As I have written, at length, in my Best Cuckold Experience thread, I have reached, I believe, the point of no return in my marriage. After several years of not only watching my wife fuck other men, but, willingly and gladly encouraging her and taking part in those relationships, I have hit a wall.
It seems to me that when you love a woman, it is inherent that you want to sexually be intimate with that woman and have an emotional intimacy, as well. We have all been taught that when a man loves a woman, they get married and stay faithful to one another. I'm not saying that's correct or true, but, we are taught that. As we grow in life and have relationships, it's the intimacy that I've always cherished the most. The closeness before, during and after sex. The hugs, the kisses, the intimate touching that happens every day. The bonds that grow between a man and a woman.
It turned me on to no end to think of my women being with another man. Why? I'll never fully know but I know it was a deep fantasy of mine. My wife and I made it a long term (well, a few years) reality. I loved to watch her fuck. I loved to watch her suck cock. I loved to watch another man sexually pleasure her. Yet, to endure it, to get past those feelings of what intimacy between a man and wife mean, I had to have some emotional detachment from her during these encounters. It's hard, in reality, to watch the woman you love passionately kiss another man, to hold his hand, to rub and touch his body. It's hard to watch them have passionate, wonderful sex and then feel such deep, intimate feelings for her. So, I basically put up an emotional wall, I become emotionally detached while she was with her lovers. As the years passed, those walls got larger, the detachment greater. I still love her and will always love her, but, it seems (in my head) I'm no longer her "one and only", no longer her husband, but her friend. As friends we love each other. We are friends that still love to make love to each other, but, there's always someone in between.
I mean, it's difficult to have sex with her, bring her to orgasm and hear her tell me she loves me and, then, the next day, see her have equally great and passionate sex with someone else. So, I simply put some emotional distance between us as the years passed. The pleasure was great but there has always been pain, too.
Finally, the emotional gulf between us seems to large. I'm leaving her. I feel terrible because, as I have said, I wanted her to do these things. I enjoyed them. I loved the highly erotic nature of our life. When I went in to our marriage (even when we started dating) she made it clear that she was going to be with other men. So, it's not like I didn't know these things or want them to happen.
What I didn't know was that it would eventually leave me feeling so detached and, in some ways, empty.
Honestly, I'd love to know how you long time cucks get by these things. Does anyone have these feelings other than me?
It seems to me that when you love a woman, it is inherent that you want to sexually be intimate with that woman and have an emotional intimacy, as well. We have all been taught that when a man loves a woman, they get married and stay faithful to one another. I'm not saying that's correct or true, but, we are taught that. As we grow in life and have relationships, it's the intimacy that I've always cherished the most. The closeness before, during and after sex. The hugs, the kisses, the intimate touching that happens every day. The bonds that grow between a man and a woman.
It turned me on to no end to think of my women being with another man. Why? I'll never fully know but I know it was a deep fantasy of mine. My wife and I made it a long term (well, a few years) reality. I loved to watch her fuck. I loved to watch her suck cock. I loved to watch another man sexually pleasure her. Yet, to endure it, to get past those feelings of what intimacy between a man and wife mean, I had to have some emotional detachment from her during these encounters. It's hard, in reality, to watch the woman you love passionately kiss another man, to hold his hand, to rub and touch his body. It's hard to watch them have passionate, wonderful sex and then feel such deep, intimate feelings for her. So, I basically put up an emotional wall, I become emotionally detached while she was with her lovers. As the years passed, those walls got larger, the detachment greater. I still love her and will always love her, but, it seems (in my head) I'm no longer her "one and only", no longer her husband, but her friend. As friends we love each other. We are friends that still love to make love to each other, but, there's always someone in between.
I mean, it's difficult to have sex with her, bring her to orgasm and hear her tell me she loves me and, then, the next day, see her have equally great and passionate sex with someone else. So, I simply put some emotional distance between us as the years passed. The pleasure was great but there has always been pain, too.
Finally, the emotional gulf between us seems to large. I'm leaving her. I feel terrible because, as I have said, I wanted her to do these things. I enjoyed them. I loved the highly erotic nature of our life. When I went in to our marriage (even when we started dating) she made it clear that she was going to be with other men. So, it's not like I didn't know these things or want them to happen.
What I didn't know was that it would eventually leave me feeling so detached and, in some ways, empty.
Honestly, I'd love to know how you long time cucks get by these things. Does anyone have these feelings other than me?