Its very admirable when a hotwife is willing to hold back on her own pleasure to not risk losing what she has with her husband.
In my experience, jealousy will always be there and its part of the spice for him. For me, I think you just need to sit down and explain to him your concerns, and...
so sorry for the long break.just a short story.
we were in bed and I asked for anal. she went urgh why do you like anal so much.
i told her it was because its the only thing about her i got compared to the other guys shes been with.
she gave her first guy "I" her mouth and virginity at 13...
My wife was ok with being with other women sexually before we met. She even had a 3some for her exbf and her friend. Even had some flings with girls in school and university.