It has been a long time working now. I got her a black dildo. She is going on the pill on her own suggestion and started drinking again. She bought something to boost her labido and invited two black friends over from work to party. One of the guys she says is like a brother. Has anyone heard this before? She still claims not to be into it, but gets super wet talking dirty about it during sex. I think she is adding alcohol to the mix to try it trying to make it spontaneous. We will see what comes. I'll keep you posted. I have been working on this for a number of years. I've been vary sutely persistant.