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Confused wife but idea makes me superrr hottt!

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I am a REAL 33 year old married woman and mother of 2. Been married for 12 years. Earlier this year my husband confessed to me a dream he had. It consisted of him coming home from work and finding me having sex with another man in our bedroom. He stated that he slowly walked upstairs after hearing sex noises and stood their watching through the crack between the door and wall as I wildly rode a black guy. He said he felt angry and jealous but extremely turned on. He told me that in his dream he began jerking off watching his wife act like a porn star with another man. He said that ever since his dream he keeps having the same fantasies and sometimes jerks off at the thought.

I admit that I had mixed feelings about this at first. I did not know what to think or how to react. But I do admit that hearing him confess this made my juices flow. He is the only man I have ever been with so I can only imagine what it would be like to be with another man. I have always found black men very interesting and I sure wouldn't mind getting fucked by one.

When we are together he talks about the idea and I get extremely turned on and expeience powerful orgasms as he describes me with another man doing the deed. The desire to get fucked by another man increases as every day passes. But not sure how to handle this.

Should I act on this and take it further? Should I leave it as a fantasy? I would love to hear other opinions or experiences from REAL people in the same position, especially woman. Does my husband love me and respect me? Why would he want to watch me get fucked by someone else? Honestly, he managed to peek my interest and I now crave another cock so much it's driving me crazy!!!
 
Be careful what you plan to do. I agree with you that this is a normal way of beginning a cuckold relationship BUT test your hubby before doing anything which could not be reversed.

If anger and jealousy overflows the additional turn on you will get in a highly risky situation. Maybe your hubby will change his mindsetting and you are in front of the debris of your marriage.

Be careful and test it in advance.

fred
 
Thanks Fred. That is exactly my problem, I have the desire as I am very sexual woman. But I'm afraid of the consequenses. However, he really looks to be very into this and he states he is in a new phase in his life. He is going 38 going on 40. Ten years ago this would have never been a desire for him. But now, he says, the thought is orgasmic as he imagines me getting satisfied by someone bigger than him. I did test him though. I told him about a black guy I know and how I have fantasized about being with him. I have a friend who actually slept with him and she told me and a few other girls that he's pretty big and thick. My husband did not show any signs of anger or jealousy. He actually told me to tell him more. He becomes very aroused and me even more! But I'm still to afraid. I don't find this normal but it is sexxy.
 
I am not a woman, but I am a real person who has been a cuckold, though not to my knowledge by a black man. First, there does seem to be potential for your dreams to come true but you will need to go slowly at first.

Honest communication is key in situations like this, but don't just blurt out that you have decided to take a black lover. You may wish to talk to him about it in bed one night. While in foreplay, ask him if he has had any good fantasies lately. If he is willing to share and brings it up, ask him questions in a teasing way. Keep it safely in fantasy land but explore and let him know the fantasy turns you on as well.

If it goes well, step two may be to mention that a black man was looking at you in a sexy way and see how he reacts. Step three take it a little further and tell him someone was flirting with you. Keep taking baby steps as long as he is receptive.

If he takes it well you may want to go out for an evening by yourself or with girlfriends and keep it vague when talking to him about it. See if he conjures up images of you in bed with a black man. Tell him that you sometimes fantasize now that he has opened the door but you would not want to hurt him by making it real.

I know this seems like a lot of steps but trust me, men have fragile egos and fantasies made real have destroyed many relationships where the man could not handle it.

I will shut up now and let some of our wonderful ladies and Custer and Mac, and others take a shot. Good luck!

Oops, looks like someone beat me to the punch and your response makes me somewhat redundant. Good luck anyway!
 
Susans Slave,

Actually, I think about it alot. But my husband brings it up most of the time when he's feeling horny. Lately, we have had the hottest sex ever. I sometimes want to bring it up myself but I usually let him make the first move. Like I stated before, it was his dream, now it is my desire but don't want to make a false move. He really seems into it though. He'll ask me while in bed if I have had thoughts about other guys at work. I told him about this guy who is very good looking and he'll ask me to give him the steamy details. As mentioned before, my husband has been the only man I've slept with. Everything I know about sex I have learned from him. When he told me about his dream he also asked me to act more slutty in the bedroom. We bought sex toys and things have gotten hot and heavy. But cuckolding? Feels good but I don't know if I would really be willing, even if he is.
 
Having been in this situation myself - would say the dream was a way of your husband putting the topic to you to guage your reaction.

