Are Cuckold marriages real?

[Boabeserk]

For me I met my wife in high-school. And she already had a reputation for being a slut and for lying.

I asked her if she was really a slut and she said no. So I asked about xboyfriends and she told me in graphic detail all the things she's done. Including lots of group sex. And we were so young...

The sories were so hot. But it was the things she did that led me to find out how much she cheated on me. First it was little things like getting a call from a guy and I had to leave.

Then I started hanging out with her friends (all guys) and well I would hide and wait to watch her when she was alone with them. I saw them kiss her and group her. At first I was mad. But I told her I didn't have a problem with it. The stories where so worth it.

And she always pleasures me without bounds. But she would still prefer cheating and not saying anything. But I knew about alot of it.

And yes after that it became a kink of mine. And we had many adventures with it. But back before these kind of sites were a huge thing. We together had the idea to share her pics online. She loved it and so did I. But eventually she started being less involved and now she let's me show her pics but doesn't talk online much.

 

[crt]

My advice is that if you're not in a relationship but think you want to watch, try finding a woman who wants to swing as part of her relationship or is at least open to it. Discuss it with her before you get serious with her. Many single women in their 30s or 40s are open to the idea. If you're currently married and on the fence about it, try something small at first. Have your wife dress up in lingerie and give a black guy a hand job while you watch. Something small to test the waters. If you find that you don't like it, no harm done. But if you do like , do more the next time, and then more, and then more...next thing you know, she's fucking while you watch. Take things slow.

Remember that all this is supposed to be fun, not scary and nerve racking.

Our experience developed as we grew ( and growing) older both 56 now, nothing scary nothing nerve racking, my wife likes to be ( and have sex with) other men , I’m ok with that fact and apart from a little jealousy here and there and being a little tormented sometimes as I wear a chastity cage , we are both having a great time, we actually love each other a lot , the adventures my wife has spice her life up a lot and all involved are winners

 

[crt]

Why ha ha??

 

[mistyD]

As a follow-up to my original post about the real world complexities of having a spouse who dates (see my original post above), here's what has since happened. As my "date" and I and husband were walking from our bedroom, my husband's daughter from another marriage walked by the bedroom door just as we were exiting. Her Dad, her step-mom, and some stranger were exiting the dark bedroom and I looked like I had stepped out of a wind tunnel. I hadn't even had time to brush my hair and I could see later my skirt was all twisted because I was re-dressing in a hurry. She's only 13 but I think it was obvious to her that this didn't look right, but she didn't say a word (to us). However, my husband shares custody with his daughter and while she spends the bulk of time with her Dad (my husband), she does spend weekends and lots of holidays with her mother. So, I'm sure you can see where this is going. His daughter told her Mom what she saw and immediately the Mom called my husband. She wanted to know what was going on and she was NOT a happy lady! However, I think that even for her she could not imagine what was really going on but wanted some explanation. My husband had no choice but to deny anything unusual happened. He made up some story (which I didn't find very reasonable, but I was staying out of this). You can see how awkward this is - now he's having to lie about this. Not only that, but I think his daughter KNOWS this is a lie (that nothing was going on in the bedroom). Hopefully, the Mom believes the story and doesn't take this to the custody court which would possibly cause the custody situation to switch. It's all yuck and icky.

Is this all worth my husband getting to watch me fuck some guy in our bed. I know my husband thinks it's amazing hot. I like the excitement of it all. I like the unusualness of the sex. But, in my heart of heart I know this isn't going to work nor last. You have to ask...is this worth it.

 

[cuckytom]

Well, judging from your posts, it seems like you get off criticizing other people's posts and for someone in the lifestyle you don't seem to be very tolerant at all of other peoples approach to the lifestyle. I suppose you expected me to tell you everything we did to vet this guy or to verify his STD status or how we deal with safety issues?

I guess you have never been to a swing part before either where many if not most of the people you meet there you are meeting for the first time and you make a decision about whether you are going to fuck them or not based on conversation and and interaction.

Anyway, thanks so much for you kind thoughts.

Don't be silly, I've been to plenty of swing parties, I started swinging back in 1980 and haven't stopped since. STDs are always discussed and you NEVER go to someone else's house if you're the woman or couple unless you know them very well.

It's very irresponsible to come on a forum like this and pretend that you have experience and give bad advice to other people. I usually keep my mouth shut because I know that most of this forum is for fantasy and not real swingers and that's fine. I'm ok with that. But when someone tries to come across as having an experience in real life and gives out dangerous advice, I have to chime in.

