Mid 30s couple guy here

[SmallTownGuy]

Hi all, introducing myself here to have a sorts of a diary. English is not my first language, apologies for any weird wording and such.

We're a couple, married with children, in our mid 30s living in a small town. We met when she was a 19yo virgin and I was a 21yo guy with some experience. We fell in love, studied, started working, bought a house, had a kid, had another kid. For most of the time I've had some interest in cuckolding, or should I say voyeurism or stag type of thing. I'm not interested in being a sissy, but I'd love my wife to play with other men too

I honestly consider her to be an exceptionally beautiful woman. She has long slim legs, nice round medium sized ass, thin waist for a 35yo mom of two, small firm breasts, pale skin, pretty face and long, brown hair. I'm sure there'd be plenty of men willing to try her out, but she's so picky I never understood how she ended up with me

Wife's been aware of this for several years and is pretty comfortable with the topic, but has not made any moves towards actually approaching other men with any such thoughts. She has said it's not completely impossible that she'd do it, but she's been unwilling to actively start looking for a lover/bull so nothing has happened.

I've recently managed to convince her to visit a sex/swinger club of sorts. It's a place not too far from where we live. There was maybe 30 other people around. Couples, men, women. She was wearing a slightly transparent dress and sexy panties. One middle eastern guy showed lot of interest towards her but she did not like it. The guy was a bit of a mood killer to be honest, hanging around us and sneaking around. We eventually ended up fucking in a remote corner, she was riding me and some people walked across the room and she was fine with that. One guy asked if it's OK to watch, I asked her if that's OK for her, and she had no issue with it. After we got home she said she still wants some and hasn't been this aroused for a long time so I fucked her on the couch and she was using a satisfyer and came hard

We've agreed to go to such parties again, but organizing it is not that simple. We don't have too many people around who are able to take care of the kids while we're away. There's all sorts of happenings, work, gardening, car and house repair, friend's weddings, kids are sick, relatives visiting and all that, so unfortunately having quality time as a couple for a long enough period to get into the mood and play around etc is a bit too rare. She seemed to be aroused about the party and what happened there, so apparently there is hope she opens up and may get into less vanilla things

Our sex life is currently a bit me wanting more than her, and we have sex maybe 2-3 times a month on average and she rarely suggests or makes the first move.

Looking forward to posting more, feel free to ask about us and our situation if there's anything you want to know

 

[surrender]

A lot of people do not want to come out so boldly in the lifestyle like at parties. You may see someone you know there. Most here are lurking about in the shadows and I fully understand that as none of this mixes well with kids, careers and families.

I would try to find a willing couple or a married guy to chat with the both of you first. Share pics and then sexting. It is a slow process or should be as a lot can go wrong.

 

[Yorkscock]

Wow sounds like you guys want to progress but as stated by surrender above you need to take it slow as it can go very wrong. I am a married bull and trust me some couple have tried to rush it and I have walked away as it’s gets really messy. Need to find the right person and go slow as it will happen if it’s meant to but rushing will causes issues for all concerned.

 

[surrender]

Yorks I saw how it can go wrong too - jealousy, denal, lying, uncertainty. I would say 4 of 5 times this LS brings out the worst in people at one time or the aother. I know porn movies don't show it and these sites don't either, but couples expect to see things in your spouse you have not seen before in normal everyday life.

 

[SmallTownGuy]

Yeah we certainly want to take it slow and also enjoy the travel, not just the destination.

Not much to report currently here. Sex life has been on hibernation a bit, but occationally some nice relatively vanilla sex. What I do enjoy is that she openly plays with our relatively big dildo as part of the foreplay and has absolutely no issues in me watching, it actually seems almost like she enjoys performing to some extent. Which makes me think she could put up quite a show with a suitable bull

We've also discussed going to a swinger/sex/open minded party again, but the schedules with all the work, hobbies, relatives etc have been a bit difficult to match so still nothing has been actually booked but she's open to going somewhere again. She has said her preference might be an open-minded party where anything can happen, but nothing is taken for granted and people know how to behave towards each other. We've discussed that she might be open to being seduced, but is not willing to actively start looking for men e.g. on Tinder.

 

[seamen53]

What country you in ?

Hi all, introducing myself here to have a sorts of a diary. English is not my first language, apologies for any weird wording and such.

We're a couple, married with children, in our mid 30s living in a small town. We met when she was a 19yo virgin and I was a 21yo guy with some experience. We fell in love, studied, started working, bought a house, had a kid, had another kid. For most of the time I've had some interest in cuckolding, or should I say voyeurism or stag type of thing. I'm not interested in being a sissy, but I'd love my wife to play with other men too

I honestly consider her to be an exceptionally beautiful woman. She has long slim legs, nice round medium sized ass, thin waist for a 35yo mom of two, small firm breasts, pale skin, pretty face and long, brown hair. I'm sure there'd be plenty of men willing to try her out, but she's so picky I never understood how she ended up with me

Wife's been aware of this for several years and is pretty comfortable with the topic, but has not made any moves towards actually approaching other men with any such thoughts. She has said it's not completely impossible that she'd do it, but she's been unwilling to actively start looking for a lover/bull so nothing has happened.

