Is she the one I'm looking for.. please help

[Kudalskies]

Is she the one I'm looking for.. please help
Is this girl for me...?

I met a girl online from overseas. Those girls are under strict rule. no sex until marriage. I began talking with her and we hit of and I was able to completely have her discuss her likes and her fantasy and what really turns her on.

I’m in my late 40’s and a total cuckold. Even like to experience bi activity from my wife’s bulls. I did not tell this girl this yet. I only told her that I liked it for much that her over whelming fantasy is to dominate her man in bed.

This is what I asked her and what she said, please tell me what you think she is into. Like said she’s a gorgeous 33, virgin, never been with a man. Women there get stoned to death for messing around.



As we chat, she said a lot when you open me up in Arabic, meaning first time pussy sex she can’t wait to explore the joys of sex and truly feel how its like inside.

She thinks getting in the ass is painful so she would not do it.

She said she would not masturbate because she feels that will cause mental anguish, but I don’t believe it. I think she masturbates, and I think she does it even while talking on phone with her but she would not tell me.

She made it clear to me that she will and want to have all the love, respect and all a woman can give her husband outside the bedroom and be first in her life. But in the bedroom, she wants things the other way round.

She said she watches porn on the internet and enjoys watching women dominating men and watching shemale vids.

But in the bedroom and behind closed doors she said her main fantasy is to be in control of the situation. Her thrill is to enjoy slaving her man, teasing him with toys, slapping him, humiliating, and insulting him. The thought of being a dominatrix turns her very much on. She said she loves the idea of holding my hair, putting her spit in my mouth, slapping my behind, touching it, riding it. She gets a thrill out of the thought of being the man in bed and making me her slut. Asked of if I would allow her to play with my asshole etc. because she will enjoy that very much but would not want to put anything in it. She said she would love to cum on my mouth, and face. She thinks water sports is extremely hot that she pees on me, my lips etc. She said she would like to see me swallow her orgasm as well as she would like to swallow mine.

Of course, I did not tell her about me enjoy very much being a cuckold and have bi sexual tendencies.

She thinks its hot of a threesome of 2 men and a woman. She also things a threesome with a shemale is super-hot.

Tell me what is your take on this girl.. is she real? Can she be what I want. a hot wife, a cuckoldress?

 

[Custer Laststand]

Is she the one I'm looking for.. please help. Is this girl for me...? .......... I met a girl online from overseas. I’m in my late 40’s and a total cuckold. I even like to experience bi activity from my wife’s bulls. I did not tell this girl about this yet.

It sounds like you've been dishonest with her. You have not told her you're married.

Tell me, what is your take on this girl.. is she real?

That's impossible to say. It is possible, however, to say that people often (if not usually) represent themselves online as someone other than who they really are.

Can she be what I want, a hot wife, a cuckoldress?

According to your post, you already have a wife who takes bulls; i.e., lovers, so she is your hotwife a.k.a. your cuckoldress.

You seem to be saying you have in mind divorcing your wife, in order to marry a "woman who lives in an overseas country" whom you have not met in person and who, like you, may be mis-representing herself.

If so, I suggest you keep in mind that this woman who lives in a culture "where sex is not allowed before marriage," which suggests she may be Islamic (that could cause big problems for you, if you aren't Islamic), may be telling you what she thinks you want to hear. And, she may be doing this because she has hopes of moving to the U.S. (or whichever western country you live in), and becoming a citizen by marrying you (not knowing you are already married), in order to greatly improve her social status and economic prospects.

A briefer way to put it would be: If something seems too good to be true, it probably isn't.

 

[Kudalskies]

It sounds like you've been dishonest with her. You have not told her you're married.

That's impossible to say. It is possible, however, to say that people often (if not usually) represent themselves online as someone other than who they really are.

According to your post, you already have a wife who takes bulls; i.e., lovers, so she is your hotwife a.k.a. your cuckoldress.

