Why does it turn me on

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I am a cuck wannabe. I have sat and wondered for a long time why the thought of my wife with another man turns me on. I know I had these thoughts since I was young , but it scared me and I tried to suppress it. Here are just some of my thoughts…

  1. It first started in college. I wasn’t into the bar scene and my girlfriend would go out with friends while I sat in my room. I was always worried she was getting hit on. She was thin with a big ass and got hit on by black guys all the time. I now realize what a turn on it was.
  2. She once said she wanted to go on a date with someone else since she was young. It made me nervous and I fought it. I do remember jerking off to that thought, but it ended up causing us to break up.
  3. Currently I have been married for 20+ years. Wife knows my fantasies and is not interested.
  4. Wife still talks to an ex boyfriend from high school as friends. I fantasize about them together a lot. I always encourage her to talk to him more.
  5. I have a small to average cock. I am a grower and fantasize about her with a bigger cock.
  6. I have bought her a bbc dildo and love using it on her. I fantasize it is a bull fucking her.
  7. I want to be teased by her and a guy with a bigger cock. I think this drives some fantasy.
  8. I am submissive by nature and would love for her to peg me, but she is not interested.
  9. I love eating my own cum out of her pussy and pretend it is a cream pie from a dominant male.
My wife knows my desires and has no interest. Anyone else in my type of situation?

Mike
 
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I think that is a common fantasy for a lot of men, especially white men with a little bit of submissiveness in them
 
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mstevens75 said:
I am a cuck wannabe. I have sat and wondered for a long time why the thought of my wife with another man turns me on. I know I had these thoughts since I was young , but it scared me and I tried to suppress it. Here are just some of my thoughts…

Currently I have been married for 20+ years. Wife knows my fantasies and is not interested.

—Mike

Sounds like you married the wrong woman, Mike. I suspect there are quite a few women out there who would like to be married to a man who wouldn't mind them dating and having affairs with other men. You might be able to find one by advertising in a suitable forum. If you do, you might think about divorcing your current wife in order to make the change.
 
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Don’t think I am ready to make such a drastic.m decision at this point.
 
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I am curious how will you feel if you get to know that she is cheating on you with a bigger and more endowed guy?
 
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A lot comes down to her satisfaction. I want to see her face while she takes a big cock in her pussy and know she is getting all she deserves. I cum too quickly and want to see and know she is being fully satisfied. I see and feel how much wetter she gets from her big dildo. I think it would turn me on, but I am sure there would also be a mix of jealousy that would make it even more exhilarating.
 
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mstevens75 said:
Don’t think I am ready to make such a drastic decision at this point.

Well... 20 years is a long time to be married to the same woman, but if you don't begin thinking (at least) about a potential change, after a while it will become 40 years.
 
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ckc said:
I think that is a common fantasy for a lot of men, especially white men with a little bit of submissiveness in them
It's a reality for me my wife loves having sex with other men and I find it erotic sexy and very exciting
 
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Custer Laststand said:
Well... 20 years is a long time to be married to the same woman, but if you don't begin thinking (at least) about a potential change, after a while it will become 40 years.
I love seeing my wife taking another cock nothing more exciting
 
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mstevens75 said:
I am a cuck wannabe. I have sat and wondered for a long time why the thought of my wife with another man turns me on. I know I had these thoughts since I was young , but it scared me and I tried to suppress it. Here are just some of my thoughts…

My wife knows my desires and has no interest. Anyone else in my type of situation?

Hi Mike, bit of advice from a experienced bull and a few times sharing a girlfriend.

Like lost of the guys here, when being a wannabe cuck, your brain is so far ahead of hers in sharing and other guys. This way it's never going to happen and the chance of a big fight is sooner then she lets herself fuck other guys. Seen this so many times and a few times the idea of my then girlfriend being fucked by other guys was a real turnon, for them not so much. Basicly most females will rarely admit this and most have dificulty switching between lust and love.
Best result for you is not to be much focussed on the her fucking others, seen as a bull most start with a threesome and even then it's hardly just after a glass of wine and a laugh.

