Re.: Ms. Cucktail's account of transforming her husband to her cuckold
Hi Ms. Cucktail,
This post is in response to Ms. Lexxi’s request that I comment on your post # 95, of 21 July 2010, above.
Cucktail said:
I may be a little late to this party, but I'd like to offer my story as we [Ms. Lexxi and I] have very similar backgrounds. I’d like to give Ms. Lexxi another women's perspective.
This is excellent. The more married women post in forums like this expressing their desires to cuckold their husbands, and the strategies they have employed to successfully bring this about with full acquiescence and acknowledgment by their husbands of their need to fuck other men while married, the more the feeling will spread among women that it’s not only acceptable but desirable to express their sexuality to the fullest, and recognize they’re capable of being much more sexual (in many if not most cases), and certainly much more orgasmic, than their husbands.
Cucktail said:
I was a bookworm in high school, top marks, scholarships, and I too also had a little excess weight (not much, mind you, but enough that I didn’t like it). I did, however, have a very active social life and guys looked my way. That [may have been, at least in part,] because I came from a small town where guys had limited options.
There's nothing wrong with being a serious student. Working hard and taking your work seriously, when you’re a student and later when you have a job or profession, is the way you “get ahead” (as it’s called) and reach your goals. Your “active social life” and “guys looking your way” during your student days suggests you had… and still have, no doubt… an outgoing personality and a willingness to engage in at least “light” flirting during your daily conversations with men. These personality characteristics almost certainly are standing you in good stead now that you’re a married women who takes lovers.
Cucktail said:
I got married young, I was 23 years old. Within 3 years, I had two children and was feeling even worse about how I looked. Sure I exercised regularly, but could never get down to that weight I wanted.
Losing weight is primarily a matter of eating less, while paying attention to maintaining good nutrition. Regular exercise is desirable… essential, actually… but from the point of view of weight loss, it’s secondary. (Maybe you know this by now.)
Cucktail said:
Sex with hubby was always good. Up to that point in time, he was the only man I ever orgasmed with.
Very good. You’re a fortunate woman.
Cucktail said:
His cock isn't overly big or thick (he is about 6"), but I never wanted another.
So far, so good. It sounds like you were a “well adjusted” if conventional married woman.
Cucktail said:
One day, I saw on our computer's history that my husband was [visiting] chat sites [and] looking at porn. When he was away, I began going to these sites and day-dreaming [i.e., fantasizing]. I felt myself wanting to be these women. But, like you [Ms. Lexxi], I didn't know how to bring the topic up.
Oh, oh… trouble in paradise. A cloud on the horizon.
Cucktail said:
So I started talking to my husband during sex ... dirty talk. The first time I spread my ass and whispered in his ear that I'd love a big black cock in it now. He came so fast ... I knew then that this idea turned him on and that I was well on my way to getting what I wanted.
That was a VERY bold beginning. You took the bull by the horns (perhaps I should say, your husband by his cock) and you scored, big time. It’s my impression that most married women who want to expand their sexual horizons don’t have enough nerve to do that, or anything like it, and thus remain in a state of frustrated indecision re. how to proceed.
Cucktail said:
So I geared my dirty talk toward getting him involved, asking him what he wanted to see, telling him some of my fantasies, feeding off his reactions.
Excellent! It seems hard to imagine a better approach.
Cucktail said:
It took a lot of time, almost a year, but [during sex I always talked to him] about involving others in our sex lives and always, always during sex saying "would you like to see ‘that’?" If he said no, I never brought “that” up again; if he said yes, I concentrated on “that” more and more. Afterwards we'd always say it was only talk, but I knew different.
I’ll assume by “that” you mean specific unconventional or “somewhat dirty” sex acts, rather than involving others in your sexual encounters with your husband in a generic sense (the latter being your constant underlying theme). In any case, your approach shows high-level psychological insight. Always talking dirty to him during sex thus moving him just a little bit further forward each time was clearly effective. It’s hard to see how you could have moved him forward if the two of you always remained silent while fucking.
Cucktail said:
Finally, one day I felt brave and asked my husband for the first time, NOT during sex, if he wanted to take a step toward making our fantasies real. He said "yes." I couldn't get the smile off my face. We joined Adult FriendFinder (AFF) the next day. We had offers from couples, and single men, and we met people, and our journey began.
This too was a bold as well as essential key step on your part. Clearly, you were driving your husband’s transition toward acceptance of becoming your cuckold. When he said “yes,” you obviously knew you had succeeded. I would suggest, though, that your journey began (arguably) when you first spread your ass and told your husband “you’d like a big black cock in it right now”… then realized that statement turned him on.
Cucktail said:
We became swingers, and still are, but now I get to play with men while he watches a lot more.
How long, Ms. Cucktail, did it take to make the transition from “playing” with other couples with both of you participating more-or-less equally, to you fucking other men in front of your husband while he watched (mostly)?
Cucktail said:
That's probably where [Ms. Lexxi and I] differ. I was against my husband having sex with other women.
Yes, of course, and properly so.
Cucktail said:
But, I also felt guilty about it being so easy for me to find men, and we had joined AFF on the premise that we would find couples.
I think this is the classic pattern among couples who become swingers. The wife soon finds there are lots of men she can fuck as a married woman, while the husband finds there aren’t nearly as many “available” women who want to have sex with him as a married man. I gather it’s hard for “available” women to see what’s in it for them, unless the married man is really exceptional.
Cucktail said:
I soon had to accept that my husband would sometimes have sex with other women, but only with my permission — and I only gave him my permission when I wanted a guy whose wife wouldn't let him play without her playing too.
That sounds like a practical way to handle it.
Cucktail said:
A part of me thinks my husband knows this is all about me. He has, for instance, gone out and found men [for me] and brought them home. He is very accepting of me going out and having my fun.
VERY good. Your husband clearly understands and accepts his role as your cuckold. When you started your cuckold-to-be down this road, this is where you wanted to end up with him, and this is where Ms. Lexxi wants to end up with her cuckold-to-be.
Cucktail said:
I love him very much, would never leave him, and I want, no, I NEED him, to be a part of this in every aspect.
There appears to be no doubt you are a “conventional, frustrated wife to satisfied cuckoldress” success story. Your account is inspirational, in the sense it provides Ms. Lexxi — as well as other women who may read this thread — with a road man that may, potentially, work for her (and them).
Cucktail said:
It is all about communication, not keeping secrets, and being open... and for me, a small compromise… letting my husband have a little fun too, thus making [my taking lovers] easier for him to accept. I’m not sure [whether all this] will work for you, Ms. Lexxi, but I wish you luck and hope it does.
THANK YOU, Ms. Cucktail, for providing this valuable guidance to Ms. Lexxi on the art of transforming a husband, who expects his wife to remain faithful, to a cuckold who accepts that it is his wife’s privilege and prerogative to date and fuck whomever she wishes, while he remains faithful to her (or engages only in conditional extramarital sex, in your case, requiring your permission).
—Custer
