Time to prioritize, and consider potential alternatives...
Babyruthiezhubby,
babyruthiezhubby said:
It sucks because we don't make enough between my job and the website to survive. Just when she starts getting ahead at her job, she's ratted out and fired.
If corporate hq is looking into it, as you say, a good decision (IMO) would be to take down Ms. Ruthie's website immediately, if you haven't already done so. Corporate higher-ups are familiar with problems being caused by employee conflicts and employees who view each other as enemies trying to get each other fired. If your wife's website vanishes and there's no evidence of it, they might write off the complaint as employee jealousy — especially if Ms. Ruthie is doing a good job.
A rule of thumb is: people, including employers, will tend to be tolerant of your sexual behavior as long as you don't rub their noses in it. Having a public web site that shows Ms. Ruthie engaged in all kinds of sexual behavior, which also shows her face so she's easily identifiable at her job (which involves working with the public, I gather), would be construed by almost any employer as "rubbing their noses in it."
So, you might consider prioritizing your 3 sources of support: your job, Ms. Ruthie's job, and her website. If Ms. Ruthie's job pays a lot more than her website, I suggest taking her website down immediately in the interest of retaining her job... then, sometime later, figure out a way to set up an alternative website on which she can't be identified. At the risk of enraging you, I'll point out that if Ms. Elise Sutton can do it Ms. Ruthie can too.
A website concept, for example, might involve themes with Ms. Ruthie always wearing stylish and erotic-looking masks and costumes and with male participants doing likewise. Other women could also be involved, similarly always wearing erotic masks and costumes. (Since participants would be guaranteed anonymity they would be fairly easy to recruit, I would guess.) A theme could be something like: "Are the women you work with and your neighbor's wives secretly cuckolding their husbands, and are their husbands secretly encouraging them, without YOUR knowledge? Are some of YOUR coworkers and neighbors among those enjoying the pleasures of steamy sex on this website? Think about it and masturbate..."
Or something along those lines. The outcome could be BOTH long-term employment for Ms. Ruthie (in whatever job she gets next, if not in her current job), AND an erotic website that's interesting and somewhat out of the ordinary.
—Custer
*I don't recommend initiating a lawsuit. Attorneys and court costs are incredibly expensive; the whole thing would also be incredibly time-consuming; Ms. Ruthie's employer has much deeper pockets than the two of you; and there's no guarantee Ms. Ruthie would win.