Oregon Couple, 28f/31m. Very real, down to earth, fun-loving, etc.... Yes, she knows all about my desire to see her get fucked by a hung black guy and she is turned on by the idea. We have been together a little over a year. I introduced the idea to her about 6 months ago. She isn't sure about doing it for real yet and she might or might not ever do it for real. Obviously fantasy is much different than reality for a variety of reasons. I agree with her on that since there are complications that could come up. However, the fantasy turns me on enough I really want this to happen badly for her. Any advice to help her over the edge? I've already introduced her to interracial videos and a large black vibrator. She liked the toy the couple times she has used it. She is very petite and has a small pussy, but she showed some serious potential to be a "size queen" based on her ability to handle that toy and how much she loved it once she adjusted to the size and how much she came on it. However, she's not much for adult movies...her opinion is most pornos are not a turnon since it just is not sensual enough for her tastes. Most adult movies are targeted towards men (for obvious reasons) and are pretty much not very "sexy" or "sensual". Most concentrate on "just fucking" and leave very little room for the average woman to get turned on. Any suggestions on some interracial movies that are geared towards women?
The fantasy really seems to get her wet and make her cum if/when she allows me to bring it up in bed. About 2 months ago she told me she was ready to "go for it for real" and told me to "find the right guy", even suggested we go to a nearby city to make it happen. In that time we've been incredibly busy and although I've had my eyes peeled and ears to the tracks have not found the right person yet. More recently in the past week or so she has started getting frustrated that I bring it up too much...so I've had to knock it off the past week or so and chill out about it. I think I started getting overly excited that she finally agreed to do it for real so I guess I must have brought it up more often in the bedroom than she is comfortable with. The truth is I really don't talk about it all that much (maybe once every 5 or 6 times we have sex, so every 3rd or 4th day I'll bring it up...probably on average no more than once a week generally) but the way she characterizes it lately is I "talk about it all the time". I don't think that's fair but it does point out she goes "back and forth" a lot on this and lately she is "pushing back" against the idea again.
I really want this to happen but don't want to push it to where she gets so pissed she says she'll never do it. I have some experience getting a couple of my exes to "go black" so I'm not a total rookie at this. It seems none of the "good girls" are easily talked into this sort of thing and they generally never really "get it" or understand it until *after* they try the real thing. In other words, it seems like a pretty common thing to be resistant to these types of ideas for a variety of reasons, even "scared" by it, until AFTER the girl gets that BBC up in her for real and then has her eyes opened to how fun it can be. In that regard, it seems this girl is no different. So, perhaps patience is the always the best strategy. Still, I find myself getting a little bit frustrated at this situation. It's clear it really really turns her on big time judging by how wet she gets and how easily and often she cums if we talk about it when we fuck...BUT...she seems to "overthink" things and worry a lot about the "negatives", which makes her change her opinion on the idea a lot. I know a lot of her resistance is that she doesn't think "good girls" do this sort of thing...and I know that she wonders what effect it will have on our relationship in the long run and if I'll lose respect or love her less. I also think she worries she might not like it enough...or maybe "too much".
I keep telling her the same response: I would never want to try to convince her to do anything that I didn't truly believe was in her own best interests, that I'll love her at least as much if not more afterwards, and that if she doesn't ever want to do it again after the first time then that is just fine by me. By the same token, if she loves it and can't get enough I'll be supportive of that as well.
I'd never want her to do anything I think might hurt her in any way. I truly believe this is an "experience" that she will love and may significantly change her in a good way. At the very least the pure physical pleasure will blow her mind (given the right black guy). But she seems to fear a lot of "possible eventualities" that quite simply I think are pretty sillly. I know it's my job to reassure her and be patient. But any further advice would be much appreciated.
The fantasy really seems to get her wet and make her cum if/when she allows me to bring it up in bed. About 2 months ago she told me she was ready to "go for it for real" and told me to "find the right guy", even suggested we go to a nearby city to make it happen. In that time we've been incredibly busy and although I've had my eyes peeled and ears to the tracks have not found the right person yet. More recently in the past week or so she has started getting frustrated that I bring it up too much...so I've had to knock it off the past week or so and chill out about it. I think I started getting overly excited that she finally agreed to do it for real so I guess I must have brought it up more often in the bedroom than she is comfortable with. The truth is I really don't talk about it all that much (maybe once every 5 or 6 times we have sex, so every 3rd or 4th day I'll bring it up...probably on average no more than once a week generally) but the way she characterizes it lately is I "talk about it all the time". I don't think that's fair but it does point out she goes "back and forth" a lot on this and lately she is "pushing back" against the idea again.
I really want this to happen but don't want to push it to where she gets so pissed she says she'll never do it. I have some experience getting a couple of my exes to "go black" so I'm not a total rookie at this. It seems none of the "good girls" are easily talked into this sort of thing and they generally never really "get it" or understand it until *after* they try the real thing. In other words, it seems like a pretty common thing to be resistant to these types of ideas for a variety of reasons, even "scared" by it, until AFTER the girl gets that BBC up in her for real and then has her eyes opened to how fun it can be. In that regard, it seems this girl is no different. So, perhaps patience is the always the best strategy. Still, I find myself getting a little bit frustrated at this situation. It's clear it really really turns her on big time judging by how wet she gets and how easily and often she cums if we talk about it when we fuck...BUT...she seems to "overthink" things and worry a lot about the "negatives", which makes her change her opinion on the idea a lot. I know a lot of her resistance is that she doesn't think "good girls" do this sort of thing...and I know that she wonders what effect it will have on our relationship in the long run and if I'll lose respect or love her less. I also think she worries she might not like it enough...or maybe "too much".
I keep telling her the same response: I would never want to try to convince her to do anything that I didn't truly believe was in her own best interests, that I'll love her at least as much if not more afterwards, and that if she doesn't ever want to do it again after the first time then that is just fine by me. By the same token, if she loves it and can't get enough I'll be supportive of that as well.
I'd never want her to do anything I think might hurt her in any way. I truly believe this is an "experience" that she will love and may significantly change her in a good way. At the very least the pure physical pleasure will blow her mind (given the right black guy). But she seems to fear a lot of "possible eventualities" that quite simply I think are pretty sillly. I know it's my job to reassure her and be patient. But any further advice would be much appreciated.
