Sex and age

[oldgermancuck]

Many here on this website are young, they are in the process of discovering the world for themselves. In the process, they are learning to understand their emotional world in a new way, and they are coming into contact with reports and knowledge from an infinite number of people. They learn that what their parents have told them has many other possibilities; the parents were never properly prepared to explain anything about sex to their children. Sex is something dirty for quite a few institutions. Parents only want the best for their children.

And when the children then develop feelings, have their first sexual experiences with themselves, then an explosion begins, the effects of which are totally open and can go in any direction. It can be the copy of the marriage of the parents, the way the child saw his parents (and that is only one part of the marriage, the public part), it can become any kind of fetish that excites. Once you have taken a direction, you continue to develop that direction - until the hormonal system says: end.

Unfortunately, the hormonal system develops differently in women than in men; so it happens that women suddenly have no more desire in old age. If, in addition, women's understanding of marriage does not include the satisfaction of the husband, then more or less open fights begin.

My wife, 60+, does not talk about sex. My wife looks brilliant and men often look at her horny. She is very very slim and always dressed very attractively - a lady par excellence. She doesn't care about sex and so she doesn't care about part of me. I was professionally a company manager and now in my old age a nothing. Sex has become something virtual. This has been exacerbated by surgery on my prostate. But my brain is still alive and sexually active and says I want to have a marriage that is not just distributed functional roles.

Do you understand that and how would you deal with it?

 

[cambsguy]

why do you think I am here. I am in the same boat

 

[oldgermancuck]

why do you think I am here. I am in the same boat

having the same experience like 95% of all men

 

[cambsguy]

Sorry about the prostate surgery, for me ED is becoming an issue but only when I think about her. So many years of being ignored in the bedroom has had a mental effect on me. I stay for the kids and the financila security, but my mind lusts for the more exciting things in life. Its funny at 50 I now dream of older ladies with corsets and being sexily dressed, cant be arsed with the dream of a 20 year old (would not say no but in my dreams). Surely there are a few females who still love the big O. FInding them on the internet where all the dating contact sites are just scam central makes it near impossible

 

[Custer Laststand]

Oldgermancuck,

Re. your post:

Many here on this website are young, they are in the process of discovering the world for themselves. ..........

My wife, 60+, does not talk about sex. My wife looks brilliant and men often look at her horny. She is very very slim and always dressed very attractively - a lady par excellence. She doesn't care about sex and so she doesn't care about part of me. I was professionally a company manager and now in my old age a nothing. Sex has become something virtual. This has been exacerbated by surgery on my prostate. But my brain is still alive and sexually active and says I want to have a marriage that is not just distributed functional roles. Do you understand that and how would you deal with it?TI do understand. Regarding your wife "looking brilliant and men often look at her horny. She is very slim and always dresses very attractively — a lady par excellence. She doesn't care about sex...."

I do understand. Regarding your description of your wife: "My wife looks brilliant and men often look at her horny. She is very very slim and always dresses very attractively - a lady par excellence. She doesn't care about sex...."

This implies, I would say, that it's very important to your wife to be noticed by other men and to cause them to look at her with sexual interest. Women do not take good care of themselves physically and dress attractively because they are disinterested in men and sex — or women and sex, if they are lesbian or bisexual. Since your conclusion that "she doesn't care about sex" is based on your own experience with your wife, you might find it of interest — perhaps considerable interest — to read the (fictional but not totally unrealistic) story, "The Fourth Ring," posted by Hunter Jackson, which is on electronic page 6 of the "Stories" section of this forum. You can find it here:

The Fourth Ring

If you read this story and decide you are interested in moving with your wife to a hotwife / cuckold husband style of marriage, in which.... by mutual agreement.... your wife would be free to date, seduce and fuck other men (and/or women, in accordance with her sexual preferences), while you agree to remain faithful to her (and would actually do so), you might read:

The cuckold husband / hotwife phenomena, by Dr. Cherry Lee, Ph.D. (posted by Goddess _Ee_Ling), for which the link is:

Goddess_Ee_Ling: The Cuckold Husband / Hotwife Phenomena

I hope you find these suggestions helpful.

