So I moved to a foreign country and married this cute little Asian chick. We've been married for about seven years and we have a child together. From the beginning of our relationship, my wife said that she realized I still had sexual impulses which are hard to control and, if I was unfaithful to her, she would do her best to understand and live with it. I asked her if she planned to do anything like that in return and she said she wouldn't. She said she was perfectly happy being the faithful, devoted wife and that she understood that is just the way men are. That arrangement sounds pretty good in writing, but it didn't fare quite so well in practice.
There was plenty of hurt and resentment that was stirred up when I had my inevitable flings. But after each brief tryst, we always settled back down to a very loving and stable relationship. For several years, I had the best of both worlds; an active sex life AND a loving relationship. That is until I made one fatal mistake.
One night, while my wife was sleeping, I quietly slipped out of bed and into one of our other bedrooms where my wife's twin sister (who is also married) was spending the night. We tried to fuck as quietly and secretly as possible, but just as we were enjoying some post-coital bliss I heard the neighboring door open. My wife caught me in bed with her twin sister. She wasn't happy about that at all. She later said that she was upset because she couldn't hate her sister as she had hated all the others I had fucked.
Now I had mentioned to my wife how I fantasized about fucking her sister before all this happened and my wife expressed apathy on the subject. But for the first time in our relationship, she spent the following night in a hotel room and didn't contact me. I thought perhaps I had driven her to another man then, but it seems I was wrong. At least, I was wrong then.
Anyway, she returned and we tried to resume our relationship as usual, but something was different and it seemed to just keep getting worse for the next year or so. She kept acting angry and irritable. She wasn't interested in sex at all and kept complaining every time we did it. She was very selfish and always negative about everything in her life. However, keep in mind that all these changes were gradual, so I didn't really take notice right away.
I also noticed that she seemed more interested and outgoing with other Caucasian men. She was much more flirtatious and ... joked about having an affair much more frequently than before. Was it Shakespeare who said something like "so much truth is said in jest"? I definitely got the feeling that something was going on in her head, though she swore that nothing had changed.
There was also the fact that my wife had remained in contact with her ex-boyfriend the entire time she knew me. He was a French man she had had a casual relationship with for two years before she met me. She had done a lot of sexual exploration with him in the past and I was always a little uncomfortable with allowing her to keep in touch with him, especially since he often sent her dirty messages on her cell phone, which I would occasionally glance at. But my wife was pretty cool about my extramarital flings, so I tried to be cool with her remaining friends with her ex and avoided reading her messages most of the time. Besides, she swore up and down that she would NEVER meet him again and DEFINITELY would not have sex with him ever again. They were just casual friends who would occasionally message each other or (even more rarely) call on the phone.
So, I put my mind at ease by believing they were just distant friends, even though I was pretty tired of hearing her mention him at least once to everyone she knew throughout the years. I was also tired of hearing her mention things he used to like every now and then, and I was more than a little disturbed by an old diary entry made by her that described him in very loving ways. When his dirty messages abated and became more like every day small talk, I was secretly pleased.
The arguments between my wife and I became worse and more frequent. Things got pretty tense. She often kept her keypad locked on her cell phone and got very defensive one time when I picked it up after a message had been received. I thought that seemed suspicious, but after seven years of marriage I thought I knew my wife well enough. However, my suspicion lingered and one night a message was received on her phone at a very late hour. She was fast asleep, so I reached over and touched the keypad. It wasn't locked. I read the message from her ex. It was the usual dirty stuff again with a "kiss your goodnight" at the end. Because she had been acting so strangely, I decided to check her other messages as well. What I found shocked me to the core of my being! My heart stood still.
There was plenty of hurt and resentment that was stirred up when I had my inevitable flings. But after each brief tryst, we always settled back down to a very loving and stable relationship. For several years, I had the best of both worlds; an active sex life AND a loving relationship. That is until I made one fatal mistake.
One night, while my wife was sleeping, I quietly slipped out of bed and into one of our other bedrooms where my wife's twin sister (who is also married) was spending the night. We tried to fuck as quietly and secretly as possible, but just as we were enjoying some post-coital bliss I heard the neighboring door open. My wife caught me in bed with her twin sister. She wasn't happy about that at all. She later said that she was upset because she couldn't hate her sister as she had hated all the others I had fucked.
Now I had mentioned to my wife how I fantasized about fucking her sister before all this happened and my wife expressed apathy on the subject. But for the first time in our relationship, she spent the following night in a hotel room and didn't contact me. I thought perhaps I had driven her to another man then, but it seems I was wrong. At least, I was wrong then.
Anyway, she returned and we tried to resume our relationship as usual, but something was different and it seemed to just keep getting worse for the next year or so. She kept acting angry and irritable. She wasn't interested in sex at all and kept complaining every time we did it. She was very selfish and always negative about everything in her life. However, keep in mind that all these changes were gradual, so I didn't really take notice right away.
I also noticed that she seemed more interested and outgoing with other Caucasian men. She was much more flirtatious and ... joked about having an affair much more frequently than before. Was it Shakespeare who said something like "so much truth is said in jest"? I definitely got the feeling that something was going on in her head, though she swore that nothing had changed.
There was also the fact that my wife had remained in contact with her ex-boyfriend the entire time she knew me. He was a French man she had had a casual relationship with for two years before she met me. She had done a lot of sexual exploration with him in the past and I was always a little uncomfortable with allowing her to keep in touch with him, especially since he often sent her dirty messages on her cell phone, which I would occasionally glance at. But my wife was pretty cool about my extramarital flings, so I tried to be cool with her remaining friends with her ex and avoided reading her messages most of the time. Besides, she swore up and down that she would NEVER meet him again and DEFINITELY would not have sex with him ever again. They were just casual friends who would occasionally message each other or (even more rarely) call on the phone.
So, I put my mind at ease by believing they were just distant friends, even though I was pretty tired of hearing her mention him at least once to everyone she knew throughout the years. I was also tired of hearing her mention things he used to like every now and then, and I was more than a little disturbed by an old diary entry made by her that described him in very loving ways. When his dirty messages abated and became more like every day small talk, I was secretly pleased.
The arguments between my wife and I became worse and more frequent. Things got pretty tense. She often kept her keypad locked on her cell phone and got very defensive one time when I picked it up after a message had been received. I thought that seemed suspicious, but after seven years of marriage I thought I knew my wife well enough. However, my suspicion lingered and one night a message was received on her phone at a very late hour. She was fast asleep, so I reached over and touched the keypad. It wasn't locked. I read the message from her ex. It was the usual dirty stuff again with a "kiss your goodnight" at the end. Because she had been acting so strangely, I decided to check her other messages as well. What I found shocked me to the core of my being! My heart stood still.