If you're going to swing, make sure you are safe. Have a recent STD free card and ask them to show you their card or at least use an at home instant AIDS test. Also, have condoms on hand. And for women, beware of hidden cameras (at the very least). Do not go to some stranger's home or apartment for sex.

Swinging is so much more fun if everyone is comfortable and safe.

 

[cuckytom]

As a follow-up to my original post about the real world complexities of having a spouse who dates (see my original post above), here's what has since happened. As my "date" and I and husband were walking from our bedroom, my husband's daughter from another marriage walked by the bedroom door just as we were exiting.

I guess I'm going to earn a reputation as an old lady nanny on here BUT...........this is wrong also. You NEVER mix your swinging life with your private life. NEVER. You absolutely do not mix your kids or any other kids in with your swinging, period. What the hell are you doing swinging at home while your daughter lives there too? Are you nuts?

Never swing with people that you know as part of your non-swinging life. Never with people from your work, never your friends, never your neighbors, etc. You are just asking for trouble. Never give out your real phone number, the place where you work, and be careful about taking them home and letting them know where you live. Probably better to use a hotel.

 

[cuckytom]

Nice story, great imagination. Percect fit for a fantasy site such as this.

I agree. Some of these stories get wilder and wilder as they all try to top one another.

Next story will be about how the wife is duck taped to a mailbox at the bus stop naked and bent over to be fucked by everyone who passes by.

 

[johnmasters]

I agree. Some of these stories get wilder and wilder as they all try to top one another.

Next story will be about how the wife is duck taped to a mailbox at the bus stop naked and bent over to be fucked by everyone who passes by.

Not a mail box, but a woman tied naked to a fallen tree in a wood and available for all passers by to use. This was one of the first sex stories I ever read and while it turned me on (as intended) I still had to wonder how stupid it would be to do something like this for real.

 

[crt]

Because I found your story amusing??

Oh ok
Thanks, just telling it as it is

 

[crt]

I agree. Some of these stories get wilder and wilder as they all try to top one another.

Next story will be about how the wife is duck taped to a mailbox at the bus stop naked and bent over to be fucked by everyone who passes by.

Agreed ,
I’ve said here before that there is a hell of a lot of fantasy on this site and very very little reality, to be honest it’s understandable but tedious and a little silly.
I post what is a real , sensible and normal update on my cuckold lifestyle and I will be messaged something like ‘ does your bull have you put a dress on’
Very stupid responses
Anyway I will keep posting when and if , and,, yes real! As verified by a few trusted members here

 

[CTWifeBlackCockSlut]

I guess I'm going to earn a reputation as an old lady nanny on here BUT...........this is wrong also. You NEVER mix your swinging life with your private life. NEVER. You absolutely do not mix your kids or any other kids in with your swinging, period. What the hell are you doing swinging at home while your daughter lives there too? Are you nuts?

Never swing with people that you know as part of your non-swinging life. Never with people from your work, never your friends, never your neighbors, etc. You are just asking for trouble. Never give out your real phone number, the place where you work, and be careful about taking them home and letting them know where you live. Probably better to use a hotel.

Don't be silly, I've been to plenty of swing parties, I started swinging back in 1980 and haven't stopped since. STDs are always discussed and you NEVER go to someone else's house if you're the woman or couple unless you know them very well.

It's very irresponsible to come on a forum like this and pretend that you have experience and give bad advice to other people. I usually keep my mouth shut because I know that most of this forum is for fantasy and not real swingers and that's fine. I'm ok with that. But when someone tries to come across as having an experience in real life and gives out dangerous advice, I have to chime in.

If you're going to swing, make sure you are safe. Have a recent STD free card and ask them to show you their card or at least use an at home instant AIDS test. Also, have condoms on hand. And for women, beware of hidden cameras (at the very least). Do not go to some stranger's home or apartment for sex.

Swinging is so much more fun if everyone is comfortable and safe.

Seriously? You accuse me of lying about my experience and suggest I am giving anyone advice in my post? Where did I give advice to anyone! The topic is about whether cuckold marriages work and I share our experience as a married cuckold couple and how we got started. What gives you the right to judge me or our marriage or suggest I am lying about how we started down this path? Are you so egocentric that you think if you don't approve of something it must be wrong? I will say it one more time, slowly, so you can read it: YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT WE DID TO VET THIS PERSON OR WHAT WE DID TO ASSURE OUT SAFETY AND WHAT WE DID TO VERIFY STD STATUS! TO IMPLY THAT YOU KNOW WHAT WE DID WITH REGARD TO MEETING THIS PERSON JUST SHOWS YOUR IGNORANCE AND ARROGANCE!