—Custer Laststand

 

[Jogoctopus]

Many here on this website are young, they are in the process of discovering the world for themselves. In the process, they are learning to understand their emotional world in a new way, and they are coming into contact with reports and knowledge from an infinite number of people. They learn that what their parents have told them has many other possibilities; the parents were never properly prepared to explain anything about sex to their children. Sex is something dirty for quite a few institutions. Parents only want the best for their children.

And when the children then develop feelings, have their first sexual experiences with themselves, then an explosion begins, the effects of which are totally open and can go in any direction. It can be the copy of the marriage of the parents, the way the child saw his parents (and that is only one part of the marriage, the public part), it can become any kind of fetish that excites. Once you have taken a direction, you continue to develop that direction - until the hormonal system says: end.

Unfortunately, the hormonal system develops differently in women than in men; so it happens that women suddenly have no more desire in old age. If, in addition, women's understanding of marriage does not include the satisfaction of the husband, then more or less open fights begin.

My wife, 60+, does not talk about sex. My wife looks brilliant and men often look at her horny. She is very very slim and always dressed very attractively - a lady par excellence. She doesn't care about sex and so she doesn't care about part of me. I was professionally a company manager and now in my old age a nothing. Sex has become something virtual. This has been exacerbated by surgery on my prostate. But my brain is still alive and sexually active and says I want to have a marriage that is not just distributed functional roles.

Do you understand that and how would you deal with it?

I am sorry to hear about your operation.
My husband and I have been together over twenty years and I was virgin when I met him. He is not Indian and had been with a few women before we met.
At the start sex was about being close and intimate emotionally. As we have grown older that has changed. We are still very close but don’t need sex to make our relationship ok. We still have lot of sex but it’s about fun and feeling good now. We use toys more, watch porn together and take weekend breaks to hotels to make it exciting. We never used to. My fantasy is being a slut but I don’t know if my husband will like it. I want to have sex with many men as my husband watches.

 

[wantHappywife]

Many here on this website are young, they are in the process of discovering the world for themselves. In the process, they are learning to understand their emotional world in a new way, and they are coming into contact with reports and knowledge from an infinite number of people. They learn that what their parents have told them has many other possibilities; the parents were never properly prepared to explain anything about sex to their children. Sex is something dirty for quite a few institutions. Parents only want the best for their children.

And when the children then develop feelings, have their first sexual experiences with themselves, then an explosion begins, the effects of which are totally open and can go in any direction. It can be the copy of the marriage of the parents, the way the child saw his parents (and that is only one part of the marriage, the public part), it can become any kind of fetish that excites. Once you have taken a direction, you continue to develop that direction - until the hormonal system says: end.

Unfortunately, the hormonal system develops differently in women than in men; so it happens that women suddenly have no more desire in old age. If, in addition, women's understanding of marriage does not include the satisfaction of the husband, then more or less open fights begin.

My wife, 60+, does not talk about sex. My wife looks brilliant and men often look at her horny. She is very very slim and always dressed very attractively - a lady par excellence. She doesn't care about sex and so she doesn't care about part of me. I was professionally a company manager and now in my old age a nothing. Sex has become something virtual. This has been exacerbated by surgery on my prostate. But my brain is still alive and sexually active and says I want to have a marriage that is not just distributed functional roles.

Do you understand that and how would you deal with it?

I am with you at 65, widower, I missed out

 

[Custer Laststand]

My husband and I have been together over twenty years.

Congratulations!

I was virgin when I met him. He is not Indian.

That's OK. Lots of men are not Indian.

He had been with a few women before we met.

That's nothing for you to have been concerned about (as you weren't, I gather).