You seem to be saying you have in mind divorcing your wife, in order to marry a "woman who lives in an overseas country" whom you have not met in person and who, like you, may be mis-representing herself.

If so, I suggest you keep in mind that this woman who lives in a culture "where sex is not allowed before marriage," which suggests she may be Islamic (that could cause big problems for you, if you aren't Islamic), may be telling you what she thinks you want to hear. And, she may be doing this because she has hopes of moving to the U.S. (or whichever western country you live in), and becoming a citizen by marrying you (not knowing you are already married), in order to greatly improve her social status and economic prospects.

A briefer way to put it would be: If something seems too good to be true, it probably isn't.

Thanks for the response..
I am no longer marred to my current wife been divorced for almost 2 years now.
I am Arab and Muslim just like her other wise she would not be talking with me and would have not chance with her.
She admitted her sexual feelings to me based and truth and honest no matter what. As a matter of fact she was and still reluctant to admit more of her wild sexual thoughts and feelings because she feels that might push me away, always assured her to be herself, truthful and not worry.
just yesterday she called me and wanted to be sure that I dont think negative of her or thing she is sick or crazy to have these "dirty feelings and thoughts". I told her it is normal to feel this way and it happens to a lot more people than you think. She got comfortable with that.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Thanks for the response.

You're welcome.

I am no longer marred to my current wife; [we have] been divorced for almost 2 years now.

OK. Your initial post would have been more clear if you had said that.

I am Arab and Muslim just like her, otherwise she would not be talking with me and I would have no chance with her.

OK. It's beginning to sound like the two of you may actually be compatible.

She admitted her sexual feelings [for] me, based [on] truth and honesty no matter what. As a matter of fact, she was and still is reluctant to admit more of her wild sexual thoughts and feelings because she feels that might push me away.

Apparent reluctance about that is not surprising.

[I have] always assured her to be herself, [be] truthful and not worry.

Did you tell her you want a woman who will dominate you and be in charge of sex.... i.e., what the two of you do and how you do it.... after which, she told you that's what she wants?

Or, did she tell you... without knowing your desires in advance... that she wants to dominate her man (you), and be in charge of sex... i.e., what the two of you do and how you do it.... such that she always finds sex satisfying?

Just yesterday she called me, and wanted to be sure I dont think negative [badly] of her, or think she is sick or crazy to have these "dirty feelings and thoughts."

If she called you, instead of waiting for you to call her, that's positive. It suggests assertiveness on her part, which is what you're looking for in a woman (I gather). It also indicates she's feeling some anxiety over how you might be thinking about her.

I told her it is normal to feel this way, and it happens to a lot more people than you think.

Yes, you have it right. There's nothing wrong with her sexual desires, and how she wants to relate to her man (i.e., you).

She got comfortable with that.

Good. An additional question comes to mind, however. Have your phone conversations been voice only, or do you and she have cameras on your computers so you can see each other while you're talking?

If you conversations have been voice only, I suggest figuring out a way to communicate via "face time," so you can see each other while you're talking, before making a decision as to whether you're serious about her.

 

[Capt. Ron]

Although sexual compatibility is huge for a relationship, I don’t think this should be your only reason for marrying. She may never desire to progress beyond bedroom fantasy however, if she really does seek to dominate you and humiliate you, one could say that cuckoldry is the ultimate form of submission and humiliation for a man by his wife. If what you said is accurate, I’m willing to bet she will become very excited and horny to hear your further desires, either to your shock or satisfaction...or both?

 

[Kudalskies]

You're welcome.

OK. Your initial post would have been more clear if you had said that.
OK. It's beginning to sound like the two of you may actually be compatible.

Apparent reluctance about that is not surprising.

Did you tell her you want a woman who will dominate you and be in charge of sex.... i.e., what the two of you do and how you do it.... after which, she told you that's what she wants?

Or, did she tell you... without knowing your desires in advance... that she wants to dominate her man (you), and be in charge of sex... i.e., what the two of you do and how you do it.... such that she always finds sex satisfying?

