Hi Ms. Lexxi,
Good to see you back. I suspected your master-plan to fuck your black colleague had not yet come to fruition for some reason or other, and I now see that's the case.
lexxi said:
Just an update...my co-worker, without my prior knowledge, is spending this week out of town. It looks like it will be next Monday now.
Many guys are like that. They just go do things, without telling the women (and/or men) around them where they're off to nor, often, when they'll be back. Perhaps you should go easy on him and not berate him too severely, since he had no reason to suspect (I gather) this past week would be when you would want to put your plan into action.
lexxi said:
On the homefront... my husband and I have grown together SO much in the last few days. As for him, he is now living the dream of having me know about his foot fetish...
Excellent! At last you've begun communicating about things that matter in your relationship. I see your cuckold-in-waiting's female foot-fetish as having large potential for becoming an important aspect of your marriage. Have you requested he bow before you and kiss your feet before you leave for work each morning (or before he leaves, if he leaves earlier), and when you come home each evening...? That ritual seems to me an important aspect of reminding him each day of his new status and role in your marriage while, in addition, keeping him happy and satisfied with your daily attentions to his fetish.
lexxi said:
...and ridding himself of the "responsibility" of keeping his wife sexually happy.
I would think so, definitely. The vast majority of us men feel severely oppressed by this gawd-awful responsibility to our wives. (Joke... laugh here.)
lexxi said:
What I've pretty much found out about him is that yes, he is submissive, but only in certain areas (at least for now LOL). This foot thing seems to make him crave a certain kind of dominance from me, and he admits that "knowing" I'm having sex with and being satisfied by another man really turns him on. As far as watching, creampie eating, servicing my "bull" or things of that nature...at this point in time, that is a definite no-no.
It's essential and good that you seem to have determined, to a large extent, your husband's boundaries... but I caution you against assuming they're inflexible. Remember the "plastic" nature of the brain and the well-established phenomenon that it actually re-wires itself (establishes, in effect, new "circuits and connections") by way of learning and adapting to new activities and behaviors. I'm suggesting, in other words, your cuckold-in-waiting is most-likely trainable. See, for instance:
Doidge, Norman, M.D., 2007. The Brain That Changes Itself, 427 pp. (softcover); and
Medina, John, 2008. Brain Rules, 299 pp. (hardcover).
lexxi said:
As for me, I am SOOO horny waiting an extra week!!! Like I said, getting to experience a black guy has always been my main objective, so I have no problem with my cuckold-in-waiting's limits.
Cool! BTW, another way in which you could satisfy yourself sexually, while maintaining continued denial of your cuckold-in-waiting regarding penetrative intercourse, would be to "queen" him from time to time. This would provide him with an additional route to sexual satisfaction in a psychological sense from knowing he is satisfying YOU although, seemingly, not himself. See, for instance:
http://femalesupremacist.org/subject_queening.html
and:
Queening Furniture:
http://www.queensandkings.biz/queensandkingswebsite/HTML_files/queening.htm
Monday is approaching... have you notified your lover-in-waiting; say, via e-mail, that you would like to meet with him for a "reconsideration conversation," so you won't be hitting him cold...?
—Custer