For the last month or so I have been reading post and now I guess I need to start asking for advice. My wife has no idea about this post and never will. Also, I’m not going to post any pictures of us. This is strictly to share what I am going through and hopefully get some good advice on what to do.
First I will start with some history on us. Kate is 25 and I am 45. Yes I am aware of the difference and never thought that would happen. So how did it you ask? Well Kate got a job at the company I work for. My best friend Jill, who works for me now and then, decided to hook me up. I wish I could say Kate was the first, but she was one of a long list. But she was the last one she tried. It was more of a joke since the age difference is pretty big. Little did any of us know we would hit it off. Part of it was that Kate likes the father figure. Hers died when she was pretty young. Anyway 6 months later we got married and have been for 3 years now.
The first two years were really good. Then I had to have a triple bypass surgery and the medicine since has made love making very difficult. Just prior to that, Kate had a boob job and some nip and tucks. She was beautiful before that, but she had lost over 100 pounds. Her outlook on life and how she views herself really changed. I encouraged her to dress sexy and be more bold and confident.
So about 9 months ago the tensions were pretty high with her new body and outlook coupled with my impotence had things on edge. Then I bought her some toys and things calmed down. It helped take the edge off. They were suggested by Jill. We talk about everything. More on that later.
So I went back to work and Kate got bored. She had stopped working at my request, but she wanted it as well. That was how she got to go to the gym and work out so much. Then Brent a friend of hers and now mine asked her to help him out. He is a manager of a bar. I won’t name it but it is similar to hooters. They wear skirts (kilts hint hint) and the tops show are their breast. Not a strip club or anything that raunch, but it gave her a chance to show more skin than she had ever before. Well he asked if she could help him by tending bar for a week while one of the other girls was on her honeymoon. She told him no, but I told her she should. She was still a little self-conscious about her body even with the new breast. We were drinking wine and by the end of the night she told him yes.
I could tell she was nervous up till the first night. She came home and tried to jump me. We got out her toy and played around. She said she liked the way guys were looking at her. She said she felt sexy for the first time ever. She broke down crying and I told her it was good for her. That week went quick and she was on cloud nine. The next week she was unhappy. The next week I was begging her to go back. So she called Brent and went back.
After a couple months she started staying over from time to time to drink with some of the others after hours. Then she started having some girl’s night out. That has gotten to be a weekly thing and sometimes two or three nights. We were using the dildo together till three months ago or so.
So to wrap this long edition up, I don’t know if she is having sex. But, Jill has told me some minor things. She knows Kate has kissed a couple guys when she was *****. Danced with a lot of guys and has a crush on one of the bar tenders at a bar the girls sometimes go to after work. Jill said it is just flirting but they have kissed a couple times as she left. Nothing big, but she said it was obvious Kate liked him and even admitted it to her.
So what do I do? I want her to be happy and pretty much am good with her having sex with someone else since I can’t. Even when I could, it was hard to keep up with her. When I was younger I wouldn’t have thought that possible. How do I bring it up with her.? Do I tell Jill? How are things going to change if she says yes? Or if she says no? Just a lot of questions and fears going through my head. Does that ever get better.
First I will start with some history on us. Kate is 25 and I am 45. Yes I am aware of the difference and never thought that would happen. So how did it you ask? Well Kate got a job at the company I work for. My best friend Jill, who works for me now and then, decided to hook me up. I wish I could say Kate was the first, but she was one of a long list. But she was the last one she tried. It was more of a joke since the age difference is pretty big. Little did any of us know we would hit it off. Part of it was that Kate likes the father figure. Hers died when she was pretty young. Anyway 6 months later we got married and have been for 3 years now.
The first two years were really good. Then I had to have a triple bypass surgery and the medicine since has made love making very difficult. Just prior to that, Kate had a boob job and some nip and tucks. She was beautiful before that, but she had lost over 100 pounds. Her outlook on life and how she views herself really changed. I encouraged her to dress sexy and be more bold and confident.
So about 9 months ago the tensions were pretty high with her new body and outlook coupled with my impotence had things on edge. Then I bought her some toys and things calmed down. It helped take the edge off. They were suggested by Jill. We talk about everything. More on that later.
So I went back to work and Kate got bored. She had stopped working at my request, but she wanted it as well. That was how she got to go to the gym and work out so much. Then Brent a friend of hers and now mine asked her to help him out. He is a manager of a bar. I won’t name it but it is similar to hooters. They wear skirts (kilts hint hint) and the tops show are their breast. Not a strip club or anything that raunch, but it gave her a chance to show more skin than she had ever before. Well he asked if she could help him by tending bar for a week while one of the other girls was on her honeymoon. She told him no, but I told her she should. She was still a little self-conscious about her body even with the new breast. We were drinking wine and by the end of the night she told him yes.
I could tell she was nervous up till the first night. She came home and tried to jump me. We got out her toy and played around. She said she liked the way guys were looking at her. She said she felt sexy for the first time ever. She broke down crying and I told her it was good for her. That week went quick and she was on cloud nine. The next week she was unhappy. The next week I was begging her to go back. So she called Brent and went back.
After a couple months she started staying over from time to time to drink with some of the others after hours. Then she started having some girl’s night out. That has gotten to be a weekly thing and sometimes two or three nights. We were using the dildo together till three months ago or so.
So to wrap this long edition up, I don’t know if she is having sex. But, Jill has told me some minor things. She knows Kate has kissed a couple guys when she was *****. Danced with a lot of guys and has a crush on one of the bar tenders at a bar the girls sometimes go to after work. Jill said it is just flirting but they have kissed a couple times as she left. Nothing big, but she said it was obvious Kate liked him and even admitted it to her.
So what do I do? I want her to be happy and pretty much am good with her having sex with someone else since I can’t. Even when I could, it was hard to keep up with her. When I was younger I wouldn’t have thought that possible. How do I bring it up with her.? Do I tell Jill? How are things going to change if she says yes? Or if she says no? Just a lot of questions and fears going through my head. Does that ever get better.
