drippingopensluthole said:
....... Last year [my wife] cucked me for the first time and went back to him three months later. She had me watch for the most part, but she also got me to join in and discovered she LOVES DVP.
Good for your wife. It sounds like her cuckolding of you was with your agreement. If so, that's positive, of course.
drippingopensluthole said:
He had me lick her ass while he fucked her and I had to lube his cock for him.
Very good. From the point of view of your wife, in doing so you clarified your relative status for her with respect to her lover.
drippingopensluthole said:
Life got in the way of playdates this year, but she is now talking about seeing him again. She is also considering letting him be the first guy to fuck her in the ass.
Since your wife already knows anal stimulation excites her (from her experience with your fingers), it's entirely reasonable for her to want her lover to fuck her anally — but not you, probably, since with respect to you she has to maintain her stature as the woman of her household.
drippingopensluthole said:
If she doesn't go back to him, she is considering a gangbang too. This is a very different lady.
She has become aware of her own substantial sexuality and her options for attaining satisfaction; i.e., her considerable attractiveness to other men. (According to the conventional wisdom, female sex drive maximizes when women are in their 30's [and can continue into their 40's and beyond]. Male sex drive tends to be maximum at about age 18, then gradually decreases.)
drippingopensluthole said:
The last time we had sex she asked, "Are you in?" as she was grinding on me. "Yes." "I can't even feel you." That just smashed me.
Ouch. That could be a result of having become accustomed to her large dildos and you fisting her. Or, it could mean her lover has a larger cock (relative to yours, anyway). Or, both.
drippingopensluthole said:
Then, a couple of days ago, she mentioned that she wants to cage me in chastity. I think this may be my future. I find it exciting and emasculating at the same time.
Yes, it's easy to see why you would feel that way. If your wife wants to lock up your penis in a chastity cage — and if she wants to do that, she almost certainly will — I strongly suggest coming to agreement with her in advance that she will be your sole key holder, and under no circumstance will she give away the key (or worse, both keys...chastity devices usually come with two keys) to a lover, no matter how strongly he may pressure her to do that.
I say this because once your wife's lover realizes she keeps you in a chastity device, sooner or later he will (most likely) pressure her to give him the keys, thereby ensuring "his" married woman's husband does not have sexual access to her. If your wife gives in to this pressure, it could mean that if you ever want to be unlocked, you'll have to take down your pants for a lock smith.
I also suggest attempting to negotiate in advance the circumstances under which your wife will unlock your penis. Will she do so in order to reward you for good behavior? If so, what kinds of good behavior will she expect? And, will your wife allow you to satisfy her with your tongue while you're locked up, by being her cuntsucker and asskisser...? Especially when she comes home after fucking a lover, will she allow (or expect) you to clean her pussy with your tongue — perhaps by queening you, with you on your back while she rides astride your face — and/or will she allow (or expect) you to clean her asshole with your tongue, when she comes home after a lover has fucked her anally...?
If you and your sexy wife google "male chastity devices," you will find there are many different kinds available. There seems to be some agreement among cuckolds on this forum whose wives keep them locked in chastity devices that metal devices are superior to plastic. And, some have found that "HolyTrainer" devices (which are not metal) are both secure and comfortable for long-term wear, that being, of course, a critical consideration.
I wish you well with your future as the locked-in-chastity cuckold of a strongly-sexual and active wife. And, thank you for your intriguing post which indicates your wife has made great progress in her relationship with you.