I experienced the art of consent in BDSM as my cuckoldress practiced this in varying levels of debauchery for many years with two of her long term lovers. They have both held her life in their hands many times as she lay strapped down in a leather sleep sack with electrodes inserted, having uncontrolable multi orgasms as they used breathing hoods on her, restricting her breathing at varing degrees down to nil. That is total control for him and complete submission for her obviously, she enjoys it. I am not so sure but allow it as its her choice and we trust them.
I have watched, gone to work, seen on video later, on skype live, sat alone at home locked and seen them in our marital bed many hundreds of times as my best friend and wife submitted to their hands, having handed my consent for him to do this to my wife, best friend and the mother of our two children.
My wife knows she can play and be fucked by whom she wants with my blessing, providing i know with whom and where, that’s necessary to consider her safety. If it’s in BDSM I want to know them or even be there so I can assess who I am giving my wife to. These are rarely weekly events more monthly and always with people we have met before, always with regular lovers.
For normal sex my view has always been that as i consented 30 years since and accepted my role as her cuck husband in the traditional meaning my consent removes my right to object to anything she does.
A cucks role in my view is having given his wife to another man I have to accept she is now his sexually. My role is not to try be a director but to accept what they do as their decision and enjoy myself.
I am locked in a cage virtually permanently; semi feminised and become a daily wearer of female clothing all at her suggestion but with my consent. She wanted this and felt i would be receptive and if I hadn’t liked it i would have said NO.
Therefore i do not understand why "consent" should become an issue in the cuckoldry lifestyle. To even consider this lifestyle and level of sexual play involving a third party you both need to be able to talk to each other honestly about your wants, desires and red lines if either of you have them. In addition you both need to understand that this is a very emotional and dangerous game you seek to play and things can change during play and things may well happen that haven’t been discussed. However it is her body she gives to him and it’s her choice what happens to her body.
This is not to say i haven’t been asked on my views by my cuckoldress or her lovers before hand or at the time of play as we have all sought to expand our pleasures and experiences, there is after all no script.
One of her lover once asked me privately about my views on "water sports" not something we have ever done; he explained I would be the recipient as a sign of my submission to them both. He said it would show my sexually submissive nature as her cuck and that both would do this over my submissive locked cock as i lay in my girlie underwear…. should i agree. He thought it would be exciting well indeed......
I have grown to like a little humiliation so said yes. When the time came, mid play i was asked by Sir to remove my tight female jeans and lie down, her eyes nearly popped out. Then he put the proposal to her, she wasn’t sure and awaiting my input, Sir replied, cuck is aware and waiting, ready as you see; he is a naughty boy and asks for this. So reluctantly she stood over me and being spanked she rather reluctantly pissed on me. I actually enjoyed it.
For her it wasn’t as exciting, she simply saw this as pissing on her husband, a tall masculine man she loves and respects and saw this as demeaning me, I viewed it as my naughty cuckoldress doing this to her cuck and didn’t view this as my vanilla wife doing this.
She would say, she knows she can but would never cheat on me...again and would never meet a man without me, she wants me involved even if i am not there but that has to be my choice, not his. Anyone suggestion i am not involved isnt going to be with either of us, only one man has ever suggested and suceeded with this but thats another story.
All her lovers realise from the time we first meet that i am a alpha, dominant masculine man, several have questioned if i really want to do this! but bar two none have ever known that under my tight jeans i am locked, painted toe nails wearing knickers and suspenders. Yes i like it.
