Effects of hotwifeing and cuckoldry are real and have a lasting impact on each partners life. I find that often people approach this as if it is just a game of cards, the cards are dealt and played, someone wins someone loses but when the hand is over the game is done. They start another, or settle back and call it quits.
Unfortunately this is not a game of cards though there will be winners and losers and someday the game end, either by choice, age or physical concerns. Peoples lives will be changed, sometimes for the positive bliss of knowing you have grown in your relationship with your mate, found and lived your fantasies. Others lives will change not so much for the good but could even be destroyed. Homes will be broken, depression will set in, HIV or other disease will destroy lives.
Let us look at physical changes first. The male may find himself becoming more of a introvert, he may either began trying to compete with the dates or boy friends by going to the gym, dressing in costlier clothes, doing his hair all in a effort to try and keep his wife attracted to him. The flip side of that is he might let himself go and look more like a bum, eat to much and get fat and out of shape.
She on the other hand will do all in her power to attract men, dress sexy and hot. She will most likely want to spend more money on clothes that will appeal to her conquests. For a while this is great but over time as they get older something else happens for almost all of them. They think they are looking sexy and hot but to the average observer and even her husband if he opens his eyes to look. She looks older and more used, her appearance takes on that of a old lady trying to look young. She will put on those revealing clothes and look more like a street walker, dying her hair, to much make up to cover up the age marks and bags under her eyes. Her virginal will stretch and she won’t lubricate as much on her own. Often they begin to drink too much or become drug addicts from so many parties or the men they date. She too will change in her actions toward her mate, she will stop really talking to him but do more talking at him, and she gets so wrapped up in her game or fantasia that often the husband is forgotten about altogether.
Now I do not mean to apply that this happens in ever case, just more often then not. If a couple can live by rules set and keep this lifestyle as secondary and not lose sight of the real life they share they will both know when to stop. When that is the case they have great memories, pictures and stories to tell each other. They relive them over and over again, enjoying them as if they were yesterday. A interesting point to note is that more often then not each time the wife retells and encounter she had some new detail will slip out, things that were held back before.
There is the physiological side of all this too. For the women once she starts it gets harder to stop, with each conquest there is the challenge for one more. Often they become more dominating as they take more control over their own body and life. It has been said often that every time a woman has sex with a man she gives a part of her self up. I find this to bear out as more fact then fiction, and to those who date, do not do the same man more then once or twice they give up less. In fact they reach a place where they are as cold about it as cops become dealing with crime. In cases where they have a regular boy friend it becomes very hard for them for they find their selves being pulled between men, two needs, and two personalities. A great book says no one can serve two masters for they will love one and hate the other. This is very true and the emotional toll is very hard to bear. They are pulled between lust, physical desire and yet a want to keep the husband happy.
Often they will begin not wanting to have relations with the husband any more, because of this mental tug of war. Husbands will more often lose out before the lover will. They know that the husband encouraged them, in the mind, he made his bed let him lay in, and that is the common defense. He pushed me into this so now I am too tired, or Billy Bob doesn’t like to share me, etc. There is no legal commitment to the boy friend so he can dump her and no woman wants to be dumped and suffer the emotional feeling of inadequacies that brings. The husband is connected by law, will not want the world to know what a pervert he is, he will not want to lose face on the job or with family. He does not want his kids to know what he pushed his wife into doing, so he settles and she knows in the end he will. Yet she will go through times she is on top of the mountain others she will sink in such depression you wonder if she will cut her wrists. Her life becomes a tangled web, trying to be the good wife, and good lover, pulled at by kids, and family, friends and often even becomes in tangled with the families of her lover.
The husband feels at first a sexual delight beyond compare. He loves seeing the hickies and the smell of his wife stinky sweaty cunt after she has been out fucking. He languishes the ideal other men are seeing his wife naked, finding every hidden part of her body, some sick something in him enjoys every moment of it. He thinks of it at work and gets hard thinking about some other guy fucking her and he can’t wait till she does it again. He wants details but not so many that make him feel less then best of the two. So long as it stays at this stage, his sexual prevision can’t be satisfied. Yet when the time comes she starts dressing up better and better for her boy friends, starts hiding the phone calls, coming in not wanting to tell about it, not showing him the glory hickies or letting him fuck her, then anger and jealousy move in. Bitterness in the heart is a killer of love and a feeder for hate. He soon forgets this was his ideal and he justifies his anger as it wasn’t supposed to go this far. She may ask him to take part, but not for his enjoyment but hers, she will begin to enjoy her husband being humiliated. The being in love is replaced with scoffing and distaste for her mate that she won’t even admit to herself. She has lost all respect for the man he was and now see’s him as the clown he has become.
Tension builds and the emotions of both cause them to drift farther and farther apart, they are two people living in the same house but might as well be single except for the false picture they paint for the real world. Both in time will become to despise each other though outwardly they refuse to admit it to even themselves.
Now there may well be some who never experience this because they live with in a set of rules, because they have found times to take a vacation from this life style or they just were so much in love that love controlled the game. Yet I assure you most will end up facing the hurtles stated above.
Much more could be written, but I choose to let the rest of you build on this issue. Keep in mind that many of the posters will tell you they love what has happened. Most of them are just out and out lying when they say that, or just have lost so much self esteem they can’t face the truth for what it is. No straight man is going to want to dress in woman’s clothes, or suck cock or get fucked by one. If they now find they have learned to enjoy it, it is mostly like the only way their minds were able to accept the loss of being in control and have taken the wimp, bi, way in order not to lose their wife all together.
