ex is that many in the family know about it. When we are at family gatherings and her ex and I talk, I can see the rest of them watching us, as if wondering how I could even talk to a guy who was still fucking my wife.

I can well understand why any husband would want to be aquainted, if not friends, with his wife's ex-fuckers. She will never be completely "my" pussy! She will also be his, as long as he can remember what it was like to fuck her. And even better if he is STILL fucking her!!!

 

[cdlola]

should i try to bring up her ex casually,or just ask her straight about about him or should i just do nothing and see if she talks about him again in detail
she has mentioned him 2 more times since then but she didnt really say much about him, except mentioning him as her ex bf , i found that interesting because she had never refered to him as a boyfriend before only some one she was friend with who she had fooled around with "friends with benefits "