New Here-Needing Advice and Encouragement

[ashleym714u]

Hi!
I'm a 34 year old woman who after much talk and consideration has agreed to give the cuckold lifestyle a try with my husband. He has a strong desire to see me date and have sex with other men and I have come to the decision I may enjoy it as well.
My questions are for both men and women on this forum are:
1) What is the best way to get started?
2) What has the been the reaction from your husbands after you actually went through with it? What is the best way to make the experience good for both of you?
3) Have you kept it secret or shared what you are doing with friends etc.?
4) What can I expect from dating black men?
5) Do black men actually like women to dress like total sluts (much like you see in most of the porn pics) or what do they actually like to see women wear?

Anyone wishing to respond can just respond to this thread or e-mail me at ashley714U@yahoo.com

Thanks! Ashley

 

[equippedblk]

Advice: Once Black Man's Take

Ashley,
Good for you for moving on something that obviously motivates you. The most important thing is that you and your spouse are truely united in your decision to invite others into your sex life.

Now I will speak on things that I feel qualified to discuss. First, as far as getting started, I think that you are well on your way. Sounds like you are ready to take on a playmate. If I were you, I would probably subscribe to the www.darkcavern.com website so that you can place an ad as well as browse ads of black males. Simultaneously I would probably subscribe to an online swinger site like www.swappernet.com. The plus to the darkcavern is that it is raw and dedicated to interracial black male white female lifestyle to include cuckolding, so in a sense it has a market niche. The downside is the sincerity of some members. On a swinger site you will have to deal with not finding as many black men but if you are not ready for BBC, meeting other swingers will ease you guys into the emotional shock of seeing your mate with another person for the first time.

As far as attracting black men with what you wear, well this is definitely up for debate. Personally, it's not so much what a woman wears but how confident she feels about her sexuality. For instance, there are many BBW that are more sexy than the thinnest so called sexy women frequently on your TV. It's not because a particular BBW is more sexy in society's eyes but more so because the BBW is comfortable in her own skin and feels sexy. But if dressing slutty makes you feel sexy then all means break out the gear. Again personally, I like mature classy women that project professionalism and confidence. For a woman like this to wear something slutty would blow it for me because it's like a misrepresentation of her true self.

Finally, a few words of caution. Make sure you and your husband is on one accord with this. Choose playmates wisely and ones you feel comfortable with. Expect your experiences to change your views about things.

Hope this helps!

Equipped

 

[Lee&Becca]

New too!

Hi there,

My bf and I are also here because we want to give this lifestyle a try. Would love to chat sometime and share thoughts about it with you. Good Luck and have fun. XOXO~

 

[rhino]

The more the merry

I agree with everything Equipedblk said. I will also add that its always better to do this cuz u want to not cuz he wants u to. U say ' I have come to the decision I may enjoy it as well.' That is not the same as saying 'I really want to do this no matter what he wants.'

As for what to wear I prefer a woman who can dress with a little class. Sexy is fine but slutty looks cheap. I think u know the difference.

Telling friends? Sure if u can trust them not to freak out or cut u off. Lots of folks cant deal with hearing stuff like this.

What to expect from a player who knows what he is doing? Passion. He will make u feel like nothing else matters but what u and him got going. U will feel like a real woman.

Mind u the chemistry has got to be right. It wont be there every time you meet someone. If its not there dont force it. Just move on to the next one. Dont settle for less if u think u can do better.

Making it good for both of u? Make sure your both on the same page. Make sure u both know why each of u is doing this and what u each r really getting out of it. Think about it and u will understand what I mean.

Let us know how things r going. Any questions u know where to go.

Have fun