Newbie Wife

[looking4blk19]

Need some advice. Wife loves watching IR porn, loves using swinger websites and checking cpls or guys with big cocks, likes to talk about fucking another guy in front of me, loves her big blk dildo. However, she also says she doesn't want to actually try lifestyle even though it turns her on a ton. I'm all for it but can't decide what she really wants with all the mixed signals. Any advice from cpls or blkmales out there that have seen this before????

 

[looking4blk19]

Help

Gotta be someone that has been through the same thing!?!?!?!?!

 

[becontree2001uk]

Have you considered that she realises that fantasy is Ok but reality may be different? She will be worried about your marriage if she went and fucked black or other men; worried about how will others will see her (e.g. as a slut; *****); and concerned that you will not love her anymore if she gave in to any fantasises about other men she may have.

 

[looking4blk19]

So your saying she wants it but worries how it could affect our relationship. How can I convince her that this is just sex and won't change how I feel about her? Or is that even possible?

 

[Josetta]

Give her time, she is saturating her subconscious mind with dozens of mind pictures and supporting fantasies - eventually she will find herself becoming happier as her fantasies gain energy and direction.

She will notice opportunities when her subconscious mind catches up to her conscious mind, and then it becomes hypnotic and just happens.

She is sowing the seeds by continuing to enjoy various websites. Try to enjoy the sites with her and talk about each others fantasies when you make love - but don't push or she will back off, worried you are hoping to get another filly into bed.

The more she looks at porn, the more likely she is to find girlfriends with similar interests. Taking baby steps keeps her progressing forward like a magnet pulling her to experience what her mind is enjoying.

Your girl is saying she would not make it real, at least she is debating it in her mind and giving it deep thought. This causes her to think about the possible benefits of doing it - and it grows like a snowball steadily gaining speed over months or years. When your main squeeze is ready in her mind, she will cuck you and never go back to vanilla. Just be patient.

 

[Josetta]

Don't try to convince her, she will do that herself when the porn she watches causes her to feel jealous enough not to miss out any longer. She has to give herself permission and this takes time.

Start doing more for her around the home, so she has time to feel beautiful, sexy and more rested. New clothes help her to look for reasons to wear them. Many wives are quite tired, so helping her, lifts her up to sexier thinking.

 

[Tara]

Mixed signals

She wants to do it but she is getting mixed signals from you. If you really think you want and can handle this then go to an on premise swing club and have her dress sexy and see if she and you like it. She does not have to do anything until she wants to.

 

[looking4blk19]

So, you are saying she will openly tell me one day she is ready and wants it or will have to be more of the person making it happen? She openly says while we are watching IR porn or having sex that she wants a big cock. Just later she says we dont need to try it.

 

[macestar]

Don't try to convince her, she will do that herself when the porn she watches causes her to feel jealous enough not to miss out any longer. She has to give herself permission and this takes time.

Start doing more for her around the home, so she has time to feel beautiful, sexy and more rested. New clothes help her to look for reasons to wear them. Many wives are quite tired, so helping her, lifts her up to sexier thinking.

Helping with the wife with the house chores. One of the best advise, ever. I find this works, not instantly but steadily. True, it gives her more time to relax and feel that I'm not just watching her do all the house chores when I'm helping her. It takes two to tango.