I've recently managed to convince her to visit a sex/swinger club of sorts. It's a place not too far from where we live. There was maybe 30 other people around. Couples, men, women. She was wearing a slightly transparent dress and sexy panties. One middle eastern guy showed lot of interest towards her but she did not like it. The guy was a bit of a mood killer to be honest, hanging around us and sneaking around. We eventually ended up fucking in a remote corner, she was riding me and some people walked across the room and she was fine with that. One guy asked if it's OK to watch, I asked her if that's OK for her, and she had no issue with it. After we got home she said she still wants some and hasn't been this aroused for a long time so I fucked her on the couch and she was using a satisfyer and came hard

We've agreed to go to such parties again, but organizing it is not that simple. We don't have too many people around who are able to take care of the kids while we're away. There's all sorts of happenings, work, gardening, car and house repair, friend's weddings, kids are sick, relatives visiting and all that, so unfortunately having quality time as a couple for a long enough period to get into the mood and play around etc is a bit too rare. She seemed to be aroused about the party and what happened there, so apparently there is hope she opens up and may get into less vanilla things

Our sex life is currently a bit me wanting more than her, and we have sex maybe 2-3 times a month on average and she rarely suggests or makes the first move.

Looking forward to posting more, feel free to ask about us and our situation if there's anything you want to know

 

[SmallTownGuy]

Some updates

Still no breakthrough. Sex life has been a bit more active lately, though I'm still the one to usually make the first move. It appears like she rarely is initially into it or actively wants it, but enjoys it nonetheless when she's not too tired or stressed out or anything like that. Also the dildo has seen frequent use as foreplay, or should I say the dildo often first gets her to the top and then it's my turn

We've been to a sex/swinger party twice now and ended up having sex on both times, just the two of us. She has gained some attention, which is not a surprise as she is a beautiful woman. The first one was a relatively quiet evening on a more S/Mish club than what we actually enjoy, but it was fun nonetheless. There was one guy who was lurking her a bit, and while I was away for a while let her know he's good at cunnilingus and offered that to her. When we were in a hot tub the guy also joined us and was a bit awkward and tried touching her legs under water which was a bit of a turn-off. Later the same guy was peeking through the door gap while we were having fun in one of the rooms with a closed door. We left the club after she had given me some head and she rode me in a remote room while some people were passing by on the other side of the room. Afterwards she was quite horny and wanted another round on the sofa when we got home.

The next party was a bit more nightclub like setting, but it was also a very quiet evening and we didn't communicate much with other people that night. We had some drinks, chatted, had sex and left.

We're going again to a party next month. I'm trying to gather courage to suggest her to wear an anklet and get her in the mood for looking for a guy to have fun with.

 

[seamen53]

Some updates

Still no breakthrough. Sex life has been a bit more active lately, though I'm still the one to usually make the first move. It appears like she rarely is initially into it or actively wants it, but enjoys it nonetheless when she's not too tired or stressed out or anything like that. Also the dildo has seen frequent use as foreplay, or should I say the dildo often first gets her to the top and then it's my turn

We've been to a sex/swinger party twice now and ended up having sex on both times, just the two of us. She has gained some attention, which is not a surprise as she is a beautiful woman. The first one was a relatively quiet evening on a more S/Mish club than what we actually enjoy, but it was fun nonetheless. There was one guy who was lurking her a bit, and while I was away for a while let her know he's good at cunnilingus and offered that to her. When we were in a hot tub the guy also joined us and was a bit awkward and tried touching her legs under water which was a bit of a turn-off. Later the same guy was peeking through the door gap while we were having fun in one of the rooms with a closed door. We left the club after she had given me some head and she rode me in a remote room while some people were passing by on the other side of the room. Afterwards she was quite horny and wanted another round on the sofa when we got home.

The next party was a bit more nightclub like setting, but it was also a very quiet evening and we didn't communicate much with other people that night. We had some drinks, chatted, had sex and left.

We're going again to a party next month. I'm trying to gather courage to suggest her to wear an anklet and get her in the mood for looking for a guy to have fun with.

Where are you guys based and what clubs i would love to join you both

 

[SmallTownGuy]

Sorry, not looking for a live meetup here Also far away from UK.

 

[EdT]

Hello and welcome to the forums.
Msg me if you ever want to just chat.

 

[SmallTownGuy]

Not sure if this actually is anything, but seems like she has found a guy at work that she enjoys spending time with He is 21 years his senior, haven't met him but apparently a nice guy in good shape. They've went for a beer together after work once but there was someone else with them, though I kind of got the feeling my wife was primarily interested in his company. Let's call him Andy.

So we had the following discussion yesterday:
Wife: Do you have something scheduled for next Friday?
Me: Not really, I'm available all evening after work.
Wife: There's a company party coming... And Andy had asked me if I'd like to come to bar with him afterwards.
Me: Sure, go ahead, I can take care or the kids. You just have fun.
Wife: He's going to play a round of golf in the afternoon and then come, he said we could leave to the bar early instead of staying at the party. That sounds like me
Me: Sounds good, you just have fun, all good.