Can share you how i did it!
Bought her a few dildo's and one was really her favorit and even had fake cum, she even gave the dildo a name. Over several months got her as far as saying she wanted him inside her and loved how big and hard he was. She loved the fake cum and while on her side sucking me she even loved to watch the dildo going in and out and went crazy after being filled with fake cum. Sometimes she positioned in a way she could watch in a big mirror and loved how the huge amount of fake cum ran out of her pussy. When this happened i turned her over and fucked her hard, she even went as far as saying she loved our fucking after he had cum inside her first. So got her as far as naming it as a person and she loved it.
Until that point every even little hint on doing a threesome was a direct a no or when seeing a threesome in porn it was exciting but not for her a thing she would do she said. Fuck, she loved the idea or fantasy but would never admit it.
Month or so later bought her the same dildo as her favorit but a slightly smaller dickhead on it, also bought a big bottle of lube and after a few wines we started playing. She got both Julio and Enrique (named after the Iglesias guys) inside her while on her knees and started sucking me, she admitted this felt like all her holes were fucked and she loved it. After some playing saw her looking in the mirror while face was a mess and both holes were leaking a huge load of fake cum.
One time the fake cum was out, we forgot to order, and while fucking she started to suck on her dildo and when she was almost in the no return zone she said "come on mama wants her cum guys" and afterwards admitted that she missed all the cum and that made it almost real. Joked that maybe the real Julio and Enrique were in town so maybe call on them. She laughed and joked back that in that case she would be doing a real DP and she would have cum all over. First time she admitted she thought about doing it with other guys.
Few months later when almost cumming she sometimes even said she would be such a slut when she would be fucked by other guys. That point she even got excited by the idea but we never made any plans doing it.

Again a few weeks later we were on vacation and after some wines and being hot from the sun she out of the blue said that a guy at the bar was flirting with her. She said he was looking a lot like the real Enrique. That point was pushing it a little and several times this guy looked at her was rubbing her leg and brushing her dress up so he saw a lot of leg and crotch. She noticed and enjoyed the extra attention.
One told her we would go to find a beachbed and fuck on the beach, she was instantly into doing it in public this was and stood up. Defenitly a bit under influence from the wine and giggling. Saw the guy looking like he had a shit evening when she left and made a headguester to follow us.
On the beach a few minutes later saw him walking up to us and she didn't stop sucking while she knew he was watching. Told her to sit on her knees on the beachbed and a minute later while i was fucking her doggystyle she was sucking her first extra dick.
That week also got her first real DP and later joked it was to bad a real looking Julio wasn't there to suck.

This took me between 8 to 12 months to get her admit she loved the idea and do this, so please forget the idea of after just asking her she will do this.
 
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mstevens75 said:
A lot comes down to her satisfaction. I want to see her face while she takes a big cock in her pussy and know she is getting all she deserves. I cum too quickly and want to see and know she is being fully satisfied. I see and feel how much wetter she gets from her big dildo. I think it would turn me on, but I am sure there would also be a mix of jealousy that would make it even more exhilarating.
That's a big reason I got my wife to fuck other guys. I too cum quick, in seconds and I wanted her to experience guy that could last a long time, getting her off in ways she can't with me. I like seeing her face as she cums from being fucked, see the ectasy on her face and hearing her moans. I've seen her do things with others that she doesn't with me. I want her to enjoy every thing sexually that she can, even if it's not with me. The first time she fucked a BBC and was squirting and her cum was running down her legs, I was hooked on seeing her with BBC. Years later when we met a longterm hung BBC, he owned her for over 8 years, to the point he was saying, "I love you" to her, which I found all the more erotic. When he started sharing her with his friends, she was even more horny for him and wanted to please and make him happy. I love it all. So, for me, it's having my wife be the happiest she can be. The sluttier she is, the more I love her. There was some jealousy when she first started fucking others, but I fought past that and it turned into being so proud of her that I wanted her fucking others as much as possible and it's turned out to be the best. My being a cuck happened when I realized all I wanted was for her to be satisfied and live any and every sexual desire she has and I'm here to help her.
 
