Only got to talk to the wife, so far anyway. She said it was not really intentional. We have had very little time off together, she has been dealing with stress at work and due to the holidays. She said sometimes when she wanted sex with me in the evening, I was sleeping and she let me sleep. We have finally had sex again both after she was with him and not. They went out again on Friday and i found 2 used panties on the floor Saturday morning. Wife did say she wishes I did not find our friend hot but understands why I do.