 

[crt]

Some guys shelter in fantasy because they cant face the reality of their own lives. Ive noticed this a lot with guys who give themselves the title of "bull'. They always seem to be single, lonely and desperate for any attention, even from men.

True enough I suppose
The bulls I know in life are what you might expect , confident , assertive, somewhat aggressive and arrogant to a degree.
I think you are right, I’m not most sure ‘online’ bulls are , I’ve had some very strange requests from online bulls that make you think there is something not right,( some are fine though)

 

[mistyD]

This does not sound good, Ms. mistyD.

There's nothing wrong with you fucking a married man, but if you think he's going to leave his wife for you that's probably an illusion — especially if they have children.

Even if he does leave his wife for you, and you leave your cuckold husband for him, chances are that will not work out well. One reason would be: couples in that situation tend not to trust each other. That is, he would tend not to trust you, because you have already proven to him that you will cuckold your husband (with him), and he has already proven to you that he will "cheat" on his wife (with you).

I tend to agree, although the cuckold part for us was completely his idea (after he caught me cheating). Hard to have complete trust when you meet while cheating!

 

[cuckytom]

YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT WE DID TO VET THIS PERSON OR WHAT WE DID TO ASSURE OUT SAFETY AND WHAT WE DID TO VERIFY STD STATUS! TO IMPLY THAT YOU KNOW WHAT WE DID WITH REGARD TO MEETING THIS PERSON JUST SHOWS YOUR IGNORANCE AND ARROGANCE!

No need for ad hominin attacks.

My point was that you did not mention that you vetted him before sex, therefore, you are giving bad examples and bad advice on here. Your fantasy story - if taken seriously - is dangerous to new people in the swinging world. When you pretend to be experienced, people take your advice and stories seriously and when you leave out the fact that you vetted your swing partner for STDs and you went to a stranger's house to swing, you put people in danger.

Jacking off and making up a story is one thing but pretending to be experienced and relating stories with bad advice is quite another.

 

[mistyD]

I guess I'm going to earn a reputation as an old lady nanny on here BUT...........this is wrong also. You NEVER mix your swinging life with your private life. NEVER. You absolutely do not mix your kids or any other kids in with your swinging, period. What the hell are you doing swinging at home while your daughter lives there too? Are you nuts?

Never swing with people that you know as part of your non-swinging life. Never with people from your work, never your friends, never your neighbors, etc. You are just asking for trouble. Never give out your real phone number, the place where you work, and be careful about taking them home and letting them know where you live. Probably better to use a hotel.

Well, we weren't really swinging cause there were only 3 of us and my husband was only watching. But that doesn't matter. You are correct to say don't do this stuff at home. It was my husband's idea to watch some other guy with me in OUR bed. This turned him on a lot. His daughter was NOT suppose to even be home. She was at a school play practice event, started feeling poorly and someone gave her a ride home about an hour before she was suppose to be home.

However, I agree completely that doing this at home is not a good idea. It's just not. The daughter told her Mom. Unpleasant all around even though my husband never admitted to his ex what was really happening.

Lesson learned.

 

[robandkate]

Not in response to any of the previous posts, as I have not read them all, I will tell you that I have been in two hotwife/stag-vixen marriages. I only make the distinction because we are not into dominate/submissive roles...I am never denied sex, caged, or ordered to do anything.

My first involvement in sharing my gf was totally impromptu. We were just 18 and just graduated from high school. We drank a little too much one night and I talked my gf into having sex with my best friend who was drinking with us. It was awesome! Afterward, she and I agreed that we both liked what happened. We started talking about other guys we knew who we could involve.

We were together for 8 years (married at 21). She had sex with about 25 different guys we knew in our everyday life. She never had sex with anyone we were not already friends with. I found out that it turns me on to be around friends who are fucking my gf/wife. Our divorce had nothing to do with our lifestyle. Our sex life was the best part of our marriage.

After spending 8 years sharing my gf/wife with friends, I new that I could never live in a monogamous relationship. I began searching for another openminded girl, with no plan on how to actually find one. I found the thought of asking a casual date if she would fuck other guys if we got serious to be uncomfortable .

