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Make sure she 'knows you know' in a non-threatening way.
Make sure that you tell her how much you love her... and that because you love her so much for being a good and faithful wife, you want her to have all of her fantasies fulfilled.
Make sure she knows that you think she deserves it.
It means A LOT. My wife had one, she rode it while it was stuck to the bath tub. She came like gangbusters. Also if you are giving her oral, while you duck her with it, she will cum like crazy. Also, wash it with alcohol after use, and store it in a plastic bag, with half a cup of corn starch. The corn starch will keep it like New. I speak from a LOT of experience. If it isn't properly disinfected, all kinds of nasty critters will grow in the surface. I bought my wifes first REALISTIC cock, trust me on this... she will cum like crazy with your mouth, and that.