At the start sex was about being close and intimate emotionally. As we have grown older that has changed. We are still very close but don’t need sex to make our relationship ok. We still have lot of sex but it’s about fun and feeling good now. We use toys more, watch porn together and take weekend breaks to hotels to make it exciting. We never used to.

Nice. You and your husband have done, and are continuing to do, very well.

My fantasy is being a slut, but I don’t know if my husband will like it. I want to have sex with many men as my husband watches.

That's a very reasonable desire, Ms. Jogoctopus. You might mention to your husband, perhaps during an evening of soft music and over glasses of wine, that you ran across an article:

The cuckold husband / hotwife phenomena:
The Cuckold Husband / Hotwife Phenomena – Sexual Musings

and ask him what he thinks about it. Or, if it seems too awkward to bring it up in conversation, you might consider e-mailing your query to him along with the link to this article. If you do so... regardless of his initial response... the concept will circulate in his mind, and he may become gradually intrigued by the idea.

This could also become the basis for pretend role-playing games, which may also assist with your husband becoming gradually intrigued with this idea.

 

[Capt. Ron]

@old german cuck I’m 51 now & basically am dealing with the lack of interest like you & many others here. today for example, training the dog was more important than spending time together as we customarily do on Saturdays. it means there will be nothing in our 60s.

I think we are justified in saying that sex is part of who we are and we deserve to have it.

 

[Jogoctopus]

Congratulations!


That's OK. Lots of men are not Indian.


That's nothing for you to have been concerned about (as you weren't, I gather).


Nice. You and your husband have done, and are continuing to do, very well.


That's a very reasonable desire, Ms. Jogoctopus. You might mention to your husband, perhaps during an evening of soft music and over glasses of wine, that you ran across an article:

The cuckold husband / hotwife phenomena:
The Cuckold Husband / Hotwife Phenomena – Sexual Musings

and ask him what he thinks about it. Or, if it seems too awkward to bring it up in conversation, you might consider e-mailing your query to him along with the link to this article. If you do so... regardless of his initial response... the concept will circulate in his mind, and he may become gradually intrigued by the idea.

This could also become the basis for pretend role-playing games, which may also assist with your husband becoming gradually intrigued with this idea.

Thank you for your thoughts. X

 

[Custer Laststand]

Thank you for your thoughts. X

You're welcome, Ms. Jogoctopus.

 

[Custer Laststand]

....... I’m 51 now & basically am dealing with the lack of interest like you [the O.P.] & many others here. Today, for example, training the dog was more important than spending time together as we customarily do on Saturdays.

I suggest trading in your dog for a cat. They don't require training. If you try, they just ignore you. And, cats NEVER demand to be taken out for walks. Anyway — if your wife isn't in the mood to fuck you on a Saturday, why not go for Sunday....?

it means there will be nothing in our 60s.

You might be too pessimistic. Remember: "Predictions are difficult, especially of the future."

 

[oldgermancuck]

My fantasy is being a slut but I don’t know if my husband will like it. I want to have sex with many men as my husband watches.

long time out, sorry. What about your development in your marriage?

 

[HusbandX]

Unfortunately, a frequent byproduct of aging is a reduction in sexual availability, drive, desire, prospects, cooperation, etc. Take your pick. In a partnership, it may be you, or your partner. Or both.

I'm not young. My wife is older than me. She has little interest, and what rare sex we have is for my benefit. There comes a point of discomfort and other interests. I've found a reduction in my ability to perform, produce, and to maintain. But it doesn't mean my interest is gone.

Over time, especially as I've grown older, the prospect of sex has diminished, and I've found myself drawn to elements of sexuality that support where I am. If I can't have sex much, chastity seems a good fit. If I can't have sex much, fantasy is what remains, and though neither my wife nor I would stray from our bonds, the thoughts entice. My wife has no interest in female domination, though we've played around the edges a bit. It becomes fantasy.