This life will bring about change, from the very first time, that I can assure you is very true. How much change, what kind of change you can control if both of you are willing
Unfortunately this is not a game of cards though there will be winners and losers and someday the game end, either by choice, age or physical concerns. Peoples lives will be changed, sometimes for the positive bliss of knowing you have grown in your relationship with your mate, found and lived your fantasies. Others lives will change not so much for the good but could even be destroyed. Homes will be broken, depression will set in, HIV or other disease will destroy lives.
Let us look at physical changes first. The male may find himself becoming more of a introvert, he may either began trying to compete with the dates or boy friends by going to the gym, dressing in costlier clothes, doing his hair all in a effort to try and keep his wife attracted to him. The flip side of that is he might let himself go and look more like a bum, eat to much and get fat and out of shape.
She on the other hand will do all in her power to attract men, dress sexy and hot. She will most likely want to spend more money on clothes that will appeal to her conquests. For a while this is great but over time as they get older something else happens for almost all of them. They think they are looking sexy and hot but to the average observer and even her husband if he opens his eyes to look. She looks older and more used, her appearance takes on that of a old lady trying to look young. She will put on those revealing clothes and look more like a street walker, dying her hair, to much make up to cover up the age marks and bags under her eyes. Her virginal will stretch and she won’t lubricate as much on her own. Often they begin to drink too much or become drug addicts from so many parties or the men they date. She too will change in her actions toward her mate, she will stop really talking to him but do more talking at him, and she gets so wrapped up in her game or fantasia that often the husband is forgotten about altogether.
Now I do not mean to apply that this happens in ever case, just more often then not. If a couple can live by rules set and keep this lifestyle as secondary and not lose sight of the real life they share they will both know when to stop. When that is the case they have great memories, pictures and stories to tell each other. They relive them over and over again, enjoying them as if they were yesterday. A interesting point to note is that more often then not each time the wife retells and encounter she had some new detail will slip out, things that were held back before.
There is the physiological side of all this too. For the women once she starts it gets harder to stop, with each conquest there is the challenge for one more. Often they become more dominating as they take more control over their own body and life. It has been said often that every time a woman has sex with a man she gives a part of her self up. I find this to bear out as more fact then fiction, and to those who date, do not do the same man more then once or twice they give up less. In fact they reach a place where they are as cold about it as cops become dealing with crime. In cases where they have a regular boy friend it becomes very hard for them for they find their selves being pulled between men, two needs, and two personalities. A great book says no one can serve two masters for they will love one and hate the other. This is very true and the emotional toll is very hard to bear. They are pulled between lust, physical desire and yet a want to keep the husband happy.
Often they will begin not wanting to have relations with the husband any more, because of this mental tug of war. Husbands will more often lose out before the lover will. They know that the husband encouraged them, in the mind, he made his bed let him lay in, and that is the common defense. He pushed me into this so now I am too tired, or Billy Bob doesn’t like to share me, etc. There is no legal commitment to the boy friend so he can dump her and no woman wants to be dumped and suffer the emotional feeling of inadequacies that brings. The husband is connected by law, will not want the world to know what a pervert he is, he will not want to lose face on the job or with family. He does not want his kids to know what he pushed his wife into doing, so he settles and she knows in the end he will. Yet she will go through times she is on top of the mountain others she will sink in such depression you wonder if she will cut her wrists. Her life becomes a tangled web, trying to be the good wife, and good lover, pulled at by kids, and family, friends and often even becomes in tangled with the families of her lover.
The husband feels at first a sexual delight beyond compare. He loves seeing the hickies and the smell of his wife stinky sweaty cunt after she has been out fucking. He languishes the ideal other men are seeing his wife naked, finding every hidden part of her body, some sick something in him enjoys every moment of it. He thinks of it at work and gets hard thinking about some other guy fucking her and he can’t wait till she does it again. He wants details but not so many that make him feel less then best of the two. So long as it stays at this stage, his sexual prevision can’t be satisfied. Yet when the time comes she starts dressing up better and better for her boy friends, starts hiding the phone calls, coming in not wanting to tell about it, not showing him the glory hickies or letting him fuck her, then anger and jealousy move in. Bitterness in the heart is a killer of love and a feeder for hate. He soon forgets this was his ideal and he justifies his anger as it wasn’t supposed to go this far. She may ask him to take part, but not for his enjoyment but hers, she will begin to enjoy her husband being humiliated. The being in love is replaced with scoffing and distaste for her mate that she won’t even admit to herself. She has lost all respect for the man he was and now see’s him as the clown he has become.
Tension builds and the emotions of both cause them to drift farther and farther apart, they are two people living in the same house but might as well be single except for the false picture they paint for the real world. Both in time will become to despise each other though outwardly they refuse to admit it to even themselves.
Now there may well be some who never experience this because they live with in a set of rules, because they have found times to take a vacation from this life style or they just were so much in love that love controlled the game. Yet I assure you most will end up facing the hurtles stated above.
Much more could be written, but I choose to let the rest of you build on this issue. Keep in mind that many of the posters will tell you they love what has happened. Most of them are just out and out lying when they say that, or just have lost so much self esteem they can’t face the truth for what it is. No straight man is going to want to dress in woman’s clothes, or suck cock or get fucked by one. If they now find they have learned to enjoy it, it is mostly like the only way their minds were able to accept the loss of being in control and have taken the wimp, bi, way in order not to lose their wife all together.
This life will bring about change, from the very first time, that I can assure you is very true. How much change, what kind of change you can control if both of you are willing
