This is especially for Custer. Why do you keep encouraging behavior which can only lead to disaster for a marriage. I am not against wifes fucking other men if the husband is encouraging her. What I object to is the so called bull just moving in and taking over. Shame on you for thinking that is OK. When the bull starts making the rules it is all over for the husband. Its time to kick his ass out and if wifey doesn't like it kick her out too. This works long term only when there is 100% mutual accord between the husband and wife...Fuck the bull...he's just a dildo. If either one, wife or husband, gets the upper hand someone is gonna get smacked down. You are wrong in your statement that any woman has some sort of inalienable right to fuck any man she chooses. Hubby is totally in the loop or no fucking deal, and don't give me that shit about different strokes. Something profound happened between two people during a marriage ceremony. You don't forget that when you as a couple decide to alter your perceptions of fidelity. Its still supposed to be a two way deal.