I've been a cuckold but just found out!

[KD10387]

Hello all! This is my first time posting here for advice or opinions, so I am excited to hear from ya'll!

I have been with my girlfriend for about 2 years now and I just dawned on me that she may be going elsewhere for the dick. Not only does she never seem turned on or interested in having sex with me, but when WE DO have sex, she seems really bored and I can swear that her vagina is very loose. I have an average size penis and when I stick it inside her, I barely feel like I am inside her, so I'm sure that she probably feels nothing as well. I had started dating her shortly after she had broken up with her boyfriend of several years, so either he was really hung and stretched her out, or I am just being played a fool and she is getting fucked by another man who is much bigger than me. She tends to giggle and laugh at me when I try to seduce her with foreplay and such, which makes me feel even more small than I really am. Also, once she cums (or at least claims that she cums), she automatically wants me to finish as well, forcing me to jerk myself off, regardless of whether or not I have reached my climax.

I am also practically the "housewife" who does the dishes, cleans, folds laundry and such. She helps a tiny bit but if it weren't for me keeping things up, our house would be a mess all the time. Her new thing now is that she makes me pick a perfume for her to wear every morning before she leaves for work. I finally have come to realization that she is most likely cheating on me and fucking someone with a big dick because she gets no pleasure from mine and seems very bored with me sexually.

What are your opinions of my issue? I will post pics of her once I get some feedback!

 

[George]

Tell us more about you and your relationship. What's in it for you? Why do you want to live with her? What turns you on?
Same questions for her. Knowing more the forum members' responses will be more on target.

OK, a reply. Yup, you are probably right. She has someone else.

 

[KD10387]

Tell us more about you and your relationship. What's in it for you? Why do you want to live with her? What turns you on?
Same questions for her. Knowing more the forum members' responses will be more on target.

OK, a reply. Yup, you are probably right. She has someone else.

Thanks for your reply!

I live with her because we actually have a great relationship besides the sexual aspect of it. We have lots of fun together and are into the same things. She has helped me in times of need (big time) with finances and other things, so I feel as if she is the right one for me.

But maybe not sexually??

 

[zippless]

How do you feel about her fucking someone else? Perhaps she is ok with you fucking someone else with a tighter twat. Have you considered she is just not interested in sex?

 

[KD10387]

How do you feel about her fucking someone else? Perhaps she is ok with you fucking someone else with a tighter twat. Have you considered she is just not interested in sex?

Honestly, if she is fucking another man, I wouldn't be too upset. The reason being because from what I've noticed, it seems that I do not satisfy her the way that she is used to, sexually, but yet, she enjoys who I am as a person when it comes to the rest of our relationship. She was recently invited on a girls night out to the a casino/hotel type place in a few weeks, so I'm assuming she will be doing her business there, especially since I am not invited due to it being a "girls night".

I can definitely sense and feel that she has been sexually pleasured by larger men because I give it my all in the bedroom and she barely shows any favorable responses towards me.

I mean, now she has me picking her perfumes in the morning for her. That tells me that she wants men to smell her and she wants the attention. Maybe it's even for her side lover who pleasures her? I don't know anymore!

 

[SquirmingSub]

Very interesting thread - maybe you should simply come out and ask her if she is enjoying another person for her sexual enjoyment. Share with her your feelings overall.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Hello all! This is my first time posting here for advice or opinions, so I am excited to hear from ya'll!

Welcome to the forum!

I am practically the "housewife" who does the dishes, cleans, folds laundry and such. She helps a tiny bit but if it weren't for me keeping things up, our house would be a mess all the time.

This, and the remainder of your post, suggest you are a natural cuckold.

Her new thing is, she makes me pick a perfume for her to wear every morning before she leaves for work.

The most obvious interpretation would be, she wants to make sure her perfume is attractive each day to one or more of the men she works with. To her way of thinking, since you're a man your sense of smell must be "representative" of men in general; thus, if you select a perfume with a scent you like, that implies the men she wants to attract at work will also find it appealing.

This, of course, may be a false assumption — but, if they tell her she smells nice, she may feel that justifies her assumption.

I finally have come to realization that she is most likely cheating on me with someone with a big dick, because [her pussy seems stretched and] she gets no pleasure from mine, and seems very bored with me sexually.

