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Watching Your Wife--- Is there a Protocol?

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Having rarely had the opportunity to watch my wife having sex with another man I am wondering what a guy is supposed to do when he’s sitting bedside.

The few times I have watched I found myself sexually excited but uncomfortable about what exactly I should be doing with myself--- if anything. I assume that jacking off is pretty much a standard. But what else is “modus operandi”, knowing that every couple does things a little differently.

  • Is there communication between you and your wife, the stud?
  • Are you supposed to make comments (‘that’s fucking hot baby’)?
  • Are you just supposed to sit there in silence, as if you are not in the room?
  • Do you obey all commands and orders?
  • Is there typically a “safe” word or phrase?
I know there must be numerous variations and practices. Looking for input from fellow cuckolds, wives and bulls/studs. What’s typical, what’s usually expected? Thanks for your help.

CuckoldMick :confused:
 
Having only briefly discussed this with Sue, my "modus operandi" is to be quiet for the most part - I throw in a moan every now and then. She has on some occasions, held her hand out and it's obvious it was for me to hold. On those moments, the simple clenching her hand on mine and vice-versa is all we needed to communicate.

Usually they have had music or a porn-movie on the TV so sound hasn't been missing. It's quite erotic to hear her moaning above that on the TV.

One of the most intense moments we've shared has been my feeling her hand gripping mine tighter and tighter and then feeling it suddenly release accompanied by a loud moan from her. It is the most erotic feeling to hold her hand as another man brought her to orgasm.

I have at times, if it's felt right, whispered things like "that's so hot" to her mainly but perhaps Don heard it. But it was between the 2 of us.

I've never experienced commands or orders necessarily but rather Sue has asked me at times to do something - come over to her, etc. For us though, it's been more gesture than verbal.

Where would you use a safe word or phrase? Long long ago Sue had warned me that once she got started and sex was imminent that she wouldn't stop unless I really meant it as in physically separating them,etc. Even when I lost it and left them (her and Brad) one time, she didn't come right after me and I have always felt that she would have finished fucking him before she did so. I did, however, that time text her that I was okay and that I'd see her later. So, for us, for me to "tell" her to stop - it would have to be more direct and firm.

I suspect you should instead discuss this with her than trying to ask us here on the board. My feelings are that you should probably know this stuff - or at least how you both feel about it - before going into it. I learned as we went along and the first few times were awkward, for sure.

I feel if you focus on her pleasure, that all else pretty much seems to just happen of its own accord. It is difficult if possible at all to script out such an evening, at least for us.
 
Just do whatever seems right at the tme for all concerned.
There are no set rules so just enjoy it and say as you like.
The idea is for all participant to have a pleasurable experience, not to follow some sort of script.

Ther only thing I would agree with is a "safe word" as you will never know if/when you will need it.
 
Soon, NY-- thanks for the good advice. Since this post I have discussed this with Kristen and while we have agreed to a basic format, I have left it up to Kris to run the show--- in essence just doing what comes naturally...lol
 
A basic format is always good. :)
 
It is important for me, when another guy is fucking my wife, to let them both know that I am very much involved, and even somewhat in control of the situation. After all, I am the one who is "allowing" it to happen.

I am always right there, and see to it that they both are very aware of my presence, through talking with them while they fuck. Even if they don't answer, they are very much aware of my involvement.

And, I can't keep from stroking myself as I watch. The most difficult part is to keep from jacking myself to completion before the right moment. I have found that when the two of them are cumming, I can get even more involved and step forward to shoot my own cum onto their naked bodies.

That is my way of saying "She's still my Pussy! You are only fucking her with my permission and cooperation!"
 
Knowing my wife the way I do, I love to watch quietly as she becomes sexually aroused with her lover. I will sometimes urge her on when she is on fire which further excites her, but as much as would like, I have only watched with intense arousal on my own part.
 
Thanks everyone for your comments and good advice.
 
I want the husband present when I'm fucking his wife. I feel that the pleasure she is having should be shared by him. Regardless of how hot the action gets I am always aware of his attention but the final decision of how far things go or for how long is always hers.
 
Son of John said:
It is important for me, when another guy is fucking my wife, to let them both know that I am very much involved, and even somewhat in control of the situation. After all, I am the one who is "allowing" it to happen.

I am always right there, and see to it that they both are very aware of my presence, through talking with them while they fuck. Even if they don't answer, they are very much aware of my involvement.

And, I can't keep from stroking myself as I watch. The most difficult part is to keep from jacking myself to completion before the right moment. I have found that when the two of them are cumming, I can get even more involved and step forward to shoot my own cum onto their naked bodies.

That is my way of saying "She's still my Pussy! You are only fucking her with my permission and cooperation!"
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This should be it!
 
"NO, It's HER PUSSY" and she should be able to give it to whom ever she wants, whenever she wants!!
 
