The two things that really turn me on about cuckolding

[Sometimesacuck]

1. Humiliation and power. The psychological power of a woman that could be so strong that she would take another mans cock right in front of her husband and he would still beg for her to stay with him.

2. The raw, animalistic nature of it. The idea that behind all the $75 dollar polo shirts and minivans with soccer ball stickers on them, behind all the bullshit neighborhood barbecues where people talk about their golf swing, suburban people are still humping like dirty animals.

 

[Irza_Cuckold]

Precisely! On both #1 and especially #2.

john

 

[mywife/herlover]

I have to agree.

 

[benthoomas]

i like the idea of my wife been pregnent by any other and treat the baby

 

[carina_halerose]

As a cuck i need and want me wife to be with others

 

[lifelong cuck]

Being cuckolded

1. Humiliation and power. The psychological power of a woman that could be so strong that she would take another mans cock right in front of her husband and he would still beg for her to stay with him.

2. The raw, animalistic nature of it. The idea that behind all the $75 dollar polo shirts and minivans with soccer ball stickers on them, behind all the bullshit neighborhood barbecues where people talk about their golf swing, suburban people are still humping like dirty animals.

I agree and experienced and did #1 completely, literally begging my wife to be faithful and never once threatening divorce.

#2 for me was that having been cuckolded often enough my sexual 'tastes' skewed to the point where my sex drive was dominated with being cuckolded, straight sex didn't do it for me, I was only turned on when my wife was with another man/men first.

 

[jdroger]

I don't get it

Ok, not trying to be the anti-conformist here, but I hear this notion frequently and I just don't understand the first point at all. I've read/heard this opinion several times out here and elsewhere, so I know it's a common perception. However, what kind of power does the woman truly have if the person is a true cuck? I mean, to subjugate someone who is weaker? Or if not a weakling, someone who just likes to be subjugated and submissive? Just sounds like a bully with a personality disorder to me.

Fantasy is one thing, but if this is reality, then I'm not getting it. Seems as though the woman is too scared (not strong enough) to find someone who can be an equal or more and uses the cuck as her safety net in the world because of that fear, and the man is just accepting his "perception" that he is inferior.

 

[Kinky69]

I agree with #1, but it's also about making her happy. For me it's all about submitting to her and doing what she wants. If it makes her happy to humiliate me, so much the better.

 

[Susan's Slave]

JD, it takes all kinds to make the world go round. Some people find sexual control erotic, some find giving up control erotic. Most don't, and that is normal. You would understand it if you were a dominant or submissive personality type.

My absolute first sexual fantasy was of my female school mates flashing their panties at me. Upon seeing the panties I fell under their spell. I knew I was submissive before I even knew what sex was all about.

Enjoy what you enjoy, there is room for all of us in the cuckold world.

 

[ytrewq]

1. Humiliation and power. The psychological power of a woman that could be so strong that she would take another mans cock right in front of her husband and he would still beg for her to stay with him.

2. The raw, animalistic nature of it. The idea that behind all the $75 dollar polo shirts and minivans with soccer ball stickers on them, behind all the bullshit neighborhood barbecues where people talk about their golf swing, suburban people are still humping like dirty animals.

I strongly identify with both of these but I'd like to elaborate on no. 2. I think that the polo shirts and minivans and all the bs means that there is a lie or joke that the cuckold is not allowed to be in on. I think it lends to no. 1 and the psychological power that a woman may have over her husband. Sort of the same reason why some men like to be left at home or even locked up. They are, sometimes, not allowed to even see beyond the bs. They have to hear it through a door or over the phone. One can see, but not touch. It is the sexual behaviour behind the bs that we are intrigued with, not just the sex.

Just my two cents. Not stating that it is for everyone.

I do have a question for the guy who said he did not agree with the humiliation, that fantasy is one thing but reality is another. I understand the matter of taste or personal choice, and the difference between living out a fantasy and keeping it safe behind closed doors. What I do not understand, and maybe I got this wrong, is what your agreement with the scenario has to do with whether it is fantasy or not. Are you saying that you do enjoy humiliation, or your wife's psychological empowerment, as long as it is only fantasy? Or that you do not fantasize about the cuckold lifestyle because you would never want to practice it at all? Just asking, I am not clear on the statement.

