Recently found out my 43 year old wife of 19 years is having sex with 30 year old bm at the hospital she works at, she is a nurse, great looking, and a great curvy body.One of our freinds told me that she works with. We have two kids, one 16 and one 12. I asked her and she admited. No great detail but I asked why and she said something different. I ask if she was going to stop, then it started. She told me he was hugh, thick, in great shape (worked out a lot) and uncut and she felt totally helpless when they had sex, she competely surrendered to him. She wants to stay married to me but wants a little freedom to play. Also she is still trying to figure out how I found out, I will not tell her it was our friend she works with. Her friend told me because she said I was too nice of a guy, and guess what, she is black. Should I ask for a divorce or ride it out and hope it goes away?