sissymaidcherie said:
My wife is now making no attempt to hide the fact when she has been fucking Tom. The laundry basket often contains new panties and thongs which are cum soaked. I would like her to catch me wearing them and give me a spanking over her knee.
There's nothing wrong with that desire, and it's positive that your wife is becoming open about fucking her lover.
But, my impression is, women usually don't like their husbands wearing their panties. Thus, I suggest telling your wife you would like to begin wearing feminine panties.... pink and other feminine colors.... to remind you, every day, of your status in her marriage. Then, ask her if she would be willing, please, to accompany you to a women's lingerie store to help you select several pairs that appeal to her. Then, as time passes and your wife assists you with buying enough panties to wear every day of the week, I suggest throwing out the boxers, or tightie-whities, or whatever you normally wear, until there are are none left and your underwear drawer is filled entirely with feminine panties.
You can view this as your initial step toward becoming your wife's sissymaid.
If your wife accepts that it's appropriate for you to wear feminine panties (it seems likely she will), I suggest introducing her to the idea of spanking you over her knees, you with your pants and panties down (or with you in the nude), with a wooden paddle, once a week.... say, each Sunday.... as punishment for the inadequate quality of your housework during the preceding week. And, I suggest letting your wife know you want to begin doing the housework (if you aren't already), so she will have adequate time and energy to meet and spend time with her lover. Let her know you have long wanted, secretly, to be a spanked husband. So, if... in her judgment... the quality of your housework during the preceding week has been excellent (it will probably take you a while to become accomplished at doing the housework), tell you would appreciate it if, even so, she would give you an over-her-knees (OTK), pants-and-panties-down (or, you in the nude), "maintenance spanking" each Sunday, with her wooden paddle, perhaps less severe than the punishment spanking she would otherwise give you for doing a bad or marginal job on the housework.
You can view this as a second step toward becoming your wife's sissymaid.
If the idea of a woman spanking her husband seems foreign and your wife has a hard time getting her head around it, the two of you can find articles and forums on this subject by entering "women who spank their husbands" (or words to that effect) in your preferred search engine.