I suggest talking with her about some of the practical aspects....
Abadrs,
She went on to tell me that she is now horny almost 24 hours a day for him.
Sounds like your wife's "lover" is strong medicine for her....
As she's telling me this I'm getting harder and harder.
....and you.
She also said that I could watch her next time but I'm not allowed to help.
That's very kind of her.
Then after kind'a stalling I asked, is there more...? She says her new bf is a pimp, and wants her to work for him.
Interesting. What has she been doing? Does she have a day job, or does she stay home with her and your children?
So I would imagine.
She said it's probably going to happen, so if we're going to fight about it, lets get it over with.
Hm.... so, did you fight about it?
I was surprised, pissed, and super horny.
Sounds like you're somewhat conflicted about this and, despite being pissed off, are also turned on by the idea of your wife becoming a **********. But, are you secretly turned on or is it obvious to your wife that you are turned on by this...?
I couldn't believe he was able to get her to do this in such a short time.
Yes, that is interesting. Is it possible your wife has long been secretly attracted to the idea of being a **********?
She went on to say no customers would get her bareback, and she was probably going to start this weekend.
Hm.... your wife might want to consider how much control she'll have over whether her "johns" do or do not use condoms, once she starts down this road. What if some significant fraction of them refuse, and proceed to fuck her anyway, perhaps somewhat forcibly? What recourse would she have? Calling the police? I don't think so....
.... I can't believe he has such control over her. .... She has slept around for years, but I've never seen her under anyone's control like this.
I would suggest talking with your wife (reasonably, try not to be argumentative) at some length about this, to see whether you can identify why she wants to become a ********** with her "lover" as her pimp. Is it because he has threatened to leave her if she doesn't do this for him? Is it because for years, she has been working at a monotonous, low-paying job, and she sees ************ as offering excitement, much more sex (obviously, she's highly sexual), and a significantly-higher income? Is it because for years, she has been staying home taking care of her and your children, she's very bored with that, and sees ************ as offering the above advantages? Is it because she has long wanted, secretly, to become a ********** (in relation, perhaps, to her high sexuality), and her current "lover" has unexpectedly offered her an opportunity to fulfill this desire? Is it some combination of these motivations, or something else entirely?
When you begin to see what's going on with her on a psychological level (if you can do that), I would suggest beginning to talk with her about some practical considerations and some of the complications that could arise. For instance:
How often will she visit a public health clinic to be evaluated and, if necessary, treated for STDs, in particular for chlamydia? (My wife used to be a public health nurse; she said when the local prostitutes came in to the health center they almost always had chlamydia. It's the most common STD in the U.S.) See, for example:
A Guide to Common STDs
How will your wife handle it if she acquires an STD that's serious and incurable, and her pimp stops fucking her for that reason?
Does your wife appreciate that when she joins her pimp's stable (so to speak), he will almost certainly spend less time—perhaps much less time—fucking her, in part because he has other prostitutes to "look after," and also because he will probably move on to seduction of his next prospect?
Given that your wife's johns will be paying for her services, what will they pay, who will pay her (her johns or her pimp), what fraction of what her johns pay will she receive, how often will she be paid, and what will be the form of her payments (cash, or something else?). These questions are important, because — according to N. Kristof, who writes for the New York Times — it's common for prostitutes in the U.S. to be paid *nothing* by their pimps.
How will disputes between your wife and her pimp be resolved, and what guarantees will she have that he will not physically beat her when he is displeased? Suppose, for example, he demands she make more money for him, but because of other obligations (her and your children, for instance), she doesn't want to spend more time working for him? What happens then?
How will johns contact your wife, and where will she meet them? Would her pimp expect her to solicit while walking the streets? If so, that would be a very bad idea. Would he expect her to entertain her johns in her and your home? Obviously, that too would be a bad idea because of your children. Would it be in hotels / motels? If so, who will pay for the room and where (generally speaking) are the hotels he uses?
What will "the plan" be if your wife is arrested? Typically, how much time do prostitutes spend in prison if arrested in your area, and/or what level of fine do they pay? Who would pay bail and/or the fines?
As you discuss these things with your wife, you may find she is willing to take more time to think about it. Perhaps her enthusiasm will decrease....
—Custer