Sounds like a logical conclusion. Rather than agonizing over it and trying to figure out elaborate ways to determine whether this is true, however, I suggest pointing out these two articles to your woman:

Susan Gower on natural cuckolding of husbands by married women:
http://cuckoldcouple.wordpress.com/the-science-of-cuckoldry/

Dr. Cherry Lee on the cuckold husband / hotwife phenomenon:
http://cuckoldcouple.wordpress.com/the-cuckold-phenomena/

(after reading them yourself, of course). Then, suggest to her straight out, in a suitably romantic setting — evening glasses of wine, soft music, etc. — that the two of you adopt a "hot woman / cuckold boyfriend" form of relationship, in which she will be free to date, seduce, and fuck whomever she wishes, while you will agree to remain faithful to her. A relationship in which you will help ensure your woman has adequate time and energy to date and fuck other men by doing most of the housework (which you are doing anyway).

 

[Nazareth]

If she was just uninterested in sex with you, I tend to doubt she would be taking the time to laugh and scoff at your attempts of foreplay.
I could understand her being bored with sex with you, and therefore not showing any enthusiasm, but it still wouldn't fit with the belittling.
Have you seen any other evidence of her getting fucked? Stretched/loose pussy lips, cum stains in panties or on her?
Has she started dressing differently? New clothes, changing makeup or hairstyle? Has she always worn perfume?
A pussy just doesn't become loose on its' own....

 

[KD10387]

Welcome to the forum!



This, and the remainder of your post, suggest you are a natural cuckold.



The most obvious interpretation would be, she wants to make sure her perfume is attractive each day to one or more of the men she works with. To her way of thinking, since you're a man your sense of smell must be "representative" of men in general; thus, if you select a perfume with a scent you like, that implies the men she wants to attract at work will also find it appealing.

This, of course, may be a false assumption — but, if they tell her she smells nice, she may feel that justifies her assumption.



Sounds like a logical conclusion. Rather than agonizing over it and trying to figure out elaborate ways to determine whether this is true, however, I suggest pointing out these two articles to your woman:

Susan Gower on natural cuckolding of husbands by married women:
http://cuckoldcouple.wordpress.com/the-science-of-cuckoldry/

Dr. Cherry Lee on the cuckold husband / hotwife phenomenon:
http://cuckoldcouple.wordpress.com/the-cuckold-phenomena/

(after reading them yourself, of course). Then, suggest to her straight out, in a suitably romantic setting — evening glasses of wine, soft music, etc. — that the two of you adopt a "hot woman / cuckold boyfriend" form of relationship, in which she will be free to date, seduce, and fuck whomever she wishes, while you will agree to remain faithful to her. A relationship in which you will help ensure your woman has adequate time and energy to date and fuck other men by doing most of the housework (which you are doing anyway).

Wow! Thank you for really breaking it down! It really makes total sense to me now!

But yes, I am basically doing all the chores and things on my days off, basically like the housewife of the home. I drop her off and pick her up from work each day that I am off from work. I clean the bathroom, toilet, sink, dishes, sweep and clean the tables after dinner, etc. The most she'll do is throw the garbage in the trash can from time to time. She even has me folding her laundry as well. (Panties, bra's, etc.)

But with all this being said and assumed, it for some reason turns me on to think that she is getting stretched by another man!

 

[KD10387]

If she was just uninterested in sex with you, I tend to doubt she would be taking the time to laugh and scoff at your attempts of foreplay.
I could understand her being bored with sex with you, and therefore not showing any enthusiasm, but it still wouldn't fit with the belittling.
Have you seen any other evidence of her getting fucked? Stretched/loose pussy lips, cum stains in panties or on her?
Has she started dressing differently? New clothes, changing makeup or hairstyle? Has she always worn perfume?
A pussy just doesn't become loose on its' own....

Thanks for your reply!

I haven't really investigated her panties to check for any evidence, but I can definitely tell you that her pussy is loose almost every time we have sex. (And we barely have sex twice a week, if that) I do not think she has any toys, though I could be wrong. I must admit that as of late, she has been getting a bit more dressy for work and wearing make-up more often, along with the perfume that I pick for her each morning. She orders me to get her glasses of wine, etc. and just automatically expects me to get her a drink, food, or anything that she may want while she sits on the couch and relaxes.

She was with her ex-boyfriend for a long amount of years and it's quite possible that she still may be going to him on the side for sex, because as I've said, I am not very big, but yet, her pussy always seems like it's wide open and she always seems not satisfied with my sex skills, almost as if she is used to a bigger man who stretches her real good. A few nights ago, shockingly, she let me put it in her ass for the first time and even THEN, she didn't make a noise or anything, almost to the point that I wasn't even inserted in her ass. Maybe she takes it in the ass as well on the side with a bigger man? Because usually anal sex is always painful for a woman and for her to not make a peep, it was really weird, as again, she seemed bored of it.