I would suggest a serious discussion after sex,, when things don't seem as hot would be a good idea
 
Three peoples feelings

I would also say do some soul searching of yourself . Can you trust yourself not to fall in love with the other guy ? Do you think you can keep it just sex ? And above all don't forget to consider that big black cock friends feelings . Remember some bulls/lovers can get pretty dominant , would you want him to dominate you or your husband ? People sometimes can get get carried away , and loose control of the situation , these people want more . Remember this lifestyle can take on all kinds of forms . Just think , you might just want this to be a one time thing . But it's not just about you and your hubbys fantasies , but someone else also . good luck just4pleasure .
 
To test this out without having sex, let him drop u off at a honky tonk and drive around for 30 mins. When he comes back, he can walk in and see u dancing and flirting with another man. He will feel the jealousy, but his dick will get hard too. After a couple times, you will know if both r ready.
 
I recommend going to the site just jinxy. and watch her cuckolding 101 vids she has on you tube. she answers all emails especially from women/
 
Hi Ms. Just4pleasure,

You sound like a very promising married woman with a high sex drive.

just4pleasure said:
When we are together my husband talks about the idea [of me fucking other men]. I get extremely turned on and experience powerful orgasms as he describes me with another man doing the deed. The desire to get fucked by another man increases as every day passes. ....
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Excellent! You will soon be on your way...

just4pleasure said:
.... Should I act on this and take it further? Should I leave it as a fantasy? I would love to hear other opinions or experiences from REAL people in the same position, especially woman. Does my husband love me and respect me? Why would he want to watch me get fucked by someone else? Honestly, my husband managed to peek my interest and I now crave another cock so much it's driving me crazy!!!
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See:

Cherry Lee, Ph.D., and Ronnie West, Ph.D., Site on Female/Male Relationships:
Index Page for Modern Directions

and:

Complete C.L./R.W. Site Map for “Varietal Sex:"
Site Map

At the second link ("Site Map"), note in particular the last section which is on white married women who take black lovers.

I suggest you and your husband read this site together. It's very sane and presents the experiences of real people. BTW, "Varietal sex," as used by Cherry Lee and Ronnie West, means married women who take lovers with the knowledge and consent (/acquiescence), generally speaking, of their husbands.

Good luck and best wishes to both of you—

Custer
 
Hey... I just sent you a private message. Have a look in your inbox. Cheers.
 
I would love to hear another womans perspective who has actually been through or felt what I am feeling.

Lamont, we are very alike by the way. My hubby is 38 and I'm 33. I will be honest with you, and I told this to my hubby just last night, he has managed to bring out a little slut that has been in hiding for so long. His sex talk and fantasies makes me want to go out and fuck as many guys as I can. I know those are only feelings. I would never do that of course. But the desire is there, especially knowing he imagines me with another man. We do talk tons during sex and usually involves other people. But this is only during sex. We were together a couple of days ago and he began whispering in my ear to imagine a "big black juicy cock deep inside me". It drove me wild. I really wanted one. He asked me if I "would like to fuck another man and let him watch" I tenderly wispered YES to him. His reaction was explosive. It makes for great sex in the bedroom. Ever since his confession I have experienced the most powerful orgasms ever. I would really like to know what it was like for your wife. I did see some pictures you posted. Is that really you and your wife? Hottt pics!

Anyway Lamont, thank you for taking the time to post a comment. And thanks to everyone else as well. I aprreciate it. I hope to get a better understanding of what all this means.

Here is my email address: abc8524@hotmail.com I do hope to get a womans take.
 
Just4pleasure,
Your situation is very similar to the one my wife and I had when we were your age. I had this overwhelming desire to watch her fuck another guy. I started by asking her about old boyfriends, including one in particular who had a huge cock. It got to the point where she knew I would cum on a dime whenever she would mention his name and talk about how she much she loved fucking him.

I think we talked about all of this for a year or more, with intense orgasms every time, before she agreed to actually let me try and set something up with a guy (not her old boyfriend) that we met online. I remember meeting the guy in a parking lot, without her with me, and the guy and I exchanged photos of himself and my wife. At the time, we didn't want to share any pictures online.

The guy was very nice looking, very normal, and I could tell he was very excited about the possibility of fucking my wife. (My wife is 5'10" blonde, beautiful.) I took his photo back to my wife, and she agreed to chat with him online. They hit it off, and then she made one request that I had to really think about: She asked if she could meet him for a drink by herself. She was self-conscious about flirting with another guy for the first time in front of me. I thought about it and agreed. She met him at a restaurant. They had dinner and drinks, and ended up making out in the parking lot. She called me on her cell from the parking lot and said, "He wants me to go home with him, but I have to see if you're truly serious about me doing it with another guy." (Our agreement beforehand was that if it did get to this point, I would consider letting her fuck the guy on her own so long as she promised that the next time, I would get to watch.)