I am not allowed to watch and thats OK with me. I think if you are lucky enough to watch her then shut-up and be quiet until she directs you do something else.
 
In response to Tammy's statement that it is HER pussy, let me add that when a guy marries a gal he takes on certain responsibilities, and also certain rights. Even though it is "her" pussy, the husband should have some say on who gets some of it. Anything else is just an arrangement, and not a true marriage.

That doesn't mean that the husband should have full control over his wife's sex life, but that he should be involved with her decisions. I believe there would be more husbands willing to share their wives' pussies with other men if they were not expected to feel that something was being forcibly taken from them.

Wife sharing is fun! Being "fucked" by the other guy, and the wife, is not!
 
Well said Son!
 
But you miss the whole point of being "CUCKOLDED", losing her (pussy), being humiliated by the lover, whether in person or just knowing the fact that your wife has one, being made to serve them in some manor, is what this is all about. Anything else is just "Swinging".
 
There seems to be a difference between Cuckolding and Wife-Sharing. Cuckolding removes the Cuck from any and all decisions where the wife explores her sexuality on her own. Where Wife Sharing seems to be a sexual adventure between husband and wife where the mutual needs of the two are met.

in short....

Cuckolding - wife's needs met, bond between husband and wife weakened. (Maybe not weakened but certainly changed)

Wife Sharing - Mutual needs met, bond between husband and wife strengthens.

I guess it all depends on how severe your fetish is. If you really love pain and suffering, then cuckolding is for you. If you prefer to flirt with disaster but still go home to a normal life when playtime is over - Wife Sharing is your bag. It all depends on your level of commitment to the lifestyle. As for personal experience.... i change my location of the spectrum several times a day - that's whats so frustrating, and exciting.:D
 
I appreciate everyone's comments. I am, in fact, wrestling with this very issue with Kristen at this moment. Basically, she just wants the right to have outside lovers, but is not particularly interested in any contrived cuckolding. But--- in fact her desire to have lovers with absolutely no involvement by me is in fact "cuckolding" me. When I suggest to her that I would enjoy our "lifestyle" more with more participation she typically tells me to "pound sand". Therefore--- she is cuckolding me according to Tammy's definition. It is very frustrating and humiliating to be cuckolded in this fashion. That is, just to be unceremoniously "left out” with no say about who she fucks and no involvement either.
 
thats pretty much it, what outare defines is somewhat a squewed point. Cuck couple can share really strong bonds, but it has to been a good relationship to begin with, yes swinging / sharing is a more mutual playing around. Where being a cuckold husband leaves himself out of the action most of the time. But a true cuckold doesn't mind this because he seeks the humiliation of that act.
 
CuckoldMick said:
I assume that jacking off is pretty much a standard. But what else is “modus operandi”, knowing that every couple does things a little differently.

  • Is there communication between you and your wife, the stud?
  • Are you supposed to make comments (‘that’s fucking hot baby’)?
  • Are you just supposed to sit there in silence, as if you are not in the room?
  • Do you obey all commands and orders?
  • Is there typically a “safe” word or phrase?
I know there must be numerous variations and practices. Looking for input from fellow cuckolds, wives and bulls/studs. What’s typical, what’s usually expected? Thanks for your help.

CuckoldMick :confused:
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Jacking off for me is the exception rather than the rule. There’s a HUGE HUGE wild and crazy experience if I can hold on till Rita’s stud has blown, and I get my turn immediately. If he’s cum in her, that’s heaven bcoz I enter and, predictably, don’t last at all. I love the feeling of the studs cum inside her, now all over my penis. She loves it when I cum and she has both loads inside her. That said, I must confess that over the last decade or more my sperm count has been on the wane and she, like most women I guess, loves large loads.

About communication I will say that both Rita and I are blessed with great SOH. She, more so, and of the ‘wayward/whorish’ kind. So when we prospect, we make sure get a guy who’s equally fun in conversation. That means, while Rita and the guy are at it and I am sitting around or holding her or feeling her, we are invariably cracking crazy jokes. Of course, when it starts get intense between them, there’s no talk of that kind. I just keep a distance, move away from them because even if she had been touching or fondling me during the buildup between them, now she can’t manage anything, only concentrate on her lover.

In the intense moments she becomes very vocal. Mostly screams. But if urged by her lover, she becomes vocally (and seriously) dirty. No jokes them.

After each session, in between sessions, we are all joking again.

The commands are also in lighter vein. Since I smoke, the standard one is: ok, now step out of the room & get your stamina back (meaning, go have a smoke while they warm up for the next round). This command could be from her, him or both. Another common one is funny. She always keeps a few toy vaginas handy (her frequent birthday gifts for me). Either when she’s taken her stud in, or as they pause a while before starting again, she’ll chuck one across to me saying something like, poor boy – he needs pussy too. And both of them will laugh and so will I. When I am using the toy, they’ll turn and look and laugh. It’s all part of the great joy.
 
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