Caught Cheating So Hubby Offered A Hall Pass If I Tell Him Beforehand

[deviouseyes]

Hi everyone new girl here. Not sure how I’ve missed this amazing site but so glad I found it!

I can go on and on in backstory but I’ll try not to! I’ve been a cheater for as long as I’ve been in relationships. I love the emotional support of having someone, along with the excitement of new and spontaneous sex. So, I cheat! Best of both right!

Anyway, I’ve been mostly good since being with my hubby. I love him tons and tried turning a new leaf and to be faithful. I’ve had my slip ups and got caught early in our one and a half year marriage. We worked through it which meant I had to go to counseling. I fucking hated it! I quit going when I heard I’m borderline personality which is why I can’t control my impulse for sex and don’t give a shit about the consequences while in the moment. Fucking idiot therapist.

My husband told me several times if I feel like I need to cheat than tell him so we can discuss how to get through it. I asked what that meant and he said he’ll think about a hall pass or something.

Well I’m really wanting some good new sex so what do you think? Should I test his sincerity and see how ok he’ll be with me fucking around? I know there isn’t much info here but do most guys out there extend that offer to his wife or does it sound like a trap?

 

[drippingopensluthole]

My wife has a hall pass so long as she lets me know in advance that she is going to go back with someone and fuck them. She is also upfront with them because she has to get pics on her phone and send them to me while it is happening. Having said all that, we are in a hotwife relationship so that may be different to your situation. I love her fucking other guys and so far I have always been present.

 

[LisaAl7]

I have virtually the same story, I've only been with a couple of guys since that conversation (which was some time ago) but hubby was cool both times. It's nice to know that I can fuck someone when I get the urge although in reality my cheating was usually quite some time between guys.

 

[Nazareth]

Honey, if you come here asking a bunch of horny fuckers......
Well, you're in the right place!

You likely had your husband just where you needed him after you got caught. Had to pay a price for sure, but if you can remove the risk of getting caught from cheating, I'll say you should have free reign. Negotiate a permanent pass. Maybe bring a friend of yours over to "convince" him?

 

[partnerovs]

Sperma sul viso di mia moglie e sui suoi buchi sporchi adesso, per favore >> DirtyTinder

 

[searcher308]

Well if temptation led you here - let me provide the relief you need. Say hi when you have a chance!

 

[2wheel]

Yes, test the waters of the sincerity of his words. You don't have to go through with it, but you will know his true heart.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Hi everyone, new girl here. Not sure how I’ve missed this amazing site but so glad I found it!

Hi Ms. Deviouseyes. Welcome to the forum!

..... I’ve been a cheater for as long as I’ve been in relationships. I love the emotional support of having someone, along with the excitement of new and spontaneous sex. So, I cheat! Best of both, right!

Sounds like you may have a higher-than-average sex drive. There's nothing wrong with that, of course.

Anyway, I’ve been mostly good since being with my hubby. I love him tons and tried turning a new leaf and to be faithful. I’ve had my slip ups and got caught early in our one and a half year marriage. We worked through it, which meant I had to go to counseling. I fucking hated it!

And, I'd say you had the right view of your involuntary counseling.

I quit going when I heard I’m borderline personality, which is why I can’t control my impulse for sex and don’t give a shit about the consequences while in the moment. Fucking idiot therapist.

Furthermore, you have the right opinion of your therapist (IMO). A more straightforward point of view for him or her to have taken would have been to recognize that sexuality (i.e., sex drive) varies among different women, as well as among different men, just like other human characteristics — athletic ability, musical talent, mathematical ability, artistic talent, etc. Some people have more, others have less. You have more.

My husband told me several times if I feel like I need to cheat than tell him, so we can discuss how to get through it. I asked what that meant and he said he’ll think about a hall pass or something.

You might suggest to your husband he read:

The Science of Cuckoldry, by sex therapist and relationships counselor Susan Gower:
The Science of Cuckoldry

The cuckold husband / hotwife phenomena, by Dr. Cherry Lee, Ph.D.:
The Cuckold Phenomena

A book on this subject is:
Ley, David J., 2009, Insatiable Wives: Women who stray and the men who love them (Roman & Littlefield Publishers, Inc., 291 pp. [hardcover])

Well, I’m really wanting some good new sex so what do you think? Should I test his sincerity and see how ok he’ll be with me fucking around?

Since your husband made you his "hall pass" offer, I suggest you accept it as a starting point. Since he also said he wants to discuss in advance "how you're going to get through it," however, that suggests he views it as something that may not be easy, from his point of view, to "get through." So, I also suggest you begin by persuading him to read the above two articles — and possibly the above book — as a way of seeing how to "get through it."

Good luck! Please keep us updated as you transform your husband to your self-acknowledged cuckold. I hope it goes well for you!