She also later said she'll have to ensure he actually offers her a ride as the party will be located at a somewhat remote location and she'll be going there with some other coworkers so she doesn't have a car. I said a gentleman probably will give the lady a ride if she's in need

 

[SmallTownGuy]

Damn, the date (if it is a date, not sure) is in risk of being cancelled. The company party apparently was cancelled.

Me: Well, you could then just go with Andy
Wife: I have plenty of opportunities to go to bar with him.
Me: Yeah, but you already had agreed that for this Friday so no need to change the plans
Wife: I'd have to contact him to agree about that
Me: Then just do that
Wife: Let's see

 

[SmallTownGuy]

So their plan is to go for a beer or wine today together. It's still unclear whether they're going to be just two of them or if there's someone else joining. She also said they exchanged phone numbers, to which I replied "That's cute"

 

[seamen53]

So their plan is to go for a beer or wine today together. It's still unclear whether they're going to be just two of them or if there's someone else joining. She also said they exchanged phone numbers, to which I replied "That's cute"

Just ask the question to her or text her while sat work
S as king what her arrangements are, and what’s she wearing for him

 

[SmallTownGuy]

They apparently had a good time but nothing that spectacular There were initially four of them, but two left early and she spent the rest of the evening with just the guy. He made sure her glass was never empty, he said his golf round was successful so it's worth celebrating. Apparently nothing happened and I'm not sure if they have new plans, but she had a good time and it was clearly fun to be out with him. He apparently also was a gentleman in a good way.

I interviewed my wife the next day on general level about her thoughts of attractive men. I asked her if she notices hot men around her, and she said she has lately occasionally seen men she finds attractive. I asked her to describe some, and she said they are generally guys in their 50s. I asked if there are any particular men she knows that she considers attractive, but she denied having anyone particular in mind. I asked her to let me know if she sees or meets someone she considers hot, and she promised to keep that in mind.

In the evening we ended up having sex, and while fingering and teasing her I mentioned I'd find it sexy and hot if she finds other guys attractive.

 

[SmallTownGuy]

Some updates. In the summertime we went again to a sex club for a party. Not much happened, and to be honest it was a bit of a surprise or even a disappointment how little interaction with other people or any kind of naughtiness there was at the party.

I told her there's a sign some know in these circles that a married woman is open for other men too and that is wearing an anklet, and to my pleasure and almost surprise, she agreed to put one on. I found it quite exciting that my wife is at a sex party wearing an anklet knowing what it means, but unfortunately there wasn't nearly any interaction with other men. We ended up somewhat ***** and had sex at the club before heading to sleep.

Yesterday evening I told her I'd like to book a naughty date night for us again. The following, relatively lengthy discussion, included at least the following:
-She's not sure if the swinger community we joined is giving us anything
-She doesn't get much excitement from the fetish/revealing outfits at the club we've visited
-She's not sure what we're actually looking for
-She's aware I'd like to find a guy for us to have fun with
-The people and mood at the swinger club have been a bit too "woke" or "safe" and it's been a bit like coffee table discussion at new workplace
-She might enjoy a bit of flirting or dancing etc with other guys but is uncertain how it could proceed from that
-She's not interested in finding a date on Internet, she's like to meet men in real life situations by chance "by grabbing the same last cookie at a cafe"
-She's danced with other men lately in a bar and enjoyed it
-She met a guy at a bar they had good discussions with and later the guy sent a message that he almost skipped his flight back home because he would have wanted to meet her again

 

[seamen53]

What area you in I would love to find you and interact with your wife

 

[SmallTownGuy]

Not much news to update. We haven't been to parties though we visited one swinger afterwork at a pub. Chatted away for a while with someone but that was it.

She's been texting with Andy the coworker every once in a while. Nothing too interesting, but they keep also messaging about non-work-related topics.

While they were having a company party I sent her a message reminding her that she is allowed to do things not many married women are allowed to do and I'd just find it hot and interesting if something was to happen. She only read the message once she got home However, once she got home she sent Andy a message "Thanks for the night" which, knowing her, makes me think there is something going on between them. Either friendship or perhaps some chemistry.

 

[SmallTownGuy]

Well, finally finally finally news!

She was abroad on a vacation and met a guy and when she had to leave to the airport, they kissed! He's about 10 years older than we are and they apparently had a great time. She had also mentioned him that I have nothing against them spending time together or even kissing. She said he was probably willing to go further that that, but she made it clear she's not going to bed and he was a gentleman and respected that. This happened on last weekend.

What's even more interesting is that they've been texting actively since they met. She hasn't mentioned it to me though, but I couldn't help myself and had to check her phone when she left it unlocked. They both seem to be willing to meet again later this year. I'm now waiting to see if she's going to being the topic up with me as she said to him.

They were planning to go see a concert which unfortunately would only be in late autumn and that's a long time to be separated. It'd be great if they could already meet in the summertime to keep the flame alive