I said, "yes" and she went home with the guy. Needless to say, I was going nuts at home waiting for her to return. She called me an hour later and said she was "having a good time" and would tell me about it when she returned. Well, suffice it to say, she didn't come home for another couple of hours. By then, I was so damn horny, and worried, frankly, that maybe she had fallen in love with this guy.

She told me every detail about how he spent so long eating her pussy that she finally had to tell him to "fuck me." They fucked several times. All the while she was telling me this, she and I were fucking like crazy. I never, ever, have been so damn horny in my life as I was that night. I fucked her five or six times during the night, all the while begging her for more details.

A week later, the guy came over to our house, and for the first time ever, I got to see her fuck another guy. It was absolutely the hottest thing I've ever seen. I just couldn't believe I was watching my wife go down on this guy's cock, and then fuck him right in front of me. It worked out great!

The key is that both my wife and I lived up to our agreement, that I would let her see the guy on her own first, and then after she got to know him, she would fuck him in front of me. It was all honest, above board, and so damn hot. She fucked him three or four more times after that. And we eventually expanded it to several other guys. She fucked three other guys (separately) in hotels on trips we took.

We eventually stopped doing threesomes but are considering doing it again. Although I was never formally a cuck, there's no doubt that watching another guy take your wife away from you and fuck her right in front of you is a cuckold situation.

I write all of this to say: Just be honest with each other. If you want to fuck another guy, let your hubby know. Even though it was originally his idea, you have to make sure he truly knows what he's getting into. There is no room for jealousy here. If he's going to be jealous, he's not cut out for this kind of fantasy-cum-reality. Do some soul searching with him, and then at some point, if you both agree, go for it. Talk is great for sex, but the real thing is far better.
 
Good advice, as always, Mac!
 
Awesome feedback and advice for me to consider. It is a very tempting situation, but difficult when, like some of you said, their are children involved. The last thing I would want is to ruin my marriage over a sudden spur of passion. Not something to take lightly but does require lot's of consideration. Is it even worth it for several minutes of passion. Thanks again guys. You are all great! Reading some of your feedback made me hot and horny. Others seriously put me to think. I must share all this with my husband to see if he retracts his desires. Would I really be willing to go through it to cuckold my husband and fulfill his fantasy or is it to take advantage of the situation to satisfy MY hunger of getting fucked by another man given I've only been with one? Gotta think about that one? :)
 
Just4, you sound like you are trying to keep a level head about all this. That is a good thing. Afterall, what is the harm in being patient and talking this through once, twice, even several times with each other first? There is no rush. If it is a turn on in the here and now, then it will be a turn on after fully discussing over time.

No one enters into this looking to fail, yet the possibility for failure can never be completely removed. From the fantasies your husband is whispering in your ear, it would seem a good place to start a serious discussion would be a MFM threesome.
 
just4pleasure said:
Awesome feedback and advice for me to consider. ... Is it even worth it for several minutes of passion. Thanks again guys. You are all great! Reading some of your feedback made me hot and horny..... Gotta think about that one? :)
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I'm too late again to answer this properly, but I'm a strong advocate of playing in FANTASY for a long time before doing anything drastic. I'll try and get back to you when I have more time :( You can check my other threads - I've advised others on similar things in the past from a 'safety first' point of view.

Take care :)
 
Hi Ms. Just4pleasure,

I see you haven't received any replies from women in response to your request for replies from women. I've sent you a PM relevant (I hope) to this problem.

—Custer
 
During our discussion, my wife likes the idea that other men find her attractive and sexually appealing.

She also finds it a bit weird that as a husband, I don't mind at all that she is getting all sorts of attention form other men. I even told her that I'm excited when she told me that a guy has been hitting on her at work.

However, she told me that she would never get into an affair.

I guess a woman have to take into alot of considerations because of the consequences. My wife may view my excitement as just fantasies and is afraid that if she would acted it out, it may be a ground for divorce.
 
Mac,

Regarding:

MacNfries said:
It's a known fact that marriages, where couples include outside sexual partners, are more likely to fail than monogomous marriages.
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That's an assumption one sees here and there; it's become something of a "conventional wisdom." I'm not aware of any studies which actually demonstrate that statistically, though, for "cuckold husband / hotwife" (CHHW)-style marriages. Also, if the divorce rate actually is high in CHHW marriages, it would have to be compared to the divorce rate in conventional monogamous marriages, which is high, before drawing any conclusion re. whether a CHHW marriage tends to increase or decrease the probability of long-term marital satisfaction.

Thus, a link to a statistical study on this subject would be helpful — keeping in mind that in Just4pleasure's case, as in many (perhaps most) cases throughout this forum, we're talking about CHHW marriages in which the wife dates and has sex with other men (or men and women) while her cuckold husband remains faithful to her, not "swinger" marriages in which both partners take lovers.

—Custer
 
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