If she called you, instead of waiting for you to call her, that's positive. It suggests assertiveness on her part, which is what you're looking for in a woman (I gather). It also indicates she's feeling some anxiety over how you might be thinking about her.

Yes, you have it right. There's nothing wrong with her sexual desires, and how she wants to relate to her man (i.e., you).

Good. An additional question comes to mind, however. Have your phone conversations been voice only, or do you and she have cameras on your computers so you can see each other while you're talking?

If you conversations have been voice only, I suggest figuring out a way to communicate via "face time," so you can see each other while you're talking, before making a decision as to whether you're serious about her.

I very much appreciate you taking the time on this

To be clear...

I met this girl as well as a few others on an Islamic “clean web site”. It’s for people and who is looking for a serious relationship and to become married. I got to know a few and of course we got to know each other more with pics and on whats-app with video cam.
I wrote to a few from the age of 28 into the 30's. I hit it off with a few 28's and 29 year olds two of which been married and each has a child, though I got alone very well with them I found this 35 year old who was never been married suit me much better.
like said this supposed to be clean cut looking to get married web site. But after a while of talking sharing likes/dislikes… basing this marriage on love and care and all the good stuff. Then getting deeper into getting to know each other including our sexual wild sides.



She told me she is still virgin, never had any sexual experience with anyone ever, and I believe that, girls are like that in the Middle East. I was careful on what to say like my sexual wild side, not wanting to scare her off either. I also did not want her to jump on the idea and tell me she likes it too, etc. in order to get me to like her and want her more and why she would not do that.. I’m good looking successful with money and one who can bring her to the old good US of A.

I did not tell her more than that I was open minded like most of us here in the USA. Unlike the Middle East with all their restrictions and forbiddens. I got her to be comfortable with me and tell me her wild-side if any. Like said she reluctantly told me that the thought of her dominating her man in bed drives her wild. At the same time asking me if I think her way of thinking is sick or crazy having these thoughts. I assured her not and that is her natural feelings and thoughts and nothing to feel bad about. I actually thought she might of already know me and knows my desires that she’s telling me this, but how could she, impossible.
Her ultimate sexual fantasies seeing and feeling her man submit to her, humiliate him doing all kind of things to him turns her very much on, insulting him, slapping him, water sports etc. She also wants her man to do the same to her in role-playing, where I become to do the same to her. She loves watching shemale clips on the net, she loves the idea of wearing strap-on and humiliating her man with it. Talked about my butt a lot, slapping it but said she would not stick me with anything. She also repeated asking me if I would do anything to her rear end saying to me “I bet you love that area.. don’t you… you would die to enter me there don’t you, I’m too tight and small there… but I want you to know you can play with it but I would not like it if you try to go in it”.

She was incredibly happy and excited to find me like her fantasy, specially liking being dominated, because she feels arab men don’t even like being told what to do in or out of bed.

I later on opened up to all her fantasy of humiliations and that it also turns me on, she loved that and thought we be perfect together. I did not bring up anything to her about cuckolding, I feel the idea would not excite her yet specially she has not been with anyone including me. But I feel she is the kind who be into it and will enjoy cuckolding me after we become together for a while. what do you think?

 

[Custer Laststand]

I very much appreciate you taking the time on this.

You're welcome. Thanks for your expanded explanations, which have clarified your situation (and that of your online woman, seemingly). But, you still have not put forward adequate reasons, in my opinion, for leaping forward and asking her for her hand in marriage.

She told me she is still virgin, never had any sexual experience with anyone ever, and I believe that.

If this is important to you, I suppose it can be counted as a plus. Generally speaking, though, I would say it's risky to marry a woman without first establishing a sexual relationship with her.

..... I’m good looking, successful with money, and one who can bring her to the good old U.S. of A.

That's a plus for you, of course, and may be the primary reason, or most of the reason, your online woman appears to be interested in you.