 

[ytrewq]

Ok, not trying to be the anti-conformist here, but I hear this notion frequently and I just don't understand the first point at all. I've read/heard this opinion several times out here and elsewhere, so I know it's a common perception. However, what kind of power does the woman truly have if the person is a true cuck? I mean, to subjugate someone who is weaker? Or if not a weakling, someone who just likes to be subjugated and submissive? Just sounds like a bully with a personality disorder to me.

Fantasy is one thing, but if this is reality, then I'm not getting it. Seems as though the woman is too scared (not strong enough) to find someone who can be an equal or more and uses the cuck as her safety net in the world because of that fear, and the man is just accepting his "perception" that he is inferior.

Just thought I'd make this more clear. All power could be said to be illusion, only above, you said if the cuck is weaker... then, bully or not, that is the relationship: She is strong, he is weak- there is no illusion.

If he is a husband who likes it, well, that's the point- it is something that turns hims on.

It is your last statement I do not understand. Why would you not get it if it is reality but get it if it were fantasy, if you don't approve of either to begin with?

Having said all that, I do believe that this is all illusion. I just do not think it is more so than most other relationship roles. In fact, that is why I believe the cuckold lifestyle is more reality than anything else and one may as well embrace it. Some studies say that with more college educated women, more wives are having affairs than men and the difference is growing.

I have always believed that, when it comes to sex, women have all the power (barring physical force). Look at all the porn and ************, look at the graffiti in boys' bathrooms- we need it and women get to say when we get it. Supply and demand, they got more than they want sometimes so their demand is low. When they demand- the supply of healthy, willing sperm donors gives them the choice to pick the the best, most virile. Some study somehow proved that when a woman ovulates, she will be most attracted to the biggest, most square-jawed he-man in the room. When she is not in her moon, she is more wary of would-be players and wants a more secure man (whom she can always cuck later- my spin). Having had women pulled from my arms enough times (who willingly let their grasp slip) by some better man, I believe it.

 

[Saraha]

By reading very wildly on the internet all about cuckoldry, a cuckold can grow to understand himself and his secret inner desires. He becomes all he can be.

There is no fun in not achieving your potential as a cuckold. If you need humiliation and you don't get it, then you are not fulfilled. If you craved to be spanked, but it does not happen, you will find life a bit too vanilla.

I agree that there is a wide range of cuckold personalities, and yes, there is room for all of them. All that matters is that we don't piss on another person's beliefs and cravings.

 

[lifelong cuck]

Women rarely choose to cuckold, they do it out of need

Ok, not trying to be the anti-conformist here, but I hear this notion frequently and I just don't understand the first point at all. I've read/heard this opinion several times out here and elsewhere, so I know it's a common perception. However, what kind of power does the woman truly have if the person is a true cuck? I mean, to subjugate someone who is weaker? Or if not a weakling, someone who just likes to be subjugated and submissive? Just sounds like a bully with a personality disorder to me.

Fantasy is one thing, but if this is reality, then I'm not getting it. Seems as though the woman is too scared (not strong enough) to find someone who can be an equal or more and uses the cuck as her safety net in the world because of that fear, and the man is just accepting his "perception" that he is inferior.

Very often the wife will not deliberately humiliate her husband and go out of her way to protect his ego. The humiliation often surfaces for the first time as the knowledge his wife is getting it outside the marriage slowly becomes more and more public. At this early stage the wife is cheating and hiding her infidelity as much as she can. A man is still very much viewed as less than his peers if his wife seeks sexual satisfaction from other men. On learning that his wife needs more or better sex than he can give her makes the Cuckold feel guilty and inadequate as a man and as a husband. This guilt can eventually lead the cuckold’s sex drive and pleasure to become totally dependent on his wife’s infidelity. In fact he may welcome her withdrawing sex from him or may even impose celibacy on himself. The benefits are multiple for him, his wife will look outside the marriage all the more for sex, he may well justify her actions because she isn’t getting any at home. As he progresses sexually as a cuckold his only real turn on is vicariously through being cuckolded. Often at this point his wife is encouraged by him to open the marriage and openly cuckold him with other men and ask if he may be present. By this time the cuckold has no standing as a man or husband and the wife and others may well humiliate him because he seeks it.
In general the wife doesn’t initiate humiliating her husband and often only does so later on because her husband seeks it or the bulls she’s fucking humiliate the cuckold and while sexually aroused and dominated by the bull she’s encouraged to belittle her husband.
Real humiliation comes from being a cuckold because you are sexually inadequate to your wife. The wife is usually the last person to make it public knowledge as it shames her that her husband is so much less than the husbands of her friends.

 

[debra48f]

#2 is so true!