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My wife is Chinese too, although I'm white. She is pretty wild in bed and over the years she has come around to teasing me about other guys and such. But, she has a tough time breaking over that barrier of actually doing something with someone else. We are playing a game now that if she is approached by someone else, she can't say no...must say yes. I don't know if she will actually follow through in the game or not. But I know she is thinking of it often. Hang in there and don't give up. For many guys here, its a multi-year process of introducing your fantasy and for her to get into it as well... Good luck, you have a beautiful wife.