Also, you may have exaggerated confidence in your ability to bring her to the U.S. As you no doubt know by now (or should know), Trump has declared a policy to restrict immigration, seemingly to help "keep out" the coronavirus (which, of course, is already here in a big way), but actually because he thinks it will "play to his base" if they think he is taking discriminatory action to keep more Islamic people, in particular, from entering the U.S. Thus, I suggest looking into the problem in more detail of what you will need to do to bring your Islamic woman to the U.S., if you should decide to do so.

Her ultimate sexual fantasies [are] seeing and feeling her man submit to her, humiliate him [by] doing all kind of things to him, [that] turns her [on] very much, insulting him, slapping him, water sports, etc. ....... She loves watching shemale clips on the net, she loves the idea of wearing a strap-on and humiliating her man with it.

This sounds promising, since it appears to align with the kind of relationship you want. You might suggest to her she read "Real Women Don't Do Housework," here:

http://www.rwddh.com/

and tell you what she thinks about it. That is, she should skip the "marriage quiz," since you aren't married, but should start with the "Introduction," at upper left, then read the sequential chapters one at a time — then, suggest she talk with you about it after she has read the whole site.

She also wants her man to do the same to her in role-playing.

This does not sound promising. If you want a relationship with a woman who will dominate you, it probably will not work if she dominates you on day 1, then you dominate her on day 2, etc. You might also suggest she read this essay:

Conquer Him
https://conquerhim.com/femdom-why-every-woman-should-dominate-her-relationship/

(which is relatively short), and tell you what she thinks about it.

She was incredibly happy and excited to find me liking her fantasy, specially liking being dominated, because she feels Arab men don’t like being told what to do in or out of bed.

No doubt....

....... But, I feel she is the kind who ..... will enjoy cuckolding me after we [are] together for a while. What do you think?

In my opinion, you should not bring up the idea of your online woman cuckolding you by taking lovers, because.... more than likely.... she would interpret that as meaning you want to bring her to the U.S. to work for you as a **********, with you her pimp.

Given that she now lives in Saudi Arabia (it sounds like), I suggest testing her interest in looking attractive to men (that is, men other than you) by asking her how she would want to dress if she were to come to the U.S. If she says she would like to wear a hijab, or (worst of all) a burqa, that would be a bad sign with respect to her interest in dressing to attract other men.

If, on the other hand, she says she wants to dress like a western woman, with her face and hair fully *******, and her arms and legs at least partially ******* (i.e., if she says she would want to wear dresses and skirts), or (for instance) tight capri pants with blouses that show her cleavage, then that would be much more promising.

 

[deepminded]

Turkish male here. If you are interested in Turkish men to cuck you, please contact me after you are married to her. or maybe before married to her

 

[deepminded]

In my opinion, you should not bring up the idea of your online woman cuckolding you by taking lovers, because.... more than likely.... she would interpret that as meaning you want to bring her to the U.S. to work for you as a **********, with you her pimp.

Given that she now lives in Saudi Arabia (it sounds like), I suggest testing her interest in looking attractive to men (that is, men other than you) by asking her how she would want to dress if she were to come to the U.S. If she says she would like to wear a hijab, or (worst of all) a burqa, that would be a bad sign with respect to her interest in dressing to attract other men.

If, on the other hand, she says she wants to dress like a western woman, with her face and hair fully *******, and her arms and legs at least partially ******* (i.e., if she says she would want to wear dresses and skirts), or (for instance) tight capri pants with blouses that show her cleavage, then that would be much more promising.

and that guy is definitely right about the dressing thing. ask her if she will prefer to dress like a western women or stay in hijab or cover her hair but tell her it's totally OK to be like a western woman. I assume you also want that.
If she won't wear dresses and skirts then you can't convince her to cuckold relationship so easily. It would take years to open her up.

 

[Kudalskies]

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In my opinion, you should not bring up the idea of your online woman cuckolding you by taking lovers, because.... more than likely.... she would interpret that as meaning you want to bring her to the U.S. to work for you as a **********, with you her pimp.

