I have to admit that I didn't even know the term when my husband and I got started in this. In my case, I was cheating with a guy at work and my husband found out and I said, let's just separate or throw in the towel (we have no children), and after discussion and wine and more discussion he said he liked the idea of me with another guy. I'm far from naive, but I had never, ever heard of such a thing. Ever. ALL guys I knew were jealous to some degree. We never used the word cuckold. He said....you find guys to fuck and I'll be in the room and watch. Or even you go out on a date, and come back and tell me the sexual details. I swear I at first thought he was joking. Actually, first I thought he was furiously mad. and making sarcastic comments like he sometimes does when he's mad. Yeah, just go off and fuck these guys and tell me about it later. Then I realized he was serious....like totally serious. So, we have been doing this for a little more than a year. I find it exciting, but I'm convinced it's not going to "work" out for us because of family complications (he has a teen daughter who lives part time with us) and other reasons. I don't think it has made our sex together any better. But it has made for wild sex while he is watching for sure.
What I don't get is...there must be categories or degrees of this word "cuckold". In looking at this forum - cuz I definitely feel that I fit into the category of slut wife (and kinda like it)...I see some major disconnects for what we do and what is discussed here. One...there is zero humiliation involved in our case. None whatsoever. Also, he and I still have sex alone (and he usually wants to talk about some previous guy), so there is no chastity belt on his part (maybe that's not the right term). Two - there is no sharing or posting of images. I so totally don't understand that. I would be completely against that. I want to choose the guy that I'm going to get undressed with. I'm NOT ok with him going home with my panties and I don't want pictures either. For us, it's about sex while my husband watches. Who wants their nude pics all over the internet. Yuck. My husband wouldn't like that I don't think, but have not discussed. Three- I don't understand the "making" the husband do something. Wear certain clothes or any of that. My husband and I came to this agreement completely on our own (well, kinda ****** into making some decision because of my cheating). There's zero humiliation or him wearing women's clothes or posting pictures of me with another guy.
So, are there categories? There must be because what we are doing brings us both some sexual satisfaction yet we don't fit into those other categories. I think that is exactly one of the major reasons I don't think this will end up being a lasting relationship because we still try to do quote unquote normal things together - go to a show, go on vacation, go to his daughter's soccer games, etc. It would be difficult, at least for me, if I viewed him as some inferior or subjugated person. I wouldn't be able to do these other things with him and have it be normal.
Having said all of that...it was me who was cheating and still pretending like life was normal while fucking with another married guy.
What I don't get is...there must be categories or degrees of this word "cuckold". In looking at this forum - cuz I definitely feel that I fit into the category of slut wife (and kinda like it)...I see some major disconnects for what we do and what is discussed here. One...there is zero humiliation involved in our case. None whatsoever. Also, he and I still have sex alone (and he usually wants to talk about some previous guy), so there is no chastity belt on his part (maybe that's not the right term). Two - there is no sharing or posting of images. I so totally don't understand that. I would be completely against that. I want to choose the guy that I'm going to get undressed with. I'm NOT ok with him going home with my panties and I don't want pictures either. For us, it's about sex while my husband watches. Who wants their nude pics all over the internet. Yuck. My husband wouldn't like that I don't think, but have not discussed. Three- I don't understand the "making" the husband do something. Wear certain clothes or any of that. My husband and I came to this agreement completely on our own (well, kinda ****** into making some decision because of my cheating). There's zero humiliation or him wearing women's clothes or posting pictures of me with another guy.
So, are there categories? There must be because what we are doing brings us both some sexual satisfaction yet we don't fit into those other categories. I think that is exactly one of the major reasons I don't think this will end up being a lasting relationship because we still try to do quote unquote normal things together - go to a show, go on vacation, go to his daughter's soccer games, etc. It would be difficult, at least for me, if I viewed him as some inferior or subjugated person. I wouldn't be able to do these other things with him and have it be normal.
Having said all of that...it was me who was cheating and still pretending like life was normal while fucking with another married guy.