Seems like a lot of people are having an issue logging into chat since we updated. Here is what you need to do: Logout of the chat and forums, clear your cache and cookies. Log back in to the forum, then login to the chat with the same user/pass you use for the forums.
Smokin' hot lady...tell her to dress sexy in public and flirt a little, she'll get plenty of attention from men in person, that should do the trick. She could get laid in a heartbeat if she wanted to.