Prescription medication side effects…?

[ninetynine]

Over the last year I’ve been undergoing treatment for a moderate heart condition which is now fixed thanks to a few surgeries. I’ve been on anti-arrhythmia medication for over a year now, and my doctor called yesterday to say he wants to change my prescription to a different one.

I called my wife - who works in a hospital - to tell her the news. When she came home she said she’d told the nurses she works with my news, and, while they agreed coming off my current medication was a good thing, they said the new drug was known to cause problems “down there”, apparently complete with a waggling little finger gesture.

After checking it out online (thanks Dr. Google!) it seems the nurses were right - one of the side effects is erectile dysfunction. Someone on a forum described it as “trying to pump up a bicycle tire that’s got a puncture”.

The thing is, the thought of it kind of turns me on. I get that the reality might be quite different, but the mere thought that I won’t be able to get it up for my wife makes me (currently) hard. I’ve long told Louise that I don’t expect us fooling around to always end with me cumming - in fact, I’ve told her that I like it when she makes me work for it, and tells me “no” anyway. However, she rarely send me away horny, so maybe taking the decision out of our hands would be another step down this road.

There’s also another (admittedly, vanishingly unlikely) scenario where if I can’t take care of her needs, she’d eventually seek the comfort of another. As I’ve said in other threads, the thought of her in a long term relationship is hotter to me than her having a night stand, and, far-fetched as it is, any problems with me might nudge things along.

What do you guys (and girls) think? Am I crazy? Is anybody in the same situation? How did that work out for you both? I’d really like to hear someone else’s perspective on this…

 

[ninetynine]

Just me then. Cool.

 

[scotchpie]

Thank God that problem doesn't affect the tongue

 

[Nazareth]

I must've missed your original post.
I take several medicines specifically for, or related to, heart disease. I can't recall if any of them specifically can cause ED as a side effect; I don't think any of them do, but I just can't say for sure.
I have some ED; I can still get hard, but it may last for only 10 minutes or so. Other times can be much longer, but it still seems more difficult to maintain a strong erection over a sustained period of time. FWIW, manual and mental stimulation definitely help (at least in my case).
If you find it exciting and satisfying to risk complete impotency, that's a whole 'nother story, and would have some effect on choosing to switch the new medicine.
Beyond that, I can't say much without knowing what that med is ,why the doctor wants you to switch to it, are there any other options, and so forth.
Speaking of options, I don't know if Viagra and similar meds would be a possibility for you. My doctor won't prescribe it for me, mostly because I also take nitro. Even though I only use it for chest pain (which is very infrequent-knock wood!), it's like an automatic rejection.

It's going to come down to what it is you are 'looking for'. If you want to 'play' a cuckold role and fantasize about being rejected, or your wife fucking someone else, with or without your knowledge, the new medicine may be your smokescreen, so to speak.
Do you have any interest in giving/receiving oral or manual stimulation? Using toys and/or a strap on (or you both)?
What would/does your wife think about the same things?

Whatever you ultimately decide, best of luck to you!
If you have any other questions or comments you don't want to share in this thread, please feel free to PM.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Over the last year I’ve been undergoing treatment for a moderate heart condition which is now fixed thanks to a few surgeries.

Congratulations.

I’ve been on anti-arrhythmia medication for over a year now, and my doctor called yesterday to say he wants to change my prescription to a different one. .......... What do you guys (and girls) think?

Tell your doctor that you've been doing well on your existing anti-arrhythmia medication; it has't been causing complications (if that's true). Tell him that if he wants to switch you to a different anti-arrhythmia medication, you would like it to be one that does not cause E.D. (that being an undesirable complication).

It's OK to ask your doctor questions and ask him to explain things to you. It's your body, after all. Ask him, for instance, why he wants to switch you to a different medication that causes E.D.

 

[Custer Laststand]

ninetynime — regarding the following:

Over the last year I’ve been undergoing treatment for a moderate heart condition which is now fixed thanks to a few surgeries. I’ve been on anti-arrhythmia medication for over a year now, and my doctor called yesterday to say he wants to change my prescription to a different one. I called my wife - who works in a hospital - to tell her the news. When she came home she said she’d told the nurses she works with my news, and, while they agreed coming off my current medication was a good thing, they said the new drug was known to cause problems “down there”, apparently complete with a waggling little finger gesture. After checking it out online (thanks Dr. Google!) it seems the nurses were right - one of the side effects is erectile dysfunction. Someone on a forum described it as “trying to pump up a bicycle tire that’s got a puncture”.

If your doctor became acquainted with your wife during your heart surgeries, as seems likely, and if your wife is reasonably attractive (or perhaps very attractive), you might consider the possibility that your doctor wants to seduce and fuck your wife, and putting you on an anti-arrhythmia medication that causes E..D. would help him achieve that goal.

 

[ninetynine]

I must've missed your original post.

Thanks for your considered and well thought out reply, @Nazareth

I take several medicines specifically for, or related to, heart disease. I can't recall if any of them specifically can cause ED as a side effect; I don't think any of them do, but I just can't say for sure.

I think the thing that’s exciting for me is that the doctor didn’t mention it (probably for the reasons you mention, it’s uncommon or unlikely), but her workmates did. I think I’m enjoying the humiliation of her colleagues thinking I might be unable to get it up.

