primalbst said:
This is primalbst's wife. Thanks for the compliments and yes my face is completely red right now. I'm not sure what to think of all of this but I love my husband and he is worth checking it out. What would you say to a women that is not sure about the whole thing?
Communicate, communicate, communicate.
Not to be a wet blanket, but I think that you should be careful about this. You have a marriage and I think your hubby mentioned kids (or maybe I'm confusing him with someone else?) Extramarital sex could be a lot of fun, especially shared with your husband, but if things go "bad" and you're faced with a choice between a new lover and keeping the marriage, I'd keep the marriage. So talk with your husband about how you envision this happening, and how he envisions this happening, and see if your visions match. And, it's one thing if the men you're seeing for sex are one-night stands, or friends with benefits, and another if one of them becomes a lover, or becomes more important in your life than your husband is. Talk with your husband about how close emotionally you expect to get with your boyfriend(s), and what either of you will do if the emotional bonds get "too close" (whatever "too close" might be).
I don't know what you've thought of already, so I apologize if I'm making suggestions that you thought of in the first five minutes.
There are swinger's clubs in Vancouver, maybe go to one of those and just talk to some of the couples there about the swinging experience: it's not exactly the same as this, but it's similar enough that it should be better than reinventing the wheel.
Good luck with this: I hope it works out and you both have a great time!