And to top it all off, she refers to me penis as "peepee" !!!

 

[Custer Laststand]

KD,

Re.:

I live with [my woman] because we have a great relationship, besides the sexual aspects of it. We have lots of fun together and are into the same things. She has helped me in times of need (big time) with finances and other things, so I feel as if she is the right one for me. But, maybe not sexually...?

Re. unsatisfactory sex: you should never enter your woman before giving her cunnilingus (to put it more bluntly, sucking her cunt) until she orgasms at least once. If you've never done it before and feel you aren't "expert" at that, google "how to give a woman cunnilingus" (without quotes). If she orgasms from cunnilingus, then allows you to enter her so you can orgasm in her pussy, you can consider that a plus. But, if she doesn't allow you to enter her subsequently, you should accept that.

Since your woman has helped you financially big time (as you say) when you needed that, it would also be appropriate for you to show your appreciation by becoming her ass kisser. This should be done after sucking her cunt (or on a stand-alone basis), never before, because of the risk of anal bacteria infecting her pussy. That can happen, even though it's her own anal bacteria.

This should be preceded by suitably-erotic whispering in her ear in a low, hoarse voice ("I want to kiss your ass, princess... I want you to feel the satisfaction of my tongue in your anus...") to get her in the mood. A possible position would be with her, partially dressed and her ass *******, kneeling on both knees on your couch, her arms crossed on the back of the couch, with you fully nude, on your knees on the floor, your face between her cheeks, your lips kissing her asshole, and your tongue giving her analingus.

The anus has thousands of nerve endings. Some women can orgasm from analingus. If your woman is among them, she may find your ass-kissing, with its associated symbolic significance, especially satisfying.

.... I am basically doing all the chores and things on my days off, basically like the housewife of the home. I drop her off and pick her up from work each day that I am off from work. I clean the bathroom, toilet, sink, dishes, sweep and clean the tables after dinner, etc.

That's totally appropriate and commendable. Clearly, you're a natural submissive husband-to-be (you hope), as well as a natural cuckold-in-waiting (you also hope).

I put it that way because the definition is: "cuckold — a man with an unfaithful wife." Thus, since you and your woman are not married you are not formally her cuckold. But, it sounds like you're making progress and have the right inclinations.

To move toward formally putting your relationship on a "hot woman / submissive cuckold boyfriend" basis, I suggest ordering a copy of:

Sutton, Elise, 2003, Female Domination: An exploration of the male desire for loving female authority (298 pp., softcover)

and giving it to your woman as a gift. Then, ask her if she will allow you to read it jointly with her.

[Disclaimer: I do not have any kind of relationship with Ms. Elise, and do not benefit financially or in any other way from recommending her book(s).]

The most she'll do is throw the garbage in the trash can from time to time. She even has me folding her laundry as well (panties, bra's, etc.).

All totally appropriate. As the woman of her household, she should not do any of the housework. That should be entirely your responsibility. It sounds like you have adapted and are handling it well.

With all this being said and assumed,for some reason it turns me on to think she is getting stretched by another man!

There's nothing wrong with that. If you spend some time reading around in this forum, you'll see there are lots of other men who secretly want their wives to dominate and cuckold them, but they're afraid to tell them so (because, in the judeo-christian tradition, that's considered "unmanly"). But, more and more people are rejecting that unjustifiably patriarchal anti-woman ethic.

—Custer

 

[Saraha]

Have you tried your girlfriend's panties on to see if they feel right for you to wear every day?

 

[KD10387]

Thanks again for your reply Custer!

I have been watching a porn video repetitively of a woman getting her pussy and ass licked by her man and each time I watch it, I just imagine how my girlfriends ass would taste and if she would enjoy it.

Another thing that just came to my mind is that she used to take birth control when we first started dating, therefore I used to cum inside her all the time. Then, all of a sudden, she claims she stopped taking them but gave no reason why. When we have sex, I still don't use a condom but I'm also not allowed to cum in her anymore. I believe she took the birth control pills before we met with her ex-boyfriend, and I still believe that she is still taking them, but just not for my pleasure, but rather for more manly side piece.

With the information given, do you think she is getting fucked by another man?

