AlanUK said:
Thank you Custer and Saraha.
You're welcome.
AlanUK said:
Trying the quote thing hope it works.
It did.
AlanUK said:
This was mainly the reason I put "am I a cuck" in title.
The short answer is, "no." The definition is: cuckold — a man with an unfaithful wife. It's short and simple. It's also operational. Merely thinking about your wife making you her cuckold and/or finding yourself turned on by that idea does not make you her cuckold in reality.
If your wife were to fuck another man or fuck other men on a continuing basis, then you would be her cuckold.
AlanUK said:
What I mean to say is, I do not feel I am submissive and wouldn't be interested in the chastity, sissy, or cleaning ideas that some have.
Those things are sort of like cake decorations that appeal to some but not others. The cake is, your wife fucks other men. If she does, you are her cuckold. If she doesn't, you aren't.
AlanUK said:
Perhaps I am more of a voyeur.
If your wife fucks other men in front of you and you want to think of yourself as a voyeur, in addition to being her cuckold... hey, why not?
AlanUK said:
My wife is quite shy in public and I dont think I could ever get her to go to either a nudist camp and or a swingers club.
Nothing wrong with that. Lots of people are shy in front of others. (As I understand it, if you and your wife were to visit a swingers club on a "checking it out to see if you're interested" basis, there would be no expectation that either or both of you would take off your clothes if you did not wish to do that.)
AlanUK said:
Whatever we do is compromised by having children at home (we left it quite late to have kids).
That does, as you say, make things more complicated. There are some threads on that subject in this forum. If you spend some time reading around you'll find them (probably).
AlanUK said:
Yes I tried to do this this morning and raised the issue when not having sex rather than as I normally do when we are having sex.
Talking about this in the cold light of day (as it's called), instead of when you and your wife are in bed, hot, fucking and fantasizing, is a good way to get a better reading on how both of you really feel about it.
AlanUK said:
Hopefully I got the point over about my feelings, but these conversation never really go as I rehearse them.
The problem is, you can rehearse what you want to say but not how your wife will respond.
AlanUK said:
I cannot seem to let the idea go though. .... I am 47; my wife is 44. I have been with her since she was 18 and neither of us has been with anyone else.
You and your wife are still relatively young, but not that young. Thus, if you seriously want to transform your marriage to a "cuckold husband / hotwife" relationship you're right to be concerning yourself with that now, as opposed to putting it off because you aren't sure how your wife might respond. In any case, it sounds like her responses so far are at least somewhat positive.
If you live in or near a town or city where there is a college or university, that could potentially be a pool of unattached hot-and-horny young men. You might consider fantasizing with your wife about her taking lovers who are much younger (around 20). An advantage may be that your wife might find such lovers very satisfying in bed while being unlikely to take them seriously as potential new marital partners. I.e., she could view them as true fuck buddies and you would be relieved, presumably, of anxiety over whether they would be threats to your marriage.