Hi, I was curious to see if anyone else on here is facing the same issues as myself when trying to discuss this lifestyle with my wife. We have actually had some experiences in the past. My wife enjoyed them very much but I ruined it, which is another post all on it's own. From that moment on my wife swore to have a traditional marriage from then on out. My desire for the lifestyle has finally come up in discussion again though. My wife has become more religious since the first experience and she always brings up our vows and morality issues when the subject. What frustrates me the most is the fact that she says that she knows that she would enjoy being with a black man but will not for those reasons. My response is always the same. Our wedding vows we're to always love one another and to be there for each other. I do not believe it would be against our vows to share in an experience that would bring us closer together as well as bring us both happiness. My whole point is that it is not breaking our vows to share something like this together. Has anyone else experienced the same thing?