I met Kate at work. We bonded over being young and divorced. As we grew closer, we began to confide in each other. Kate said that she liked being married but she found that sex became boring in long-term relationships. I took the leap and told her about my lifestyle with my first wife. Kate was intrigued by the idea of being in a loving committed relationship and still being able to have sex with other people.

Kate and I have been together for over 20 years. Kate has sex with friends of mine, husbands of couples we know, casual acquaintances, and strangers. We sometimes play with other couples but our main fun is getting Kate laid. I love to watch and be with her after she has been with other men.

Had I not had the life experiences that I have, I may think that all of this lifestyle stuff was made up. I remember 'back when' thinking that Swinger Magazines were just made up adds as another form of porn. I did not think that people actually did those things. Luckily, was I wrong!

Rob

 

[mistyD]

Not in response to any of the previous posts, as I have not read them all, I will tell you that I have been in two hotwife/stag-vixen marriages. I only make the distinction because we are not into dominate/submissive roles...I am never denied sex, caged, or ordered to do anything.

My first involvement in sharing my gf was totally impromptu. We were just 18 and just graduated from high school. We drank a little too much one night and I talked my gf into having sex with my best friend who was drinking with us. It was awesome! Afterward, she and I agreed that we both liked what happened. We started talking about other guys we knew who we could involve.

We were together for 8 years (married at 21). She had sex with about 25 different guys we knew in our everyday life. She never had sex with anyone we were not already friends with. I found out that it turns me on to be around friends who are fucking my gf/wife. Our divorce had nothing to do with our lifestyle. Our sex life was the best part of our marriage.

After spending 8 years sharing my gf/wife with friends, I new that I could never live in a monogamous relationship. I began searching for another openminded girl, with no plan on how to actually find one. I found the thought of asking a casual date if she would fuck other guys if we got serious to be uncomfortable .

I met Kate at work. We bonded over being young and divorced. As we grew closer, we began to confide in each other. Kate said that she liked being married but she found that sex became boring in long-term relationships. I took the leap and told her about my lifestyle with my first wife. Kate was intrigued by the idea of being in a loving committed relationship and still being able to have sex with other people.

Kate and I have been together for over 20 years. Kate has sex with friends of mine, husbands of couples we know, casual acquaintances, and strangers. We sometimes play with other couples but our main fun is getting Kate laid. I love to watch and be with her after she has been with other men.

Had I not had the life experiences that I have, I may think that all of this lifestyle stuff was made up. I remember 'back when' thinking that Swinger Magazines were just made up adds as another form of porn. I did not think that people actually did those things. Luckily, was I wrong!

Rob

Although I would say that I am far far from naive, and was overly wild and slutty in hs and college, I was totally surprised by this lifestyle. Had never even imagined it....yet I had had sex at 16 married at 22 and then again a few years later....so I had kinda been thru sexual situations. When my husband first said...hey, you go date and then tell me about the sex later I thought he was being crudely sarcastic. He wasn't. He truly enjoys this from a sexual standpoint and can talk about it non stop. Especially if we are drinking. It usually leads to sex.

Now, I do enjoy this lifestyle (for now), but what I have come to realize is that this is totally, completely a guy thing. I have 5 very close girl friends and 3 others I would consider friends that can discuss a lot but they are busy raising kids and I don't see them much. Some are married some are divorced. Some both. None of them...exactly NONE of them would ever say....hey, it would sure be hot if I could watch my husband fuck another gal. Zero! Nada. This is a complete guy thing. I have no idea why - I'm sure that shrinks could tell me all sorts of reasons, but the simple truth is - women, whether married, single, or divorced would not like to see their bf or husband fucking another gal. Maybe that makes us more "insecure". IDK. I don't analyze why we don't find that sexually arousing, but the fact of the matter is there are all sorts of cuckold this and cuckold that places on the internet. None of them are about women watching their husbands. I know that when I was having an affair...I specifically didn't want to hear about when my affair guy was having sex with his wife (which wasn't very often, I take it), but I didn't want to think about it. I wanted to be the center of his sexual attention. I think it's partly what made "having an affair" so exciting was...I was getting his attention over his wife. God that is such a crude thing to say, but it's how I felt. He was choosing me over her.

