Hi Ms. Lexxi,
Thank you for your individual replies to everyone's comments and suggestions, which show you’re thoughtfully considering the problem of how to make your husband your cuckold. That’s very positive.
Here are some additional thoughts I hope will assist you, based on the experiences of others. This “historical background” is relevant to your problem, IMO, and may help guide you.
First, consider "SoonToBe's" (STB’s) comment that it took 10 years to go from his wife acquiring a (presumably large) dildo they "named" to embed the idea in her mind of it being a lover she feels passionately about, to her finally taking a lover. Here is the time line, which suggests your situation is not nearly as depressing as his “10-year time scale” might imply.
29 March 2008: STB seeks advice from this forum on how to encourage his wife to fuck another man during a business trip.
http://www.cuckolds.com/forums/gene...-week-should-i-add-surprise-her-suitcase.html
4 April 2008: STB’s strategy succeeds; his wife fucks another man (and finds it hot).
http://www.cuckolds.com/forums/gene...eek-should-i-add-surprise-her-suitcase-5.html
25 April 2008: New thread. STB’s wife admits she wants to take a lover closer to home.
http://www.cuckolds.com/forums/general-cuckoldry/9459-yes-she-admits-she-wants-do-again.html
1 June 2008: STB formally becomes his wife’s cuckold (see post 47 of his new thread) when she begins fucking a married co-worker.
http://www.cuckolds.com/forums/general-cuckoldry/9459-yes-she-admits-she-wants-do-again-5.html
Time from STB’s first post to this forum seeking advice to his wife fucking another man: 6 days. Time from STB’s first post seeking advice to his wife taking a long-term lover whom she began fucking on a continuing basis: 64 days. I point out this time line in hopes of showing you that once you begin actively working to make your husband your cuckold, with advice and guidance from the members of this forum, it’s very unlikely you will need 10 years to succeed. More likely you’ll be able to do it on a time scale of roughly 1 to several months.
Now, consider your problem from a married woman’s point of view. The following thread was initiated by Louise in NW England on 16 May 2006. Her situation differed from yours (but is simultaneously similar), in the sense that her husband was urging her to make him her cuckold but Ms. Louise was unsure how to proceed. She felt insecure about it. As you will see, with advice, encouragement and guidance from forum members Ms. Louise did succeed… brilliantly, one might say. Her story is one of the better ones on this forum, IMO, told from a wife’s point of view. See:
http://www.cuckolds.com/forums/general-cuckoldry/505-hi-all-first-post-so-here-goes-curious.html
Finally, consider your problem from the point of view of you wanting to take a black man as your lover. (Please note that although that seems “socially unacceptable,” this presumably being at least part of the appeal, there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s as legitimate as you wanting to take any other man as your lover.) The following thread was initiated 4 May 2009 by “MinnesotaNate,” a 22 year-old white software engineer with a young white wife who, he learned to his shock, had developed a taste for black men. As you will see, his wife brought him to acceptance of her sexual preference although in an indirect way. Unfortunately, MinnesotaNate terminated his thread prematurely so we don’t know the long-term outcome. His account, however, is instructive. See:
http://www.cuckolds.com/forums/general-cuckoldry/12720-your-input-not-swingers.html
Given the above experiences of others you can take into account and build on (I hope), and your own description of your husband, I suggest: (1) viewing your husband as a natural cuckold… your cuckold-in-waiting, as it were; (2) viewing yourself as a woman who, like many married women, is fearful of bringing up your innermost sexual needs and desires with your husband, even indirectly… so much so you may fail to attain what should rightfully be yours; and (3) viewing your sexy black lover-in-waiting as a man with limited tolerance for inaction. He is hitting on you because he senses you want him, but at some point he may conclude you’re just teasing him and, because you’re a married woman, do not really have any intentions of following through. Rather, you’re just feeding your own ego. He may then turn his efforts toward seduction of some other white married woman. In other words, recognize that time is an important element in your seduction because you have competitors.
Given these considerations, I suggest finding an opportunity to discretely meet your black lover-in-waiting for lunch or a drink and explain, in your own seductive way, that you find him VERY attractive. Then, point out your problem with your husband which is, he does not yet acknowledge it is your right and prerogative to date other men. However, you think your husband can be brought around with an appropriate strategy and you want him to assist you. Enlist your black lover-in-waiting, in other words, as a co-conspirator. This will have the effect of convincing him you are sincere, while (indirectly, of course) offering him a reward (a hot sexual relationship with you) if he assists you successfully in “bringing your cuckold-in-waiting to heel” and acknowledging his proper role in your marriage.
Good luck with stepping up the boldness of your approach. I think you can succeed, but I also think increased boldness on your part will be a requirement.
—Custer
