wife on cam with black man ,your advice is needed please

[cdlola]

my wife and myself have been having fun on cam for a little while now she loves showing off and doing things on cam for guys to watch, she loves talking to them also
she has found a guy on there that she has really taken a liking to and it just happens that hes a younger black man ,who has told me personally that hed love to fuck the shit out of her
she loves camming with him and she has talked to him for hours on cam even after me and her finish fooling around ,she has told me how nice he is and has mentioned him quite a few times lately to me how she loves talking to him how cool he is ,i didnt know he was black at first but she did , now last night i bought her a huge 10 inch very thick dildo and used it on her on cam while him and about 15 other random guys watched, at first she had a hard time getting it in so i got our lube and lubed it up and my self slowly slide it in and out going deeper each time till she took the whole 10 inches ,it was amazing i didnt think she could handle that much but she did and loved it she came several times violently and loudly
then after we finished i had checked in to check if we had any messages and he was online and messaged me ,i told him its me shes not online with me ,he said its cool ,then told me how badly he would love to join us and fuck her till shes dry, i told him id love that and he asked would she and i said i think she would but shes so shy she will probally never admit it , and he said that hes gonna work on that next time shes online chatting he lives a few hours away but visits family only about an hour from us a couple of times a year
i need your advice, should i do anything ,say anything or should i juts let him work his magic and see how it goes?

 

[Saraha]

A long distance relationship will make it hard for them to be together more than twice a year, but you should definitely meet with him to see what happens between them. It may be possible for her to stay with him for a week at a time when he visits his family.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Cdlola,

Thanks for the update re. your wife's cam adventures.

My wife loves showing off and doing things on cam for guys to watch, and talking with them.

Sounds like your wife has found her medium of choice for finding lovers.

She has found a younger black man and really likes him. He has told me personally he'd love to fuck her.

Cool... but I hope you and he did not "talk personally" in any way that enabled him to identify where you live.

My wife loves camming with her new man, has talked with him for hours, has told me how nice he is, and has mentioned him quite a few times lately. She tells me she loves talking with him and how cool he is.

Sounds like your wife is well on her way to falling in love with her new man...

Last night I bought my wife a huge 10-inch very thick dildo, and used it on her on cam while her new man and about 15 other random guys watched. At first she had a hard time getting it in. I then lubed it up and slowly slide it in and out, going deeper each time until she took the whole 10 inches.

Um... say what? You didn't lube the huge dildo you bought for your wife *in advance* before trying to push it into her pussy in front of a cam audience? Jeez... you gotta be joking. Anyway, it sounds like you finally figured it out. And, my congratulations to your wife for taking the whole thing.

I didn't think she could handle that much, but she did and she loved it. She came several times violently and loudly.

Your wife has obviously come a long way, allowing you to dildo-fuck her and coming loudly and repeatedly in front of an audience of strangers and her potential lover. It sounds like she was imagining herself being fucked by him while you did that.

Afterwards I checked to see if we had any messages. He was online and messaged me; I told him it's me not my wife. He said that's cool, and told me how badly he wants to join us and fuck her. I told him I'd love that too. He asked if my wife would do that; I said I think she would but she's so shy she probably won't admit it.

Given your wife's cam performances, I'd say she's sexually outgoing and seems rather uninhibited. If she used to be shy, she appears to have gotten over it. But to take her "natural reticence" into account, I suggest not talking with her at all about fucking her potential lover. Rather, I suggest talking with her about how nice it would be to meet him and ways the two of you could do that without letting him know where you live... say, in a suitable restaurant for lunch or dinner followed by drinks in a suitable bar, preferably one with music and a dance floor.

He said he's going to work on that next time she's online and they're chatting. He said he lives a few hours away but visits family only about an hour from us a couple of times a year.

Presumably he'll be visiting his family "only about an hour" from you during Christmas and New Years...

I need your advice. Should I do anything or say anything? Or should I just let him work his magic and see how it goes?

I think you can be confident your wife's lover-in-waiting will seduce her successfully because he's pretty much done that already. To move things forward, I suggest working with your wife to set up an in-person meeting with him (as noted above). Then, if it works out well and your wife wants to "develop their relationship further," I suggest the three of you to go to a nearby hotel (where, unbeknownst to your wife, you will have made a reservation in advance).