I even asked my husband why...tell me why you find this so sexually interesting. Look - if you said you wanted to watch 2 women together I could sorta get that. Or if you said...swinging might be hot...yeah I can see how that could be. But, to sit by yourself in a corner or very close to me while I'm having sex with some guy....can't understand why that is so intriguing. When I was dating in community college and college without exception all the guys were more on the jealous side. He couldn't really tell me why...just that it did.

Not sure why I thought of this. I'm intrigued I guess. Only 2 of my gfs know my husband and I do this and I'm quite sure one of them still doesn't believe me. She could see ME doing it...she can't imagine my husband liking it.

So, Rob.....I can totally understand how you might, without your life experiences, think this lifestyle is all made up. I do know it's extremely rare and there is no doubt in my mind that much of it IS made up. But if it is made up....it sure is a weird thing to make up.

Finally, I will add this and it's probably a very controversial topic. I don't quite get this fascination with seeing your spouse or gf with another black guy. This is like fascination on steroids. I personally have never dated a black guy so maybe I'm missing something here. I'm not being prejudiced here, just hasn't happened for me. Is it because black guys are suppose to be bigger than white guys? This I do know...women don't buy bigger and bigger sexual toys. At some point it's painful. Go check it out....do you see vibrators that are HUGE....no, you generally see vibrating ones or ones with little stick out thingies, not ones that stretch you into pain.

So, maybe after all of this I AM totally naive. Some gal is gonna tell me how great it is....but I don't think it has one bit to do with the guy's color nor his size...I think it has to do with his ability to make sex exciting. Ok, I'm done ranting.

 

[CUCKOLDOFLATINA]

First of all, define 'real'. Second, each couple, each person is different. There is no such things as a standard procedure or even instructions for it. In our case, my wife started fucking others before I knew but I love it now. I love to see her getting fucked by other men or when she gets back home with her holes full of cum.

 

[robandkate]

Although I would say that I am far far from naive, and was overly wild and slutty in hs and college, I was totally surprised by this lifestyle. Had never even imagined it....yet I had had sex at 16 married at 22 and then again a few years later....so I had kinda been thru sexual situations. When my husband first said...hey, you go date and then tell me about the sex later I thought he was being crudely sarcastic. He wasn't. He truly enjoys this from a sexual standpoint and can talk about it non stop. Especially if we are drinking. It usually leads to sex.

Now, I do enjoy this lifestyle (for now), but what I have come to realize is that this is totally, completely a guy thing. I have 5 very close girl friends and 3 others I would consider friends that can discuss a lot but they are busy raising kids and I don't see them much. Some are married some are divorced. Some both. None of them...exactly NONE of them would ever say....hey, it would sure be hot if I could watch my husband fuck another gal. Zero! Nada. This is a complete guy thing. I have no idea why - I'm sure that shrinks could tell me all sorts of reasons, but the simple truth is - women, whether married, single, or divorced would not like to see their bf or husband fucking another gal. Maybe that makes us more "insecure". IDK. I don't analyze why we don't find that sexually arousing, but the fact of the matter is there are all sorts of cuckold this and cuckold that places on the internet. None of them are about women watching their husbands. I know that when I was having an affair...I specifically didn't want to hear about when my affair guy was having sex with his wife (which wasn't very often, I take it), but I didn't want to think about it. I wanted to be the center of his sexual attention. I think it's partly what made "having an affair" so exciting was...I was getting his attention over his wife. God that is such a crude thing to say, but it's how I felt. He was choosing me over her.

I even asked my husband why...tell me why you find this so sexually interesting. Look - if you said you wanted to watch 2 women together I could sorta get that. Or if you said...swinging might be hot...yeah I can see how that could be. But, to sit by yourself in a corner or very close to me while I'm having sex with some guy....can't understand why that is so intriguing. When I was dating in community college and college without exception all the guys were more on the jealous side. He couldn't really tell me why...just that it did.

Not sure why I thought of this. I'm intrigued I guess. Only 2 of my gfs know my husband and I do this and I'm quite sure one of them still doesn't believe me. She could see ME doing it...she can't imagine my husband liking it.

So, Rob.....I can totally understand how you might, without your life experiences, think this lifestyle is all made up. I do know it's extremely rare and there is no doubt in my mind that much of it IS made up. But if it is made up....it sure is a weird thing to make up.

