You have a problem on your hands. Your wife and you need to lay down the law.
Ian,
ZIGGY984 said:
My hotwife Fran has recently taken a new lover, John, who is only 22. She is 38.
Excellent! Twenty-two and 16 years younger is a very good age for your wife's new lover.
ZIGGY984 said:
As a supportive cuck hubby, I was over the moon.
Also excellent! That, of course, was the right response.
ZIGGY984 said:
However, I have a problem. John, who is besotted with Fran, is a bit jealous, not with me but with Fran's long-term stud Mike. They know about each other but don't get on, as they both see themselves as Fran's main bull.
Hm... it's easy to see John might well be "besotted" with your wife. A problem with him being as young as 22, however, may be what Fran and you are observing: he is territorial, and wants to "run off" the competition.
ZIGGY984 said:
The problem is, John wants to take Fran on holiday to Spain for a week and Fran is continually wet thinking about it....
That would be a *very* nice vacation and sexual extravaganza for your wife. But, John's offer is coming with a hook. Evidently he is proposing to leave you and your wife's other lover, Mike, at home so he will have exclusive access to Fran. Do you suppose he has in mind not bringing her back...—? Since he has already established himself as jealous and territorial, is it possible he has in mind "running off" with your wife?
ZIGGY984 said:
....however, Mike does not know. The[y] want me to say something to Mike, lie I guess, and I don't know what to do. Any advice would be helpful. Thanks — Ian.
I suggest it is neither in your nor your wife's best interest for you to get involved in lying on her behalf, in hopes of forestalling confrontations between her lovers. Rather, Fran's new young lover needs to be brought to an understanding that your wife is not a woman who's affections are "owned" by any one lover — not even by you, as her husband. Rather, she is a woman who enjoys and benefits from the affections of multiple lovers, of whom he is only one.
Since your wife is the prize John seeks to retain, and will lose if he does not meet her standards, it will be best if Fran is the one who informs him of her standards. I also suggest it will be most effective if she does this with your support — that is, you should be present and should be prepared to step in verbally if need be. In supporting your wife, you should not interrupt her as she "lays down the law." Rather, what you say should complement what she says, such that it is clear to him the two of you, as wife and husband, are a team.
If your wife's new lover becomes belligerent and attempts to bully her by, for instance, threatening to *not* take her to Spain if she does not comply with his wishes, I suggest stepping in and pointing out to him — calmly but firmly — that Fran is a married woman; she has taken him as an additional lover because she likes him and finds him satisfying (i.e., compliment him on his amorous abilities), but stress that she is under *no* obligation to continue her relationship with him. Continue by pointing out that if he is not willing to accept Fran's ground rules — one of which is, she insists on the right to enjoy multiple lovers who do not "butt heads" with each other — she will be ****** to end her relationship with him. As you say these things — all in the form of calm, reasonable conversation while looking him straight in the eye, never raising your voice — Fran should let him know, by nodding her head and/or otherwise expressing agreement, that the two of you are fully supportive of each other and, as an older more mature couple, you are *both* "telling him how it is".... and if he isn't willing to accept that, he will have to hit the road.
It is essential to do this, because by tradition an older married woman "holds power" and controls the action with her younger lovers. If your wife does not establish herself as the boss (in essence), the result could be chaos with potentially a violent outcome. That, absolutely, is something both she and you need to preclude.
If John responds by asserting he won't take Fran to Spain if she does not comply with his wishes, I strongly recommend she, with your full support, end her relationship with him on the spot and order him to leave your home. Fran might not like this idea — evidently she really does want to go on a vacation with John — but I suggest this is essential, because his behavior will indicate he is only using his proposed "vacation in Spain" as a way of bullying Fran and forcing her to acquiesce in what he wants. It is critically important for Fran, supported by you, to make clear to him that she won't accept that kind of behavior from him or any other man.
"Laying down the law" in this way, I suspect, will bring him around. If it does not, that makes it even more important for Fran to terminate her relationship with him. There are lots of potential young lovers for her; neither she nor you need accept this kind of behavior from any of them.
Good luck. You and your wife have a difficult situation on your hands.
—Custer