Given that she now lives in Saudi Arabia (it sounds like), I suggest testing her interest in looking attractive to men (that is, men other than you) by asking her how she would want to dress if she were to come to the U.S. If she says she would like to wear a hijab, or (worst of all) a burqa, that would be a bad sign with respect to her interest in dressing to attract other men.

If, on the other hand, she says she wants to dress like a western woman, with her face and hair fully *******, and her arms and legs at least partially ******* (i.e., if she says she would want to wear dresses and skirts), or (for instance) tight capri pants with blouses that show her cleavage, then that would be much more promising.
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Again thanks for the response and feedback..

True. I can in no way bring up the cuckolding idea to her now, she would definitely take it the wrong way.

And no, she is not from that far east she is from Morocco, speaks Arabic and French only. Does not wear hijab or burqa. Open minded and a responsible lady, lives with and helps take care of her family mom and dad, works, and comes home to cook, clean etc.

And yes, the idea of dressing up and looking hot and sexy fascinates her.

She expresses to me she wants to be married and its overdue finding the man she wishes for. One.. to settle down and to have children. Two… of course is the only way she can explore the sexual life she dreams of. She said every man she met she felt only wants to use her sexually. I jokingly answered her " It makes sense, you did not like any because you want to be the one sexually using your man". She laughed.
She said she finds me to have the most common with her and our chemistry perfectly matches.

Like said the height of her fantasy is sexually dominating her man, the idea of being tough on him, ie wearing strap-on and humiliating her man with it while she is impersonating a shemale and or having him impersonate a shemale. After she’s done dominating, she wants to switch roles and wants her man to dominate her, be rough with her and have his way with her. She loved the idea when I told her each of us can use a “Stop Word” when one goes too far in his or her domination.

While we play fantasy games on phone; on a scale 1 to 10. she gave dominating another female a 7, dominating me a 10. Dominating another male, a 0. I think she is bi curious but not saying it and for sure a good candidate for a cuckoldress… what you think.

 

[Custer Laststand]

"Again thanks for the response and feedback..."

You're welcome.

"And no, she is not from that far east [Saudi Arabia], she is from Morocco, speaks Arabic and French only. Does not wear hijab or burqa."

This sounds promising.

"And yes, the idea of dressing up and looking hot and sexy fascinates her."

This sounds more promising still.

"While we play fantasy games on phone; on a scale 1 to 10. she gave dominating another female a 7, dominating me a 10. Dominating another male, a 0. I think she is bi curious but not saying it and for sure a good candidate for a cuckoldress. What do you think."

I notice you didn't ask her (apparently) to read the sites I suggested and tell you what she thinks about them, so I'll repeat my suggestion to do that.

Other than that, it sounds like you've addressed the concerns I raised. My only additional suggestion would be: try to arrange a way to meet her in person, and spend some time with her, before asking her to marry you.

 

[Kudalskies]

I notice you didn't ask her (apparently) to read the sites I suggested and tell you what she thinks about them, so I'll repeat my suggestion to do that.

Other than that, it sounds like you've addressed the concerns I raised. My only additional suggestion would be: try to arrange a way to meet her in person, and spend some time with her, before asking her to marry you.

I've seen the site. she does not read English, french and Arabic only.

Meeting her in person is not easy yet to travel etc. with this virus thing still going. But she sure cant wait for me to go there meet her.
and of course no promises made other then meeting in person and getting to see and hang out together, but again nothing more then hanging out. nothing sexual before marriage.

 

[Custer Laststand]

I've seen the site. she does not read English, [she reads] French and Arabic only.

I think Ms. Elise Sutton's book(s) may be available in French and German, as well as in English. You might consider ordering and having sent to her the French edition of:

Sutton, Elise, 2003, Female Domination: An exploration of the male desire for loving female authority (298 pp., softcover)

and, at a minimum, order a copy for yourself and read it, to see if this is, indeed, the direction you want to go with your life. See (e.g.):

https://www.amazon.com/Female-Domination-Elise-Sutton/dp/1411603257

which includes reviews.