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Keesnl said:
Hi Mike, bit of advice from a experienced bull and a few times sharing a girlfriend.

Like lost of the guys here, when being a wannabe cuck, your brain is so far ahead of hers in sharing and other guys. This way it's never going to happen and the chance of a big fight is sooner then she lets herself fuck other guys. Seen this so many times and a few times the idea of my then girlfriend being fucked by other guys was a real turnon, for them not so much. Basicly most females will rarely admit this and most have dificulty switching between lust and love.
Best result for you is not to be much focussed on the her fucking others, seen as a bull most start with a threesome and even then it's hardly just after a glass of wine and a laugh.

Can share you how i did it!
Bought her a few dildo's and one was really her favorit and even had fake cum, she even gave the dildo a name. Over several months got her as far as saying she wanted him inside her and loved how big and hard he was. She loved the fake cum and while on her side sucking me she even loved to watch the dildo going in and out and went crazy after being filled with fake cum. Sometimes she positioned in a way she could watch in a big mirror and loved how the huge amount of fake cum ran out of her pussy. When this happened i turned her over and fucked her hard, she even went as far as saying she loved our fucking after he had cum inside her first. So got her as far as naming it as a person and she loved it.
Until that point every even little hint on doing a threesome was a direct a no or when seeing a threesome in porn it was exciting but not for her a thing she would do she said. Fuck, she loved the idea or fantasy but would never admit it.
Month or so later bought her the same dildo as her favorit but a slightly smaller dickhead on it, also bought a big bottle of lube and after a few wines we started playing. She got both Julio and Enrique (named after the Iglesias guys) inside her while on her knees and started sucking me, she admitted this felt like all her holes were fucked and she loved it. After some playing saw her looking in the mirror while face was a mess and both holes were leaking a huge load of fake cum.
One time the fake cum was out, we forgot to order, and while fucking she started to suck on her dildo and when she was almost in the no return zone she said "come on mama wants her cum guys" and afterwards admitted that she missed all the cum and that made it almost real. Joked that maybe the real Julio and Enrique were in town so maybe call on them. She laughed and joked back that in that case she would be doing a real DP and she would have cum all over. First time she admitted she thought about doing it with other guys.
Few months later when almost cumming she sometimes even said she would be such a slut when she would be fucked by other guys. That point she even got excited by the idea but we never made any plans doing it.

Again a few weeks later we were on vacation and after some wines and being hot from the sun she out of the blue said that a guy at the bar was flirting with her. She said he was looking a lot like the real Enrique. That point was pushing it a little and several times this guy looked at her was rubbing her leg and brushing her dress up so he saw a lot of leg and crotch. She noticed and enjoyed the extra attention.
One told her we would go to find a beachbed and fuck on the beach, she was instantly into doing it in public this was and stood up. Defenitly a bit under influence from the wine and giggling. Saw the guy looking like he had a shit evening when she left and made a headguester to follow us.
On the beach a few minutes later saw him walking up to us and she didn't stop sucking while she knew he was watching. Told her to sit on her knees on the beachbed and a minute later while i was fucking her doggystyle she was sucking her first extra dick.
That week also got her first real DP and later joked it was to bad a real looking Julio wasn't there to suck.

This took me between 8 to 12 months to get her admit she loved the idea and do this, so please forget the idea of after just asking her she will do this.
Lucky guy, my wife never said yes
 
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Every girlfriend I dated cheated on me. Every one of my wives fucked my friends. I eventually just stopped fighting it and decided, fuck it, why not just join the fun. Then all the threesomes started turning into twosomes and not including me.
 
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mstevens75 said:
I am a cuck wannabe. I have sat and wondered for a long time why the thought of my wife with another man turns me on....

My wife knows my desires and has no interest. Anyone else in my type of situation?

