JimmyHCO said:
Well, first of all, a cuckold relationship is not what many people on this forum imagine it to be.
There are all kinds of "cuckold-husband / unfaithful wife" marriages. All of them satisfy the dictionary definition of a cuckold, which is short, simple, and very broad. As a reminder, here it is:
cuckold — a man with an unfaithful wife.
That's what might be viewed as the cake. The particulars of how any given married-woman-who-fucks-other-men relates to her cuckold are what might be called the icing and decorations on the cake.
JimmyHCO said:
Not many women have this fetish that us cuckolded husbands do.
It's safe to say the range of sexual preferences and fetishes among women is every bit as broad as among men.
JimmyHCO said:
My wife wasn't having sex with me very often even before she started openly cuckolding me. Now, she is absolutely not interested in doing anything sexual with me. She kind of told me it [would] make her feel like she's cheating on her boyfriend.
If your wife is open about her cuckolding of you, that's a plus.
There are lots of men who don't like the idea of "their" woman fucking other men. That includes some (not all) of the men who fuck married women. Your wife may be responding to a request from her lover to deny you and be faithful to him. Alternatively, your wife may be a one-man woman and feel strongly she should fuck only one lover at a time.
JimmyHCO said:
Like I explained earlier, we still have a great relationship, we do everything together, she does not have anything besides straight up sex with her current bull. No drama whatsoever. But she is not interested in doing anything sexual with me. I just don't turn her on, and I can't blame her for it. We are on far different levels.
You don't seem particularly bothered or upset by your wife's sexual denial of you. If that's the case, it would seem you and she have a functional "cuckold husband / hotwife" form of marriage.
JimmyHCO said:
I've gained a lot of weight, have a below average cock, run out of breath way too quick. She is 15 years older than me but even that is not enough to offset my shortcomings.
It's entirely appropriate and increasingly common for an older woman to marry a younger man. Often, I speculate, the older woman hopes to gain a husband who's more strongly-sexual, not to mention better-looking, than a man her own age. This trend is increasingly-feasible because most women now work, many have adequate incomes of their own, and... increasingly... many married women earn more than their husbands.
In your case, it's obvious you... although younger... have a much lower sex drive than your wife. That's OK; there's nothing abnormal about that. Your wife chose you anyway. Many marriages are like that — sex drive varies among individuals just like all other human characteristics (athletic ability, for instance). Your wife may, in fact, have chosen you for that reason because she wanted a stable and loving husband at home who, she sensed, wouldn't object... at least, not strongly... to her attaining sexual satisfaction by dating, seducing and fucking other men. Obviously, she finds her lovers sexually-attractive... but I would guess she realizes, simultaneously, that from her point of view they aren't suitable husband material.
It also sounds like you have a low self-image, possibly caused... in part or in whole... by your inability to satisfy your wife sexually, and it's reflected in your failure to take care of yourself and hold your weight down. That's dangerous. There's a good chance it could lead you to an early death. It's also unjustified. There's no reason for you to feel bad about yourself merely because your wife has a much stronger sex drive.
JimmyHCO said:
She's a hot ass with big tits, she can easily get as much cock as she wants.
Good for your wife; she should be proud of herself. She should go for it, and it sounds like she does. And, you should be proud of yourself that such a beautiful, sensuous and strongly-sexual woman chose* you to be her husband.
*Most married men probably view themselves as having chosen their wives. A more realistic view, IMO, is that married women typically choose their husbands but do it in such a way that their husbands think they made the choice.
JimmyHCO said:
The other chick, she is far more of a match for me in sex appeal (or lack thereof). She's pretty big and fat, and rarely gets picked up in bars despite being very easy and willing. She's not pressuring me for a relationship or anything, it's just that neither she nor I have gotten laid in a while so we've been texting each other horny things. Basically, if I make a move she will let me fuck her. But, I feel it would be completely wrong for me to cheat on my wife. If my wife finds out, our relationship will be over.
Your strong desire to remain faithful to your wife and your fear of the consequences if you stray are entirely proper and appropriate for a cuckold husband with a dominant wife. As justification for viewing your wife as your boss-wife and responding to her accordingly, you might read the following short article:
Study: Women Are in Charge at Home | LiveScience
Your last two sentences suggest that you have answered your own question that you wrote to this forum about.
If so, that suggests you will be best off to write to your willing woman friend and tactfully tell her that unfortunately, although you like her, you must terminate your relationship with her because your wife requires you to remain faithful. (Your friend would be more likely to understand that, IMO, than a statement that "you want to" remain faithful to your wife.)
Or, call your friend and say that... but, writing would avoid leaving electronic footprints on your cell phone and would avoid the possibly-awkward situation of her sweetly and perhaps seductively trying to talk you out of it (at least until she has read your entire letter).