There is no possibility that my wife will have an affair, nor would she entertain the idea of a sexual encounter or relationship with another man. It's an easy fantasy, safe, as it will never see the light of day. My wife will never have me clean her up after a tryst, as she won't have one, but she's happy to have me do it in the rare occasions we have sex, and those infrequent moments of subservience remain cherished fuel for fantasy.

I wish that I'd discovered the element of sexuality that encompasses FLR, femdom, and who knows, maybe cuckolding too, when I was younger. Would I have accepted it? I don't know. Presently, if I'm not having sex, it's a substitute to pretend that I'm not allowed to have sex, that I'm kept in chastity, and occasionally, she will insist on it, though it doesn't hold her interest much. I "discovered" the elements of sex that touched on female domination, FLR, and hotwifing, cuckolding, etc, not that many years ago, while researching a writing project. It struck a chord, and the more I looked into it, and the more I read, it resonated. At first exciting, even forbidden, it's become the core of my fantasy world, my turn-ons, and the imaginary life I'd lead. But, that's all it is.

I am on the road most of the time, mostly out of the country. At the moment, I'm tied into some events near the Black Sea. My wife is home alone, and I don't mind fantasizing that she's cheating. I like to imagine that her sex drive is strong, that I'm not there to fill her needs, and being a loving and supporting husband, I'm understanding when she strays. I like to imagine that she doesn't care if I'm understanding, that she's strong and independent and while she loves me, she's not going to go without. My fantasy is self-serving; it's a narrative I create to solve my own problems, not hers. She isn't getting sex at home. She isn't interested. I'm not getting sex in the field. When I do get home, it's brief, and sex is rare. My self-serving narrative grants her a libido, and I can pretend that she'd be interested in me, too...even if it were to make a point of cheating, or or insist on chastity, or to punish...the fantasy is that she'd be interested at all, when I know she really isn't. The fantasy is selfish: it's not about her; she doesn't care. It's about me, that she'd actually have an interest enough to care if I were denied, or cuckolded, or bound by a promise or contract. It's about me, really. In my fantasy I matter, I'm important to her. She cares. It's only a fantasy, but at this stage, it's all I've got.

I'll take it.

 

[cuck72]

Many here on this website are young, they are in the process of discovering the world for themselves. In the process, they are learning to understand their emotional world in a new way, and they are coming into contact with reports and knowledge from an infinite number of people. They learn that what their parents have told them has many other possibilities; the parents were never properly prepared to explain anything about sex to their children. Sex is something dirty for quite a few institutions. Parents only want the best for their children.

And when the children then develop feelings, have their first sexual experiences with themselves, then an explosion begins, the effects of which are totally open and can go in any direction. It can be the copy of the marriage of the parents, the way the child saw his parents (and that is only one part of the marriage, the public part), it can become any kind of fetish that excites. Once you have taken a direction, you continue to develop that direction - until the hormonal system says: end.

Unfortunately, the hormonal system develops differently in women than in men; so it happens that women suddenly have no more desire in old age. If, in addition, women's understanding of marriage does not include the satisfaction of the husband, then more or less open fights begin.

My wife, 60+, does not talk about sex. My wife looks brilliant and men often look at her horny. She is very very slim and always dressed very attractively - a lady par excellence. She doesn't care about sex and so she doesn't care about part of me. I was professionally a company manager and now in my old age a nothing. Sex has become something virtual. This has been exacerbated by surgery on my prostate. But my brain is still alive and sexually active and says I want to have a marriage that is not just distributed functional roles.

Do you understand that and how would you deal with it?

I'm so sorry to hear about your prostate, I'm going on 70 this year, and my wife just like most has lost all interest in sex. We still fool around a little like once every couple weeks, but without intercourse. Just oral or she rubs me off in my undies, she doesn't care about an orgasm. I'm still very horny and masturbate every day with my very active perverted cuckold wannabe brain. I don't know how I'd be able to handle being this perverted and not be able to cum. I don't want to think of having ED problems, or having Prostate issues, and still having my cuckold fantasies, but not being able to cum. That would be so tough.