Mike
I don't know if there is really an answer to why it turns you (and millions of other men, including me) on to think of our wives fucking other guys.
I suppose we find it sexually exciting enough that it becomes the dominant emotion, and fantasy tends to overcome any inhibitions relating to it.

Years ago, my wife had no problem cuckolding me, but never when I was present. I told her when we began dating that she had complete sexual freedom, and just a few weeks later she told me that a much younger coworker wanted to fuck her, and asked me what I thought about that. I not only encouraged her to do it, but told her a stipulation was that I got to watch. She was surprised by that, but didn't immediately dismiss that idea.
Long story short, they had a hot, torrid 'affair' for a few months, but I never got to watch. I could've/should've pushed harder for it perhaps, but I was enjoying the 'benefits' too much.

Fast forward about 10-12 years, and she had a period spanning the middle 2000's where she again turned hot, and was sharing her pussy with other guys, but the majority of times was when she was visiting friends out of state, or when I was away from home for work or to go see family. So again, never got to watch, even with regular reminders that I wanted to.

After this, she has aged enough to where she no longer has any interest in sex. With me, or anybody else.
All you can do is learn to live with it. It's not easy, but each day becomes a week, each week becomes a month....
 
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This turns me on so much when I'm high like right now. Anyone wanna chat?
 
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There are many variations in the cuckold dynamic, but for me it's always been based on a combination of awareness of my inability to satisfy my wife sexually and finding that arousing, and wanting her to be fulfilled.
 
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Told earlier that i'm way more Bull then a cuck but loved to see some girlfriends enjoy trying out new things and finding their limits in what they enjoy and dislike. For me always was the rule that it would go as far as they wanted and never continue when she said no.
Never been a fan when sharing a girlfriend, they didn't want this either, of just letting them go with a guy. Girlfriends were more open and enjoying this when i was there.
Just once had a girlfriend into being shared who had sex with a guy without me, wasn't a real succes but a experience she didn't want to mis. Later we had fun and got excited when talking about it.
On the nudebeach we saw a guy with a huge and fat even when soft dick. First she said was how huge it must be when hard. Guy laid in a obvious place so he had full view on her pussy. Wasn't surprised she wanted to tease to see how big it would be full erect. After showing herself and made him crazy when open her pussylips to rub some sand away this guy was hung like a monster. Not small myself but i geuss over 10 to 11 inch his dick was huge.
Girlfriend asked if she would go to the toilet would he follow and would i mind if she played with a huge dick. Told her to have fun and indeed saw him follow her.
Within 5 minutes she was back partly excited but mostly disapointed. She told he followed her to the toilet and got in when he saw she had the door open. Got his dick in her mouth and started pumping like crazy. When she stood up he turned her around and pushed her in a way he was inside her in a second. Again fucking like crazy pushing some fingers in her ass. When she moved, felt uncomfortable and hurted pushing in so deep, he misunderstood and got his dickhead in her ass. Before she could say wait the guy already started cumming.
So she came back with a leaking sore buthole but still wanting to fuck. Took her to a dune and we fucked, returned with her pussy and ass filled with cum.
Huge dick was exciting and something she wanted to try.
 
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i too am a cuck wannabe with a small cock who wants his wife to fuck other guys with big cocks.. I want to clean her cunt afterwards and his cock too.
 
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i am a NJ cuck wannanbe, married to a church lady who is cheating on me. she has no idea that i discovered that she has cheated on me with at least 2 guys....one is a priest from our parish. i also strongly supect, but cant prove, that she has fucked my son's best friend

i am afraid to confront her. but i am so turned on by her cheating and cant stop jerking off about it, especially when i know that they are together.
 
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i am a NJ cuck wannanbe, married to a church lady who is cheating on me. she has no idea that i discovered that she has cheated on me with at least 2 guys....one is a priest from our parish. i also strongly supect, but cant prove, that she has fucked my son's best friend

i am afraid to confront her. but i am so turned on by her cheating and cant stop jerking off about it, especially when i know that they are together.
Since she had sex with another you ARE a cuckold not a wannabe