Meeting her in person is not easy yet to travel etc. with this virus thing still going. But, she sure can't wait for me to go there meet her. And, of course, no promises made other then meeting in person and getting to see and hang out together, but again nothing more than hanging out. Nothing sexual before marriage.

OK.... I guess I have no further suggestions. It sounds like you are quite sure this woman is the one you want.

As for answering your initial question: "Is she the one for you?" You should recognize, and do, I think, that you are the only one who can answer that question.

 

[Custer Laststand]

I've seen the site. she does not read English, [she reads] French and Arabic only.

I have one more suggestion. If you bring your Morocco woman to the U.S. then marry her (or marry her in Morocco then bring her to the U.S.), you may find she is strongly resistant to the idea of making you her cuckold, for at one of two (or more) reasons.

One would be, because of her Islamic religious background and her upbringing by her parents, which may have included (probably did include) inculcating her with strong resistance to the idea of a woman fucking men other than her husband.

An additional reason would be: awareness by her that if she cuckolds you by fucking other men, and you become displeased with your marriage for that (or any other) reason, that would be considered adequate reason for you to divorce her, after which, almost certainly, she would have to return to Morocco.

Thus, I recommend taking the cautionary words seriously by the author of this 7- or 8-part site, near it's beginning:

A Wife Into a Hotwife
http://www.hotwifeblog.com/2007/05/23/wife-into-hotwife/

“Some women immediately embrace the opportunity for sexual freedom. However, I also know that many more are not interested in becoming hotwives, even though they enjoy sex and may have had numerous sexual partners before marriage. Negative cultural and personal conditioning about sexual exclusivity are just too strong. In short, it will never happen. A woman should be in control of her body, and to try to push her into things that she is 100% dead set against will only cause major problems. So if this is clearly the case, forget it; move on to other things in life.”

If this turns out to be the case, I recommend taking the above author's advice: "Forget it; move on to other things in life."

 

[Kudalskies]

As for answering your initial question: "Is she the one for you?" You should recognize, and do, I think, that you are the only one who can answer that question.

Thanks again.. Thus far she's the best I found from all I got to know from the site. I just have to wait to travel and meet her. in mean time get to talk /see her and get to know her more.
I will come back and give update. thanks again.

 

[Kudalskies]

An additional reason would be: awareness by her that if she cuckolds you by fucking other men, and you become displeased with your marriage for that (or any other) reason, that would be considered adequate reason for you to divorce her, after which, almost certainly, she would have to return to Morocco.

Wow.. you hit it right on the head. as a matter of fact that's what caused me to divorce my ex wife. she's from the middlast too.. got her into the life style.. things worked perfect for us until I caught her cheating on me with a friend of ours. she tried convincing me that I should just take it as part of the cuckolding experience, but I couldn't and didn't. and problems started...ended in divorce. I should have accepted what my ex done as part of the cuckolding experience but it was too late, the damage was done. trust and honesty was lost, love was lost.. we couldn't stand each other any more. sad.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Wow.. you hit it right on the head. as a matter of fact that's what caused me to divorce my ex wife. She [my ex-wife] is from the middle east too.. got her into the life style.. things worked perfect for us until I caught her cheating on me with a friend of ours.

Since your ex-wife was fucking a friend of both of you, that was not "cheating." Rather, she was doing exactly what you wanted her to do — being your cuckoldress.

She tried convincing me that I should just take it as part of the cuckolding experience, but I couldn't and didn't.

She was right.

And, problems started which ended in divorce. I should have accepted what my ex-wife did as part of the cuckolding experience, but it was too late, the damage was done.

I'll resist the urge to point out that you were hypocritical. Instead, I'll point out that among the challenges of being the cuckold husband, in a hotwife / cuckold husband marriage, is living with the knowledge that your male friends and co-workers want to fuck your wife (and probably will — and some are probably doing so already).

Trust and honesty were lost, and love was lost. We couldn't stand each other anymore. Sad....

Yes.... that was unfortunate.