 

[RobySul]

In old age, hormones, both in men and women, have a slightly different effect on the body. Testosterone drops in men and estrogen in women. When women have menopause, some people stop feeling sexual attraction to a woman, and I think this is normal. This is how nature works. And if you really love your wife, but you want to have sex with her, and she doesn't want it, you don't need to bother her with this question. She will offer you respect her as a woman if she wants to. Or else sit down and talk to her about it. And if the wife really doesn't have the sexual desire anymore, then masturbate and watch porn on sites like XXX Videos Tube - Free Porn Movies | SQ XXX or on classic *******.

 

[oldgermancuck]

I'm so sorry to hear about your prostate, I'm going on 70 this year, and my wife just like most has lost all interest in sex. We still fool around a little like once every couple weeks, but without intercourse. Just oral or she rubs me off in my undies, she doesn't care about an orgasm. I'm still very horny and masturbate every day with my very active perverted cuckold wannabe brain. I don't know how I'd be able to handle being this perverted and not be able to cum. I don't want to think of having ED problems, or having Prostate issues, and still having my cuckold fantasies, but not being able to cum. That would be so tough.

I'm in the same situation - exactly the same !

 

[cuck72]

With the lack of sexual contact with my wife I just jack off every day to the internet porn. I have so many fantasies about other guys I know fucking my wife. So, I just go to the cuckold in my brain, and it really gets me off. And when we do make out in bed, I learned to really enjoy my wife just rubbing me off through my undies. I love to think that her pussy belongs to one of those guys I think about then I cum being her cuckold in my brain. I do still get to eat my wife once in a while, and she does have squirting orgasms. I just don't understand why she wouldn't like more pussy eating and orgasms.

I also have been having gay fantasies, so I get off being a cock sucking wannabe too. Again, thinking about some guys, I know and thinking of sucking their cocks. So, I make do during those couple of weeks when my wife and I are not making out.

I know there are millions of us older men in this same boat, I just deal with it thinking of being a cuckold and my wife cheating with a big cock younger man. LOL!

 

[cambsguy]

With the lack of sexual contact with my wife I just jack off every day to the internet porn. I have so many fantasies about other guys I know fucking my wife. So, I just go to the cuckold in my brain, and it really gets me off. And when we do make out in bed, I learned to really enjoy my wife just rubbing me off through my undies. I love to think that her pussy belongs to one of those guys I think about then I cum being her cuckold in my brain. I do still get to eat my wife once in a while, and she does have squirting orgasms. I just don't understand why she wouldn't like more pussy eating and orgasms.

I also have been having gay fantasies, so I get off being a cock sucking wannabe too. Again, thinking about some guys, I know and thinking of sucking their cocks. So, I make do during those couple of weeks when my wife and I are not making out.

I know there are millions of us older men in this same boat, I just deal with it thinking of being a cuckold and my wife cheating with a big cock younger man. LOL!

can really get your thoughts above, but I am a bull so my dreams are of other womne, bi also and cant for the life of me figure out why my wife doesnt like being eaten out

 

[cuck72]

can really get your thoughts above, but I am a bull so my dreams are of other womne, bi also and cant for the life of me figure out why my wife doesnt like being eaten out

I can see why some guys become gay; I can't see them turning down a wet slutty blow job. But like I said, my wife gets wet a has squirting orgasms when I talk her into letting me eat her pussy. So, what is it, she doesn't like the feeling when she orgasms? Maybe she feels like she is losing control at the moment and doesn't like that? I don't know, I'd guess only a doctor would know why some women don't like to be eating to orgasm.

I just get off more and more thinking of being a cleanup cuckold, my wife thinks it's sick and nasty. She knows about my cleanup cuckold fantasies.