Hi Ms. Lexxi,
Thank you for your post, and welcome! It's always good when women like yourself participate in this forum.
Good! Wanting to make your husband your cuckold is the first and most important step toward doing it.
You're right; usually it's the husband who is trying to determine how to interest his wife in fucking other men. So, your question is a good one.
Well, if you're spending time viewing and reading interracial porn on the net, that suggests it's important to you and you want it. Since your time is valuable, if you did not consider IR sex erotic and desirable... well... you'd be spending your time in other ways. There's nothing wrong with your secret desire; as you say, your problem is to make it happen in ways that do not destroy your marriage and, if possible, strengthen your relationship with your husband.
Excellent! Having a potential lover with whom to cuckold your husband... whom you should now think of as your cuckold-in-waiting... will make it much easier than having to having to start from scratch. The saying "a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush" applies. Your black coworker, whom you should view as your lover-in-waiting (you are already, it sounds like), senses the chemistry between you. That, of course, is the reason he's hitting on you.
No, no... of course you don't want to ruin your marriage. Taking lovers in no way implies you don't love your husband.
Your goal, I suggest, should be to bring your husband to full acceptance of it being your privilege and prerogative, as his wife, to date other men and have sex with whomever you please, while his role is to remain faithful as your cuckold.
Attaining this goal will be most feasible if you first become the dominant partner in your marriage, acknowledged as such and, ideally, as head of your household by your cuckold-in-waiting. A fairly detailed "program" for moving your husband forward to this point is given by Lady Misato, here:
Lady Misato on Husbands v. Housework:
Real Women Don't Do Housework
Note Lady Misato's "program" does not include actually making your husband your cuckold, but it can clearly facilitate that.
A somewhat harsher "program" for making your husband your cuckold can be found here:
How to Cuckold your Husband, Ch. 01:
How to Cuckold Your Husband - How To - Literotica.com
How to Cuckold Your Husband, Ch. 02:
How to Cuckold Your Husband Ch. 02 - How To - Literotica.com
Which of these approaches you take, should you choose to proceed along these lines, should depend on your judgement of your husband's proclivities and your own desires and capabilities. You might find, for instance, that some combination of these approaches would be most effective.
At some point along the way, when you feel your cuckold-in-waiting is ready, you might point out this article and ask him for his thoughts on it.
Susan Gower on natural cuckolding of husbands by married women:
The Science of Cuckoldry Cuckold Couple
If he seems to respond well (not with angry rejection), you might also point out this article and ask your cuckold-in-waiting for his thoughts on it.
Dr. Cherry Lee on the cuckold husband / hotwife phenomenon:
The Cuckold Husband / Hotwife Phenomena : Scandalouswomen
An additional article that may be of interest to you (and your husband when you feel he's ready) can be found here:
Husband cuckolding as a marital lifestyle:
Cuckolding
I encourage you to write back with comments on how your husband is progressing. If you find you're having difficulties, you will probably be able to get some good advice from the members of this forum.
Good luck!
—Custer