Now that you mention it...
Babyruthiezhubby,
babyruthiezhubby said:
I'm just a regular refrigeration service tech...
Nothing wrong with that. Being able to diagnose problems you don't know the cause of a priori, then knowing how to disassemble the refrigeration unit of interest (they come in many different types and sizes, obviously), then knowing how to carryout the repair and reassemble it, then... finally... knowing how to test it to verify it's working properly, definitely takes intelligence. You could reason that if the supposedly-intellectual people whose refrigerators and freezers you keep running are so smart, why don't they carry out the repairs themselves...?*
babyruthiezhubby said:
...that loves to watch his wife getting fucked so I'm just curious.
Recognizing that your wife is an individual in her own right who is highly sexual, and is not one of your possessions (like your refrigerator or your TV, for instance), but rather is the owner of her own pussy and has full rights to her own sexuality independent of you, and that she loves you and is fully capable of maintaining her relationship with you independent of her pursuit of sexual satisfaction with other men, takes a fairly high level of confidence in yourself as a man, emotional maturity, stability, and intellectual capability. In the realm of successfully keeping a marriage with an attractive and desirable woman together, all of these things combined constitute a high level of "relationship intelligence."
Perhaps you're aware... if you aren't, you should be... that intelligence is defined in many different ways. In a broad sense, it can be thought of as an ability to live and function successfully in one's environment and social milleau. With regards to paper-and-pencil "IQ tests," as they're called: my impression is, there's little or no correlation between people's "IQ's" and their success later in life, in their chosen areas of endeavor, once they're out of the public school system. (I haven't looked up that factoid, so I may be wrong about this... I vaguely seem to recall seeing or reading it somewhere. I may also be biased, because I have a fairly low opinion of "IQ tests" as measurements of anything useful.)
babyruthiezhubby said:
Some here, although intelligent and well read on the subject, seem to give advice to newbies that is destructive to a marriage.
It's hard to avoid the impression that what you're defining as "destructive advice" is advice that doesn't match your own ways of thinking about women, men and what their relationships should be like. Posts 6 and 7 in this thread are a good example of that, transposed totally and completely to the realm of politics with only two simple words: "Bush" and "Obama."
Also, please note that when you say "newbies," you're referring to men and/or women who have come to realize the established social norms that are supposed to guarantee blissful happiness in perpetuity, which they've been living in accordance with, are not working for them. They're searching for ways to re-introduce sexual intensity into their relationships in ways that are not in accordance with "traditional social norms," nor in accordance, necessarily, with what particular sub-group members of this forum think relationships should be like. By posting here, they can and do obtain fairly broad ranges of replies that represent different opinions and possibilities, and that's what they're looking for. They needn't take any one person's advice... they can pick and choose and decide what replies and comments (if any) are a-pro-po to their own relationships.
That is a form of intelligence. In many cases, it's a fairly sophisticated form of intelligence.
—Custer
*Speaking of which, I have a problem with my own refrigerator. It isn't too serious, so I probably won't offer to pay your airfare to come to my place and diagnose and repair it, but it's sort of annoying.