—Custer

 

[indiana hubby]

Sounds just like our relationship. She gets her freedom 24/7. I just want the details after

 

[deviouseyes]

Thank you all for your input! I brought it up with hubby last night because I met a guy that I’ve been talking to and would love to get with. Of course, I didn’t tell hubby that yet! I asked if he was serious or not and how involved he’d want to be. That turned into a looooooong conversation. He started off by wanting to know who the guy was. He was sure I’d already cheated again. I eventually admitted I’m getting the urge again but am bringing it up just like he asked me to. He settled down and we talked about his wants. He isn’t sure if he could handle seeing me get fucked in person so he’d rather start by knowing it’s happening and possibly seeing a pic or two. So we’ll see where it goes. I probly should’ve just told him I’m interested in a guy because now I have to wait to maintain the lie! Oh well.

 

[deviouseyes]

So I went out last night with some work people and found myself flirting with a guy. Normally, I’d just fuck him and make sure hubs didn’t find out. But I’m turning that leaf over and really want to move into a hotwife marriage so I text my husband. I told him what was going on and what I wanted to do (which unfortunately wasn’t much because it’s that time of the month for me! Fucking yay!!!). I was extremely nervous. All he said was, “do what you want.” That’s it! I asked if he still wanted pics to which he said “if you want.” That’s it again! I offered to not do it and just come home but he said he knows how important it is to me so go have fun. Alright.......

I sent him a short video of the guy cumming after I gave him head. No other sex happened that night.

All day today my husband has been very distant. I’m afraid I fucked things up. Is this normal after something like this guys?

Vid attached below

 

[midnightfapper]

Mmm what a good girl you are!

 

[IndyHubby]

So I went out last night with some work people and found myself flirting with a guy. Normally, I’d just fuck him and make sure hubs didn’t find out. But I’m turning that leaf over and really want to move into a hotwife marriage so I text my husband. I told him what was going on and what I wanted to do (which unfortunately wasn’t much because it’s that time of the month for me! Fucking yay!!!). I was extremely nervous. All he said was, “do what you want.” That’s it! I asked if he still wanted pics to which he said “if you want.” That’s it again! I offered to not do it and just come home but he said he knows how important it is to me so go have fun. Alright.......

I sent him a short video of the guy cumming after I gave him head. No other sex happened that night.

All day today my husband has been very distant. I’m afraid I fucked things up. Is this normal after something like this guys?

Vid attached below

Are you sure it’s distant and not just quiet? I tend to get quiet and want to hear my wife to initiate talk about it. And I don’t want to talk, just listen. She had the experience, not me. Even having to ask questions kills the mood a bit.

 

[Krprice58]

He is still in new ground too on this, he has an immense amount of feelings going on.
When was last time you sucked your husband off?

 

[Krprice58]

Great video just watched it.

 

[abba148]

You should have been more careful about what video you picked to post. That video has been on porn sites for several years. I first saw it on the site xvideo at least 10 years ago.

 

[Pleasureguy]

So I went out last night with some work people and found myself flirting with a guy. Normally, I’d just fuck him and make sure hubs didn’t find out. But I’m turning that leaf over and really want to move into a hotwife marriage so I text my husband. I told him what was going on and what I wanted to do (which unfortunately wasn’t much because it’s that time of the month for me! Fucking yay!!!). I was extremely nervous. All he said was, “do what you want.” That’s it! I asked if he still wanted pics to which he said “if you want.” That’s it again! I offered to not do it and just come home but he said he knows how important it is to me so go have fun. Alright.......

I sent him a short video of the guy cumming after I gave him head. No other sex happened that night.

All day today my husband has been very distant. I’m afraid I fucked things up. Is this normal after something like this guys?

Vid attached below

Oh fuck...thats really really hot!

 

[Custer Laststand]

Hi Ms. Deviouseyes,

Thank you for the update!

Regarding:

I sent him [my husband] a short video of the guy cumming after I gave him head. No other sex happened that night.

According to abba148, the video is a fake. But, setting aside that detail: your "merely going down" on your lover-to-be is OK. It's normal for a woman to suck a man's cock as an early step in a developing sexual relationship, whether or not she does it because it's "that time of month."

All day today my husband has been very distant. I’m afraid I fucked things up. Is this normal after something like this, guys?

That depends on the married man in question, I suppose. There's a lot of variability among men, just as there is among women. At this point, your cuckold-to-be husband has a lot to think about.

Please keep us filled in as you continue to guide your husband toward acceptance of his natural role, in your marriage and in the broader society, as your cuckold.

—Custer

 

[Krprice58]

We need her in put.

 

[KristinS]

Use the halllpass and tell hubby before you go out and ask him for advice, You want to know his feelings and for him to think about you fucking another man and with kissing, Touch his dick and tell him you will want more sex when you return home. Be sure not to shower after you have sex with other men. Their scent will be on you for your hubby to smell and wonderful.