I also suggest continuing to keep everything anonymous; that is, don't let him know where you live until you and your wife get to know him better.

When the 3 of you go to a hotel so your wife can fuck him, I strongly recommend being present in the room so you can protect her if it turns out he's a psychopath. They may want privacy, but in my opinion you should agree on this point in advance with your wife, and insist on it with her potential lover. A way to do this would be to come to agreement with him on this point online (unbeknownst to your wife), in advance of meeting him in person with your wife.

Finally, to make it happen you will need to talk about this with your wife as this scene is evolving. I suggest beginning, however, by omitting discussion of going to a hotel so she can fuck her lover-in-waiting. Rather, talk with her in terms of meeting and spending some time talking with him over (say) dinner and drinks. Then, if it turns out they obviously get along well and have the hots for each other, you can bring up the possibility of going to a hotel (where you will have made a reservation in advance, since it already seems pretty clear they have the hots for each other).

—Custer

 

[cdlola]

update

thanks for your advice macnfries, sahara, and custer u all have good advice and i am thankful for it
i also have an update , she wanted to go online just to chat with him (she wasent in the mood to cam today she has a nasty cold) we were chatting with him and she asked him if she could see him so he showed her 3 pics ,all were of his upper body nothing nude ,he is an attractive guy i guess ,she told him he was very cute, he is younger than us in his early to mid 20s a bit shorter than she prefers but over all she liked how he looked, he then began telling her how hot she is ,which she loves hearing and how much he would love to fuck her till she cant take it no more and things like that and more compliments
he then asked her if she would ever want to have a 3some with me her and him she answered i dont know thats something id have to think about but i will concider it she also said it would have to be something she talked about with me in private as well, and he replied cool if your ever up for it let me know i could fly down there for weekend, then they flirted some more back and forth for about an hour then she got offline
after she had asked me what did u think of all that did it bother u? i answered no it was cool how they chatted and that i like how she enjoys it taking to him , she then asked me what do u think of him wanting to come down here? i answered he seems really nice if u wanted we could meet him , and she said maybe but if we ever did id wanna meet him at a public place like a resturant or a bar/club ,and she said we would both have to get to know him better in person, and i replied if that is something u ever want to do im cool with it as long as it would make u happy and thats where we left it for now ,shes supposed to go on cam with him tuesday or wednesday night again ill let u know any further updates

 

[cdlola]

cdlola, the fact that you guys are getting to know something about each other before meeting is invaluable. I hope you will continue to move methodically slow and let this relationship develop naturally with no early expectations. You and your wife are doing great communicating about what's going on in your heads ... what you're thinking. If a relationship like this is going to work, I believe you're approaching it in the right way. A cuck, hotwife, and bull ( hate labeling, but helps with clarification here) all have important parts to play in these things; as long as everyone knows their part, and doesn't desire more than what is there, I think these can be fun.

What happens here probably sets the expectations & directions of future relationships. If its a good experience for both you and your wife, the two of you can probably expect some exciting times ahead. My wife & I treat these rendevous like rich, tasty desert after a meal ... we don't do it often, but when we do, we really enjoy them. Hope you'll keep us posted as this develops ... Mac

thanks macNfries i couldent agree more thats why i think its good he doesent live real close and he only visits the area 3 or 4 times a year, i think my wife (at least for now) is looking more for a treat once in a while rather than a steady guy ,im just hoping her the right guy he seems a bit shy at times ,hes very hot or cold sometimes he doesent really chat much except about very casual things but sometimes hes hot and heavy with her getting very detailed on what he would like to do to her and have her do to him, also we finally figured out how to use voice chat and she chatted with him on cam but using voice in stead of text , sh was shy at first but he opened up once she started flirting more with him and he listened and watched to her as she used her 10 inch dildo on her self until she came to a loud screaming orgasm ,which he and her (and myself) seemed to really enjoy ,she told him that she was imagining it was his big cock in her as she was doing it , things seem to be progressing nicely ,except 1 small thing as much as she enjoys it i feel like when im with her alone and we chat about it she is holding back from telling me how much shes really into it, maybe shes nervous that im not into it even though i tell her i am and she clearly can see how much it turns me on, i know shes loving it i can see it in her face in her orgasms in how often she talks about when are we gonna go back on chat ,maybe she will open up over time ,im not gonna push her though im gonna take all of your advices and let her go at her own pace