mike said:
at one time i thought she was ready.we where watching an episode of nip tuck that white wives were having sex with black studs wile ther husband watched.she asked if that was what i wanted ofcoarse i answerd yes.she teaed me about it flirted with the idea but that was it.she showed me no other interst.
It can take a few years for the seed you have planted in her mind to sprout into reality, and it depends on what men are available for her to feel comfortable with.
She has to be convinced her marriage won't fall over, and you won't sneak off and fuck other women. If she were to date other men, she could fall in love with them, and you might find your jealousy hard to control.
If you convince her to share her pussy with other men, then you must take over a lot of the housework to let her freshen up to have the energy for dating, and you can't put curfews on her because she has to grow relationships with other guys - one night stands are fraught with difficulties and a risk to her personal safety.
You would also need to upgrade her clothes, so she can "feel and look her best" for dating.
Strengthen your marriage first, and then let your wife know that you wish to remain loyal and monogamous, and her dating other men is your gift to her for being a wonderful wife over many years. She will find the extra attention of other men quite exciting as her social life will improve dramatically.
If she is suspicious of your motives, or feels unattractive, she won't let herself adopt the lifestyle you wish her to get involved with.