Finally, I will add this and it's probably a very controversial topic. I don't quite get this fascination with seeing your spouse or gf with another black guy. This is like fascination on steroids. I personally have never dated a black guy so maybe I'm missing something here. I'm not being prejudiced here, just hasn't happened for me. Is it because black guys are suppose to be bigger than white guys? This I do know...women don't buy bigger and bigger sexual toys. At some point it's painful. Go check it out....do you see vibrators that are HUGE....no, you generally see vibrating ones or ones with little stick out thingies, not ones that stretch you into pain.

So, maybe after all of this I AM totally naive. Some gal is gonna tell me how great it is....but I don't think it has one bit to do with the guy's color nor his size...I think it has to do with his ability to make sex exciting. Ok, I'm done ranting.

Misty D,

Your reply is very well thought out and articulately expressed. I have been one of 'those guys' since I was 18, 'those guys' being guys who like having a gf/wife that other guys get to have sex with. I have certainly wondered why I enjoy that aspect of life but I have never delved too deeply into those feelings, and certainly not with a mental health professional. I may be afraid to discover the root of my sexual preferences.

I LOVE to watch other guys with my wife but I also love just knowing that she is having sex with other guys, even when I don't get to watch. The juxtaposition of a loving suburban wife and mom also being a cock-craving slut turns me on. I like being around other guys, in normal everyday situations, who are fucking my wife or who have fucked my wife.

Trying to ascribe traits to people based upon their gender (and forgive me, but I believe that their are only two genders) is difficult, as there are many variations of interests between and among genders. I do not consider, straight, Bi-sexual, or Gay to be genders but behaviors driven by whatever forces.

That being said, I think that generally, men get turned on by what they see or visualize and women get turned on more by what they hear and feel. Men are much more visual. Men can watch porn for hours, and I think that women who do watch porn at all, tend to only watch it long enough to get off. The porn industry did not prosper based upon women viewers.

Guys can and will screw others with little regard to the feelings involved. Sticking one's 'thing' into other people is much less intimate than getting someone's 'thing' stuck into us.

The original question was about cuckold marriages being 'real'. I forgot to mention that in over 20 years of lifestyle fun, and from attending swing clubs, National and Regional lifestyle conventions, and vacationing many times at Hedonism II in Jamaica, we have met and become close friends with many lifestyle couples.

We tend to gravitate towards other couples like us, who prefer for the wife to play with other guys, as opposed to couples swapping partners. We have been friends for many years with several local couples like us who are in very long-term, very loving and supportive marriages. Personally, I have never lived in a monogamous relationship. My first wife and Kate were/are both hotwives.

The dream can be real...

Rob

 

[don_jetman]

We've been in the lifestyle for about 15 years now. I had fantasies about L fucking other guys since we started dating, but it took a few years after we were married for me to confess them to her. I'm pretty sure my fantasies came from jealousy wen we were dating - she was still in college and I (10 years older) was already out in the workplace. I was always suspicious that she might be fucking other younger guys on campus while I was away during the week (I only visited on weekends). The more I ruminated about it when I was away, the more I began to fantasize about it while I masturbated to imaginary scenes in my head.

I'll add that L always presented herself as a "good girl." I was her first sexual partner, and back then she was always shy about sex talk before and after we fucked. When my jealousy initiated fantasies of her infidelity, it gradually led to wishing she was more "slutty" in real life. I began to buy her more revealing clothes, and after guys began giving her more and more attention, she embraced showing off a bit more - going without a bra and leaving another button undone on her blouse. At first I assumed she did it just to please me, but it wasn't long before I could see how she began to enjoy strange guys hitting on her. When it happened in public, when I was with her, it amplified my fantasies in an unbearably angsty way. I was excited AND jealous, but the excitement outgrew the jealousy in time and I would casually drift away from her when it happened, high on thoughts of them flirting (and her getting wet while doing it). It was the start of my understanding that I had been obsessed with the Madonna/***** conflict. I wanted her to be my sweet, faithful girlfriend/wife during the day, and an uninhibited slut in bed with me at night. Eventually she agreed she was also caught up in those same feelings and started hotwifing to escape her past and shed her "good girl" image. She came to love showing her sexy side, dressing a bit more scandalously, teasing other men at social functions (especially strange men she found hot when we were in public).

It's real for us in the sense that L and I play with it at our leisure, when one or both of us gets the itch. More than anything, it's been the stunning change in her over the years that's made our sex life so hot. She'll likely never be what many consider a true "slut", but her confidence and comfortable sexual freedom is amazingly hot to me as her hotwife husband.