 

[KD10387]

Have you tried your girlfriend's panties on to see if they feel right for you to wear every day?

Hello there Saraha! By any chance, are you a female?

It's funny that you ask that because I actually do wear her thongs while she's at work. I sniff them and wear them, usually clean ones. Once I'm done, I put them back in her drawer where I found them.

I love wearing her thongs and smelling her scent!

 

[Saraha]

I ran a pb 522metres uphill in my sports bra and short-shorts this morning on a meandering goat track in 69.38 secs.

The best of the bare-foot native runners (running in the nude to tease me) are clocking 62-63 secs. They can lift me off the ground with one hand.

 

[Saraha]

If you want to match the imagination of a woman, wear some panties to help get your fantasies off to a good start.

 

[KD10387]

If you want to match the imagination of a woman, wear some panties to help get your fantasies off to a good start.

Thanks for your replies, though I am not sure what your message was with your first one, lol!

I already do wear her panties while she is at work and I am home on my days off. I can't imagine she would be too happy if she ever found out, but who knows, right? I feel as if she is losing more and more respect for me each day. The reason being is because I only work part-time right now, while she works full-time. I do all of the "womanly" chores around the house each day for her, therefore she can come home after a hard days work and put her feet up. Lately, I have had the urge to surprise her and just go down on her and lick her pussy and ass to show her how low I am compared to her. I'd love to do it on a day when she hasn't showered, to really prove my worth to her and clean her up. But again, I am not sure how she would react.

She never seems desperate for sex, even though we only have sex about once or twice a week, at best. I am basically her slave already but I just fully realized it, which is why I had to get some input from you all here.

Do you guys want me to post a picture of her here or no?

 

[Custer Laststand]

Thanks again for your reply Custer!

You're welcome. But, I don't see any indications that you're taking action in any of the ways that will move you forward.

I have been watching a porn video repetitively of a woman getting her pussy and ass licked by her man and each time I watch it, I just imagine how my girlfriends ass would taste and if she would enjoy it.

Good. It sounds like you're a natural cunt sucker and ass kisser. But, watching a porn video does not constitute sexually satisfying your woman. Your co-star is living with you, so translate what you've been imagining doing into action.

Since you say the two of you have sex once or twice a week, the next time you're preparing for sex whisper in her ear, "I want to kiss your thighs..." She'll probably say, "Mmm..." (or something that doesn't amount to a definite yes or no — she may think to herself, "at last.") Then, without waiting for a definite reply, proceed as if she said "yes" and you know exactly what you're doing. Slide up her dress, or slip down her pants or whatever she's wearing, then go down on your knees and begin kissing her inner thighs while caressing her with your hands. Work your way up to her pussy, then... through her panties... begin kissing and licking her pussy. Then, slide her panties down, and begin giving her cunnilingus (as shown in your porn video).

Continue gently and sensuously until she orgasms. Then — assuming you're in her living room, and she's sitting on your couch — help her to her feet, whisper in her ear "Now, I want to kiss your ass...", then position her gently on her knees with her elbows (/arms) on the couch back rest. Then, go down on your knees and begin kissing her ass as shown in your porn video. Gently and sensuously slide your tongue in and out of her asshole, alternating with kissing her anus while holding her cheeks gently spread with your hands.

You can do it! Consider this an assignment.

Another thing that just came to my mind is, she used to take birth control when we first started dating, therefore I used to cum inside her all the time. Then, all of a sudden, she claims she stopped taking them but gave no reason why. When we have sex, I still don't use a condom but I'm also not allowed to cum in her anymore.

She probably doesn't allow you to cum inside her because you were ejaculating prematurely, thereby preventing her from reaching orgasm.

I believe she took the birth control pills before we met with her ex-boyfriend, and I believe that she is still taking them, but not for my pleasure, but rather for her more-manly side piece(s).

If your woman wasn't reaching orgasm before you ejaculated inside her, there's no point in her allowing you to ejaculate inside her.

In any case, that's perfect. Since she doesn't allow you to cum inside her, you will lose nothing, but she may gain a lot, by you giving her cunninlingus and/or analingus each time you have sex.

With the information given, do you think she is getting fucked by another man?

I already answered this question. But, I think you're preoccupied with the wrong problem. Your primary problem is, you don't know how to satisfy your woman. She's been trying to tell you that, indirectly, in hopes that you will learn. But, instead of moving forward, you keep writing posts to this forum saying, indirectly, that you're afraid to try,

 

[jwff]

With the information given, do you think she is getting fucked by another man?