I have some ED; I can still get hard, but it may last for only 10 minutes or so. Other times can be much longer, but it still seems more difficult to maintain a strong erection over a sustained period of time. FWIW, manual and mental stimulation definitely help (at least in my case)

I’m glad you’re able to overcome your issues

If you find it exciting and satisfying to risk complete impotency, that's a whole 'nother story, and would have some effect on choosing to switch the new medicine.

I’m not sure I’d actually want to be impotent, but the idea of it is perversely appealing. Frustration and denial is a bit turn on for me, and what could be more frustrating than being unable to rise to the occasion, even when I want to?

It's going to come down to what it is you are 'looking for'. If you want to 'play' a cuckold role and fantasize about being rejected, or your wife fucking someone else, with or without your knowledge, the new medicine may be your smokescreen, so to speak.

Again, it’s a concept that turns me on, but I know it’s unlikely in reality

Do you have any interest in giving/receiving oral or manual stimulation? Using toys and/or a strap on (or you both)?
What would/does your wife think about the same things?

Luckily for both of us, I enjoy giving oral and using toys, even without reciprocation (probably going back to the frustration and denial thing).

I’ve not shared my thoughts with my wife. Probably because I haven’t fully formed them myself. I know there are ways and means around most problems, and I’ll try and explain what I find so exciting about the possibility when I’m sure of it myself. I think it’s the link to denial - either by choice or circumstance - that is the draw here.

 

[ninetynine]

Congratulations.

Thank you, @Custer Laststand

Tell your doctor that you've been doing well on your existing anti-arrhythmia medication; it has't been causing complications (if that's true). Tell him that if he wants to switch you to a different anti-arrhythmia medication, you would like it to be one that does not cause E.D. (that being an undesirable complication).

It's OK to ask your doctor questions and ask him to explain things to you. It's your body, after all. Ask him, for instance, why he wants to switch you to a different medication that causes E.D.

As I mention in my reply above, the doctor didn’t mention it, Louise’s colleagues did. It’s the thought they think / know I might struggle in bed that’s exciting. I don’t think my doctor sees it as a risk.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Thank you, @Custer Laststand

You're welcome.

As I mention in my reply above, the doctor didn’t mention it, Louise’s colleagues did.

Nurses are knowledgeable.

It’s the thought they think / know I might struggle in bed that’s exciting. ..........

Hey — if that's what you want, it's up to you. Maybe you should limber up your tongue as an alternative sexual instrument.

 

[ninetynine]

So I’ve been on the new medication for nearly two weeks (the cardiologist and my doctor took a while to get themselves organised). The first week I was on a half dose and not much happened. The last few days I’ve been on a full dose and I think I’ve noticed it’s starting to have an effect. My erections don’t feel as full as before, and it seems harder to maintain. Like I quoted in my original post:

Someone on a forum described it as “trying to pump up a bicycle tire that’s got a puncture”.

So now I might have to have the discussion with Louise about how this affects us. I’m not sure it will cause intimacy issues - for us I’d say around 1/3 of our sex life is penetrative sex, with the remainder being oral an mutual masturbation, so the impact might be mess than for a couple who’s 100% penetrative - but it will certainly change things. As I said in my first post, part of me is excited that I’ll be denying myself. I’m not sure the rest of me is worried, but I’m interested to see where things go from here.

One thing that appeals as an idea - although I’m sure Louise won’t go for it - is verbal humiliation, and denial because I can’t sustain an erection. Maybe that’s a thing for the future, rather than opening with “hey, babe, look at this. It won’t get hard, I’d really like to you make fun of me for it”.

I’ll keep giving updates to see how things change. For now a quick before and after - last summer, and earlier today. You can see the difference…

 

[Laceyfemme]

You might consider trying Viagra or Cialis if the condition progresses, just to know what your options are. Your doctor can tell you if it would conflict with your other meds.

But honestly, it looks to me as if you may be worrying a bit too much if things don't progress any further. You and your wife will have a better idea of how you really feel about it if/when they do. How about buying her a nice, realistic dildo or vibrator as an admission of your inadequacy?

 

[Nazareth]

One thing that appeals as an idea - although I’m sure Louise won’t go for it - is verbal humiliation, and denial because I can’t sustain an erection. Maybe that’s a thing for the future, rather than opening with “hey, babe, look at this. It won’t get hard, I’d really like to you make fun of me for it”.

When you feel the timing is right, "suggest' to her that you think it would help you get/maintain a hard on if she would do that for you.
That would be a way to crack the ice, so to speak, without it being a big shock.

 

[ninetynine]

Been on the meds for a few months now, and it feels like I’m finding it harder to maintain an erection now. I’m still intimate with Louise, and she claimed not to have noticed when I brought it up, but it very much feels, as I posted earlier, that I’m trying to pump up a bicycle tyre with a hole in it.

The weird thing is, though, I’m finding it quite a turn on that I can get hard as easily. I’m not sure if impotency fetish is a thing, but it looks like I might have it…
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[Gliderider]

I had to deal with something similar for awhile. I had a bout with colon cancer 5 years ago. While I was undergoing treatment we were told no sex, period. I was toxic and could transfer the chemo to her even with a condom. I jacked off a lot. I'm on my second bout, this time with myeloma though it's only monitoring for now as it's early. The wife is the one having health issues precluding sex though she has been feeling better lately. It's going to have to get hard enough to masturbate at the very least or I'd have to go another route myself.

BTW my wife would LOVE some of that cock. She loves an uncut model.