Sissy_Phae,
Thanks for your update.
sissy_phae said:
My wife has finally decided that she will allow me to see her in bed with another man.
That's a plus; it's very generous of her.
sissy_phae said:
Up to this point, she has kept her affair with her boss to herself, and encouraged me to find a boyfriend of my own. This week, however, she told me that she wants me to find her a man to take into our bed.
It sounds like your wife may feel somewhat insecure about flirting with other men, and over the possibility they may "reject" her (or seem less than strongly interested). Having assigned you the task of finding another lover for her in addition to her boss, she won't have to deal with her rejection insecurities (if that's a problem for her) nor even the inconvenience of identifying suitable candidates.
sissy_phae said:
I think the rough plan is for me to fluff and clean up while she gets to lie back and enjoy herself.
If that appeals to your "desire for men in your role as a shemale" tendencies, it sounds like a way in which both your wife and you could benefit from her taking a new lover.
sissy_phae said:
My question, for sissies and non-sissies alike, is do you find it more stimulating when she brings the man home on her own, or do you like being made to show your effeminacy and find a real man to please your wife?
I'll suggest only that if you select lovers for your wife, that will tend to guarantee they'll be men who appeal to you as her shemale husband (in effect, as your wife's wife) — as well as to her, most likely, since you know her preferences — so there will tend to be benefits for both of you. Other than that, I have no comment.
In going about selecting a new lover for your wife — assuming you intend to take on that role, per her request — will you go about it en femme; i.e., as her shemale husband, or as a male?
Thanks again for your update. I encourage you to post more on your relationship with your woman as, in effect, her shemale wife, and with her and your male lovers. Your marriage seems unusually interesting.
—Custer