Hi Ms. Cucktail,
This post is in response to Ms. Lexxi’s request that I comment on your post # 95, of 21 July 2010, above.
This is excellent. The more married women post in forums like this expressing their desires to cuckold their husbands, and the strategies they have employed to successfully bring this about with full acquiescence and acknowledgment by their husbands of their need to fuck other men while married, the more the feeling will spread among women that it’s not only acceptable but desirable to express their sexuality to the fullest, and recognize they’re capable of being much more sexual (in many if not most cases), and certainly much more orgasmic, than their husbands.
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Very good. You’re a fortunate woman.
So far, so good. It sounds like you were a “well adjusted” if conventional married woman.
Oh, oh… trouble in paradise. A cloud on the horizon.
That was a VERY bold beginning. You took the bull by the horns (perhaps I should say, your husband by his cock) and you scored, big time. It’s my impression that most married women who want to expand their sexual horizons don’t have enough nerve to do that, or anything like it, and thus remain in a state of frustrated indecision re. how to proceed.
Excellent! It seems hard to imagine a better approach.
I’ll assume by “that” you mean specific unconventional or “somewhat dirty” sex acts, rather than involving others in your sexual encounters with your husband in a generic sense (the latter being your constant underlying theme). In any case, your approach shows high-level psychological insight. Always talking dirty to him during sex thus moving him just a little bit further forward each time was clearly effective. It’s hard to see how you could have moved him forward if the two of you always remained silent while fucking.
This too was a bold as well as essential key step on your part. Clearly, you were driving your husband’s transition toward acceptance of becoming your cuckold. When he said “yes,” you obviously knew you had succeeded. I would suggest, though, that your journey began (arguably) when you first spread your ass and told your husband “you’d like a big black cock in it right now”… then realized that statement turned him on.
How long, Ms. Cucktail, did it take to make the transition from “playing” with other couples with both of you participating more-or-less equally, to you fucking other men in front of your husband while he watched (mostly)?
Yes, of course, and properly so.
I think this is the classic pattern among couples who become swingers. The wife soon finds there are lots of men she can fuck as a married woman, while the husband finds there aren’t nearly as many “available” women who want to have sex with him as a married man. I gather it’s hard for “available” women to see what’s in it for them, unless the married man is really exceptional.
That sounds like a practical way to handle it.
VERY good. Your husband clearly understands and accepts his role as your cuckold. When you started your cuckold-to-be down this road, this is where you wanted to end up with him, and this is where Ms. Lexxi wants to end up with her cuckold-to-be.
There appears to be no doubt you are a “conventional, frustrated wife to satisfied cuckoldress” success story. Your account is inspirational, in the sense it provides Ms. Lexxi — as well as other women who may read this thread — with a road man that may, potentially, work for her (and them).
THANK YOU, Ms. Cucktail, for providing this valuable guidance to Ms. Lexxi on the art of transforming a husband, who expects his wife to remain faithful, to a cuckold who accepts that it is his wife’s privilege and prerogative to date and fuck whomever she wishes, while he remains faithful to her (or engages only in conditional extramarital sex, in your case, requiring your permission).
—Custer