Where am i going wrong?

[newbycuck]

Hi all very new to this whole thing but equally very eager. I'm 42, wife is 37. We've briefly discussed the whole cuckold world but she seems uninterested, however in the right mood she's up for it, briefly. So I'm really eager to watch her get pleased properly but can't get her to discuss it without her getting annoyed, unless it's that very brief conversation time. I read something a few days ago that suggested I make a male friend in that world, someone she'd like obviously and gradually introduce her to him, ensure he's polite and complimenting etc, what do you guys think? Still worth a shot or should I give up?

For context we're in the west Midlands UK, she's a size 14 and very pretty. My stats don't matter haha. Thanks all

 

[Eppie]

Hi all very new to this whole thing but equally very eager. I'm 42, wife is 37. We've briefly discussed the whole cuckold world but she seems uninterested, however in the right mood she's up for it, briefly. So I'm really eager to watch her get pleased properly but can't get her to discuss it without her getting annoyed, unless it's that very brief conversation time. I read something a few days ago that suggested I make a male friend in that world, someone she'd like obviously and gradually introduce her to him, ensure he's polite and complimenting etc, what do you guys think? Still worth a shot or should I give up?

For context we're in the west Midlands UK, she's a size 14 and very pretty. My stats don't matter haha. Thanks all

Hi, I think you are trying to get her to jump from A to Z. Slow down, it’s not going to be an ok, shrug shoulders and do it situation. Firstly, she gets annoyed because she thinks either you don’t love her, you want to cheat (in her mind, by giving her permission you then get it) or you are not happy with what you have. Start very slowly. If you watch porn together just pick those which invariably have a threesome in it. Men can separate reality from fantasy, often women can’t. Give her the safety net that it’s a fantasy not a reality. Once she’s comfortable that it’s “safe” she may be open to more later on. If porn isn’t on the table when watching a film and the actors are getting down to it or kissing ask who she’s married to in real life. Imagine being an actress, you have to do that at work then go back to your husband. It must be weird mustn’t it? Then SHUT UP! Let her respond, when the time is right ask if shhe thinks she could do that role if she was an actress. How would she mentally approach it, you suppose It’s just work so no need to get jealous etc. Gently let her mind drift to the idea, no pressure and try to move onto gentle role play. Good luck!!

 

[newbycuck]

Hi, I think you are trying to get her to jump from A to Z. Slow down, it’s not going to be an ok, shrug shoulders and do it situation. Firstly, she gets annoyed because she thinks either you don’t love her, you want to cheat (in her mind, by giving her permission you then get it) or you are not happy with what you have. Start very slowly. If you watch porn together just pick those which invariably have a threesome in it. Men can separate reality from fantasy, often women can’t. Give her the safety net that it’s a fantasy not a reality. Once she’s comfortable that it’s “safe” she may be open to more later on. If porn isn’t on the table when watching a film and the actors are getting down to it or kissing ask who she’s married to in real life. Imagine being an actress, you have to do that at work then go back to your husband. It must be weird mustn’t it? Then SHUT UP! Let her respond, when the time is right ask if shhe thinks she could do that role if she was an actress. How would she mentally approach it, you suppose It’s just work so no need to get jealous etc. Gently let her mind drift to the idea, no pressure and try to move onto gentle role play. Good luck!!

That's fantastic advice thankyou I appreciate it

 

[crt]

Hi all very new to this whole thing but equally very eager. I'm 42, wife is 37. We've briefly discussed the whole cuckold world but she seems uninterested, however in the right mood she's up for it, briefly. So I'm really eager to watch her get pleased properly but can't get her to discuss it without her getting annoyed, unless it's that very brief conversation time. I read something a few days ago that suggested I make a male friend in that world, someone she'd like obviously and gradually introduce her to him, ensure he's polite and complimenting etc, what do you guys think? Still worth a shot or should I give up?

For context we're in the west Midlands UK, she's a size 14 and very pretty. My stats don't matter haha. Thanks all

I’m sure that if you gave even briefly discussed it then it will be something she will think about ( unless it’s a flat out no, which it seems that it isn’t) for what it’s worth I would perhaps say, ‘ anytime you want to take the plunge then let’s do it,,, suggest perhaps that you’d one or 2 guys that she might like)
My wife ( I’m a cuckold too) insists that the men she goes with are polite , respectful , good looking and smell good!) so reassure your wife that the man will be the ‘right man’ ( unless she wants to find one, which might also work (and would be better I think)
Ensure that she understands it’s about her really and giving her some excitement and thrill..
Good luck

 

[newbycuck]

Thankyou

 

[Kenbcolley]

I was very lucky my wife cuckolded me with my best friend we had known him for years we had never discussed it it just happened slowly over time once she knew he fancied her . She kept me informed every step of the way we did not realise how it would transform our sex lives for the better