No, I don't think so.

I'm going to stick a different, and admittedly, less sexy interpretation here.

First off, the tightness of your GF has nothing to do with her sexual experience (or lack thereof). I know, it's not a very popular thing to say on a forum like this. But the human vagina is designed to pass babies; childbirth might stretch the vagina (and generally, only for older women) but even the most well endowed man most certainly will not.

The vagina actually loosens during sexual arousal to ease penetration. So, what you're feeling might just be a sign that you're doing a good job.

That said, if you're having trouble with sex on account of the sensation, you might consider (delicately) suggesting Kegel exercises to your wife - the results could bring benefits for both of you.

As a second point, I'm sensing a certain disconnect from your writing between yourself and your GF. On one hand, you've been indulging submissive tendencies (like wearing her panties), but you've left her oblivious to your interests and activities. On the other, you've been doing all the chores - not out of mutual agreement, but simply because you've been willing to bear with her. And, both of you seem not to enjoy sex, but aren't explicit about sharing your feelings with one another. It sounds to me - at least from the little bit that you've shared so far - that there might be a deficiency in communication that you two might need to address. Playing along as your partner ignores you is not quite the same as engaging in a D/S relationship that is mutually consented to (and enjoyed).

Finally, I'd add that, if cuckolding and submission are things that you enjoy, you should consider bringing them up with your GF. I don't think that your GF is cheating on you, but she might consider doing so if you discuss your cuckold desires with her; if you are submissive, it's a lot more interesting to play around with this in a relationship that actively acknowledges this dynamic, rather than trying to realize it while your partner is ignorant of your interests.

 

[KD10387]

Continue gently and sensuously until she orgasms. Then — assuming you're in her living room, and she's sitting on your couch — help her to her feet, whisper in her ear "Now, I want to kiss your ass...", then position her gently on her knees with her elbows (/arms) on the couch back rest. Then, go down on your knees and begin kissing her ass as shown in your porn video. Gently and sensuously slide your tongue in and out of her asshole, alternating with kissing her anus while holding her cheeks gently spread with your hands.

First off, I want to thank everyone who has been contributing to my thread and for their input!

Custer, I am glad to say that I finally manned up and took your advice. Last night, she was finally in the mood to get down to business with me, and boy was it great! I took your advice and went down her (first time since we've been dating) I started off just basically tongue punching her vagina, while gently spreading her lips apart so I could gain easier access to her hole. She was so turned on and surprised that she grabbed the back of my head and pushed my face deeper into her vagina! It was awesome! After a few minutes of that, I decided to try and see if she would 69 with me, which was a mistake because she didn't.

Nonetheless, since 69 wasn't an option and since I realized how turned on she was, I flipped her over onto her knees (her face was facing the bed stand) and spread her butt cheeks apart and went in for the anal kill! I started massaging her vagina with my fingers as I licked her butt hole all around, inside and out. Boy did she love every second of it! (It was by far the most turned on I have ever witnessed her) I continued to pleasure her and basically gave up my own rights to any pleasure, as I wanted to dedicate this night to her feminity and strength over me. After she came multiple times, she said she couldn't go any longer and we cuddled and started talking about things.

I had asked her if she enjoyed it, which she said she did (very much so at that) and we continued to talk. She apologized to me for never really enticing the sexual moments in our relationship, claiming that she has been dealing with some guilt. When I asked her why she felt guilty, she cracked and told me that she has had sex with her ex multiple times since me and her started dating! (Even in our own bed that I sleep in every night!) I was shocked but almost at ease at the same time! She said that she had been nervous that I may have been catching on due to the fact that she never wanted to have sex with me, etc. She even admitted that her ex had came inside her once because he forgot to buy condoms, she she had him but her the "Plan B" pill the next morning. She basically came completely clean with me and told me every little detail about her cheating experiences with her ex in the last 3 months.

She was almost lost for words when I told her that it's ok and that I forgive her. It was very awkward for me but I was so turned on, knowing that I possibly just cleaned all her holes for her since the last time her ex was inside of her. Very awkward but exciting moment for me, I must admit!

So we ended the conversation on a high note, basically with me accepting that she has been cheating on me with her ex. I didn't get mad or go against her, but rather just kind of brushed it off and sent a signal to her in which I made her feel that it was OK for her to cheat, and that it didn't bother me. I hope she continues to cheat and eventually this may lead to me being a full cuckold, down the road!